Multiple times during my wedding planning last year my SIL (then FSIL) would look wistful and say, "Wow this is so exciting- I can't wait to plan my real wedding!" PPD? Not exactly- she already got married and had a wedding! With a white dress and a receptions and bridesmaids and guests and the whole shebang. I was there when she got married 5 years ago.
I guess she doesn't consider it a "real" wedding because she was pregnant at the time and the wedding was put together quickly. But it was lovely and small with mainly family invited. She's brought up the idea of redoing her wedding so many times that I don't think it's just a joke. Every time I could see her husband get a little panicky and she'd relent with, "or maybe just a vow renewal" Oy- hope this isn't a trend.
Re: New kind of PPD - the do-over
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I think your SIL is now on my list of champions. What a trooper!
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I posted this on another thread (forget which one), but I had a former co-worker who was the most "look at me, look at me" person I have ever met. Not exaggerating. She had a huge wedding, the whole nine yards the first time around. That she considered one of the best days of her life, nothing went wrong. I didn't know her then.
Fast forward about seven years. She decides that her and her hubby are going to have a vow renewal for their 8th anniversary. Not even 10. Eight. Although she technically called it a vow renewal, it was a big, "look at me AGAIN" re-do wedding. She was going to have attendants, a poufy white wedding dress, a huge fancy reception.
I mean, I guess she and her husband can do what they want with their time and money. But I side-eyed that kind of AWishness hard. Luckily, I had long since moved on to another job by the time she would have had this gala.
As much as I'm against do-overs, there was another episode of some-other-wedding-show where the married couple wanted to do their reception over again, because the groom's appendix ruptured the day of the wedding! He got through the vows, but was taken away by an ambulance right afterwards... I think they ended up treating their "do-over" reception as a vow renewal & party, as it was 15+ years after their wedding day.