As a raging feminist, it irritates me when I see a man's name first on a wedding invitation, with his wife's name second. Would it be a breach of etiquette to put the woman's name first? i.e. Mrs. Nancy and Mr. Tom Dwarftickle on a wedding invitation. Also, I am not doing an inner envelope. Is it okay to just put who the invitation is addressed to, on the front of the card, including children? Also... is it okay to put Ms. Nancy Pantsy and Guest on the envelope, if she gets a plus one?