Depositing Wedding Gift Checks

Re: Depositing Wedding Gift Checks

• ladyamanuet member

  

  May 2014 edited May 2014

  I know that on the rare occasion I write a check, I do my best to keep deducting that amount from the "available" amount online as I anxiously await it to be cashed and my account match my book. So whatever you do, do it QUICKLY.
  
  I think there are some people who might see it as a relief, but for the most part, these people budgeted to give you a gift and I think quite a few might be offended if you "returned" it....
  
  Edited to try to add in the paragraphs I had when I posted...
  

  My reaction to most everything on the internet today:
  

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• phira member

  

  May 2014

  Cash the checks.

  
  

  Not cashing the checks is really rude for two reasons.

  
  

  1) You are basically rejecting their gift to you. How would you feel if you sent someone a wedding present, and they sent it back to you, saying, "Thanks, but you can't afford this?"

  
  

  2) Checks need to be deposited right away anyway, so that the amount in their checkbooks reflects the amount in their accounts.

  
  

  Your heart is in the right place, but the right and polite thing to do is graciously accept the gifts.

  

  now with ~* INCREASED SASSINESS *~
  
  

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  May 2014

  I think it's an insult not to cash the check.  Write a TY note and cash the check.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• lovemysun member

  

  May 2014

  Thanks for everyone's quick replies. This weighed heavily on my heart for a couple days especially since one of them "jokingly" told me they have a negative balance.

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• SewInLoveWithDMB member

  

  May 2014

  lovemysun said:

  Thanks for everyone's quick replies. This weighed heavily on my heart for a couple days especially since one of them "jokingly" told me they have a negative balance.

  I agree - cash the checks and write your thank you notes quickly.

  
  

  The person who joked about it put you in a bad situation, although he might not have meant to do so.  If he really couldn't have afforded it, he could have declined the invite (thinking he "needed" to give a gift) or given you a nice card and no gift (and you would have understood.) 

  
  
  293 (Adults) Invited
  198 Yes (+ 12 children and 3 babies)
  95 No
  0 Unknown
  

  
  

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• AddieCake member

  

  May 2014

  I think it is insulting to give it back. If they could not afford to give you the cash, they wouldn't have.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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