Hi ladies!
So, I sent our invites out at the end of April for our Saturday of Labor Day Weekend wedding (its early, I know ... its a DW for EVERYONE, Labor Day is a popular weekend, and flights get expensive if you wait too long, so out of concern for my guest's pocketbooks, I sent them early, and I'm owning it). I did end up using "and Guest" for a few of our guests ... some that I couldn't find out the name of their S.O. (deployed), some that my FMIL asked be invited with a guest (elderly widows for the most part that we wanted to make sure could bring a friend if they wanted to), and some that I wasn't sure about, so wanted to give them a +1 option. I didn't really like doing this, but I'm going to make sure I track down the "guest" name prior to doing place cards, so no one will have "Guest of FriendsName" on their placecard. Do you guys have any suggestions for another way I can "fix" this (or make it better)?
Then, we come to the other problem. FI, who is awesome and super helpful with wedding stuff even though he lives 1000 miles away, gave me his list, and I asked him to make sure that the names were spelled correctly, kids names were there, etc. Even with the checking, I've had 4 invitations so far that I've had to apologize for.
The first was for his female friend X. I didn't include her SO on the invite. I even met them and had lunch with them once, but when I was addressing the invites, it completely slipped my mind and her SO wasn't on FI's list, so the invite went out only to her. Luckily, she emailed me, I apologized profusely, and explained it was a mistake on my part and that we'd be delighted to see them both there, insert another apology. The second was one of his work friends, who FI had listed as "HisName LastName and HerName". I, incorrectly of course, assumed this meant they were married, and addressed their invite accordingly. Come to find out, they aren't even engaged. I had FI text him to explain/apologize (I've never met these people), and plan to make sure I apologize again when/if they RSVP. The third was for his BEST MAN! He had just ended his relationship with his SO, but they are still sleeping together, just not dating anymore. I specifically asked FI whether to include the SO on his invite, FI said no, so I didn't. Turns out, FI didn't ask his BM, and the SO got super upset that she wasn't on the BM's invite. I accepted her RSVP, and apologized for the misunderstanding. The fourth was another work friend who's SO had been left off. She RSVPed separately from him, I confirmed with FI who she was, and then sent her an apology email for not including her on the guy's invite.
Other than bitching about my story, I really came here to ask for advice. I've issued apologizes, where able, and FI and I are going to review the list next week to make sure we didn't inadvertently screw anyone else out of an invite ... is there anything else I can do? I'm very glad that both the people who had SOs left off the invite mentioned it, so we could correct the oversight, and that the first girl was very understanding! I just don't know what else to do?? If we find any more, should I issue separate invites to SO's who were left off? I don't want them to think they were B-listed by getting an invite later, but I don't want to not invite them! Am I overthinking this whole thing? What would you do to set the wrongs right? (As a side note, I'm deploying mid-June and won't be back until a few weeks before my wedding, so I'm on a fairly short timeline to try and fix this faux paus)
Thanks ladies, I appreciate it!