Anyone not want a wedding band?

larrygaga · May 2014

My e-ring is pretty unique, and also didn't come with a wedding band. The thought of adding a band makes my heart hurt, it's so beautiful as it is. The sentimental aspect of a wedding band doesn't matter too much to me. In addition, if FI only gets one ring, why do I get two? That's silly to me. When I get married, I plan on just having FI put my e-ring back on my finger. I want my one ring to do double time and be my wedding ring when the time comes.

Most people I tell IRL is super judgmental about it. Nobody really has a good reason why I should have a wedding band other than wanting one, which I don't. My favorite line (directly quoted from you knotties) is "My marriage is still valid whether I have a wedding band or not".

Someone besides FI needs to reassure me that it's okay and not weird before I throat punch grandma or one of my friends.

smalfrie19 · May 2014

my aunt only has one ring. I asked her about it once, she said they bought the diamond in a different setting and that was her "e-ring" and then upgraded her setting for her wedding band. But if you love your ring, keep it the way it is. I am adding a contour band to mine, but it just makes my ring 10x prettier

wandajune6 · May 2014

My boss doesn't have a wedding band. She just wears her e-ring.

I'm less excited about e-rings so I'll probably stop wearing it when I get my wedding band.

Do what you want.

cupcait927 · May 2014

I've been thinking about not purchasing a wedding band, but that's more because I'm cheap. However, one of my coworkers had decided she did not want a band prior to her wedding last September. Her ring is absolutely gorgeous and can stand on its own. She just didn't see the need to spend additional money on another band when her engagement ring was just fine. Her husband ended up surprising her with a band on their wedding day but that's besides the point. She was very content to not have the wedding band and confident enough in herself and her marriage to not care what people thought. I say if you don't want to wear one, don't wear one. You'll get questions occasionally but at the end of the day, if you're confident in your decision then that's what matters.

buddysmom80 · May 2014

I'm kind of on the fence. My e-ring has a matching band, but I think on it's own, the band would just kind of look "meh". I also want to get a bunch of smaller rings for our anniversaries, kids, whatever so I think it would be too much on my finger since the wedding band is wide as well.

Also I just adore my e-ring on it's own!

JCbride2015 · May 2014

It's totally normal to just have one ring. I actually am looking forward to getting the matching wedding band, so I can wear only the band when I am doing something more active. My e-ring is kind of a high setting and I've already knocked the stone a bit loose once. Plus I think it looks really classy when a woman wears just the wedding band. Like you're all business, no time for this multiple-rings bullshit.

larrygaga · May 2014

Thank you guys for being supportive. Like damn, that's all I wanted.

My fiance was thinking about just getting a cheapish band to wear when I don't want to wear my e-ring (which is never, right now)

I sometimes work in a really dangerous area and have to take it off, it would be nice to have something to wear instead.

emmyg65 · May 2014

I only have one ring. It's my wedding band, not an e-ring, but I love it. Do what makes you happy and, as my grandmother used to say, everyone else can go pound sand.

climbingsingle · May 2014

Do what makes you happy!

I was very much on the fence with this myself. My engagement ring was made by FFIL (for FMIL) back in the 70s. It's a opal surrounded by diamonds. I also felt that having a band made for it would ruin the ring. I love it so much and I want to wear it every day. I finally decided that I'm going to wear my e-ring on my right hand and get a simple band for my ring finger.

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

I actually thought once I got married, I'd only wear my wedding band. I haven't yet, because I love my ering too much not to wear it every day.

Do what makes YOU happy, grandma be damned.

emmaaa · May 2014

A friend of mine only wear her e-ring. She said that band didn't look right with it or do it justice. I think it is your personal choice.

Personally, I want a band because it will enhance my ring and give me something to wear that I won't worry about messing up.

Cookie Pusher · May 2014

The band of my e-ring tapers toward the stone. It was a one-off setting, so there's no matching band. I wasn't sure about getting a wedding band at first, but then I started looking into inexpensive metals so I could have something to wear when I didn't/couldn't wear my e-ring. I ended up picking out a nice sterling silver band that looks okay with my e-ring or on its own for 18 bucks.

lyndausvi · May 2014

I didn't want a wedding band. Still don't really. My DH talked me into one and I normally wear it on my right hand. Right now it's on my left because my e-ring lost a small stone. Once it's fixed it will go back to my right hand.

Now what makes me even more different is out of 8 kids and 24 grandkids I ended up with my grandmother's wedding band from 1930. It's pretty thin. I end up wearing that on my left hand. It mostly fits under the e-ring, people barely notice it.

So in a nut-shell I LOVE my e-ring and grandma's band. Not a fan of my "wedding band" but still wear it on the right hand. DH doesn't care which hand it's on as long as it's a hand.

phira · May 2014

I was the other way around: I wanted a wedding band and no engagement ring.

I think you should do what makes you feel comfortable. If you opt for no wedding band, there are lots of ways to take the ring exchange out of the ceremony to avoid drawing attention to it.

NavyBlue143 · May 2014

I wear my e-ring as a weddinh band. My mom gave me a weird look about it but nobody else cares enough to say anything. It's so stinkin pretty I couldn't bear to stop wearing it, but a band wouldn't have looked good with it at all. Plus I have small hands, two rings seemed a bit much.

Blergbot · May 2014

My e-ring is an art deco family heirloom, so it has no matching band, and a regular band wouldn't fit with it--I'd have to get one custom made. Also, it's platinum. so it would be pretty expensive. My mom wore it for a long time as her wedding ring and didn't wear a band, so that's what I plan on doing. Maybe for our 10 year anniversary we'll look into something, but I'm really content with the way it is.

Kauris · May 2014

I'm not sure what we are going to do yet, but I think it's silly for someone else to worry about what you are doing, grandma or not. I support you!

I looovveee my E-ring and asked specifically for it to be a low set ring (I'm lucky that I got input), so I plan on continuing to wear it no matter what we decide to do about bands. Which I might not get because most people assume it's my wedding ring, maybe since it has two bands.

photokitty · May 2014

I got a plain solid wedding band. I wear it without my ering frequently, like today. I wanted a plain band so when I'm old and in a nursing home and have given my erring to my grandson or whatever, I still have my wedding band. But I say do what makes you happy, it's just jewelry

Kass0511 · May 2014

Wow, this one has gotten a lot of posts already. I only wear my E-ring. When I got married, I felt like that was enough and that a wedding ring would detract from the unique beauty of my E-ring. Growing up I always thought my mother only wore her wedding ring. I had no idea that the norm was to wear two rings. Turns out her E-ring is in the middle of her wedding ring and it looks like one ring because they had it soldered together. Way to confuse your daughter her whole life, mom. That is probably why I choose to not get a wedding ring. But now I want a wedding ring. My opinion has changed since my wedding and I think a wedding ring and more diamonds would be beautiful. Sorry hubby, I want a wedding ring after the ceremony, is it too late?

theartistformerlyknownas · May 2014

larrygaga said:
Thank you guys for being supportive. Like damn, that's all I wanted.

My fiance was thinking about just getting a cheapish band to wear when I don't want to wear my e-ring (which is never, right now)

I sometimes work in a really dangerous area and have to take it off, it would be nice to have something to wear instead.

NO! You take that back! We are not women who support each other! We are cruel, cyber-bullying bitches!

CamiSelene · May 2014

I agree with PP's. Do whatever you are most comfortable with. My ring came as a set with the band and I always thought I would wear both because that's what my mom did but as time gets closer and the more I think about it, I will probably just wear my band. I think one ring looks better than 2 but I'm not one for bulky jewellery. I also work with small children so one simple band is probably a better choice anyway. My FI most likely not wear his wedding band at all because of his job and plus, he doesn't like jewellery in the first place. Besides, it won't make us any less married.

Edited because apparently a glass of wine makes me omit words.

csuave · May 2014

My e-ring is art deco from about 1915. It is from the vintage store and didn't have a band that went with it. That was fine because I didn't want a band. I wanted one right with design elements that would make it stand on its own. I took my ring off before the ceremony and gave it to best man. DH then put it back on my hand when we were saying vows.

DH didn't get it. No one else has said anything to me about it. My friend that got married the day before DH proposed only has one ring the same as me.

Maybe down the road I'll change my mind and want another ring. If that happens then we will have a nice time picking one out as an anniversary gift or something.

JennyColada · May 2014

My mom only has a wedding band, no e-ring. It's rather plain (just a gold band with three small diamonds on it) and I LOVE it.

chkmeowt · May 2014

I'm not getting a wedding band. My engagement ring was custom made and would look very strange with another ring with it. I love it as is and my FI is completely supportive of it serving as my wedding ring.

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