Selling cups for drinks

kitty8403 · May 2014

Also, full mailing address is posted online for our gift-giving convenience. As are all the location/ time details.

Eta: And it's at a mealtime. So now I'm dying to know how food is going to happen.

ElcaB · May 2014

kitty8403 said:

Also, full mailing address is posted online for our gift-giving convenience. As are all the location/ time details. Eta: And it's at a mealtime. So now I'm dying to know how food is going to happen.

It kind of brings a literal meaning to, "pay for your plate," doesn't it?

sophhabobopha · May 2014

Also, as a young bride, I have AMAZING ETIQUETTE.

Don't let these gross people ruin your idea our us youngins.

kitty8403 · May 2014

sophhabobopha said:

Also, as a young bride, I have AMAZING ETIQUETTE.
Don't let these gross people ruin your idea our us youngins.

Hahaha! I'm not *that* old either. But I do tend to go a little easier on couples just out of high school or around college age than, say, somebody in their 30s or 40s. They usually have less to work with and more to learn, you know?

sophhabobopha · May 2014

kitty8403 said:

Also, as a young bride, I have AMAZING ETIQUETTE.
Don't let these gross people ruin your idea our us youngins.
Hahaha! I'm not *that* old either. But I do tend to go a little easier on couples just out of high school or around college age than, say, somebody in their 30s or 40s. They usually have less to work with and more to learn, you know?

I see your point, but I feel like they should JUST KNOW how god damn rude that is.

Lizzieyounce · May 2014

I kinda wish OP was going to this shitshow, so we could all get a report on how it went down.

I mean I'd offer the bribe of two whole days of puppy threads, but I can never get gifs to post.

kitty8403 · May 2014

Lizzieyounce said:
I kinda wish OP was going to this shitshow, so we could all get a report on how it went down.

I mean I'd offer the bribe of two whole days of puppy threads, but I can never get gifs to post.

---
I would love that bribe. I might have to recruit spies.
It's too close to my own wedding and I don't feel like paying for a plane and a hotel on top of it. :-p

Lizzieyounce · May 2014

kitty8403 said:

I kinda wish OP was going to this shitshow, so we could all get a report on how it went down.

I mean I'd offer the bribe of two whole days of puppy threads, but I can never get gifs to post.
--- I would love that bribe. I might have to recruit spies. It's too close to my own wedding and I don't feel like paying for a plane and a hotel on top of it. :-p

SITDB!!

Spies are acceptable, and I don't blame you re: expenses.

tcnoble · May 2014

kitty8403 said:

Also, as a young bride, I have AMAZING ETIQUETTE.
Don't let these gross people ruin your idea our us youngins.
Hahaha! I'm not *that* old either. But I do tend to go a little easier on couples just out of high school or around college age than, say, somebody in their 30s or 40s. They usually have less to work with and more to learn, you know?

THIS. This rubs me the wrong way (not you personally, just this idea that is so prevalent). Just because you are young doesn't give you a "get out of jail free card" on bad wedding etiquette. FI and I were 25&26 when we got engaged (I still consider that to be young) and I immediately started to find out everything I could to make sure our wedding was a great event for our guests. On the contrary I have a friend who is 28, engaged, and has NO interest in etiquette or hosting an event that puts her guests first. So for every one snowflake who gives us young brides a bad name, I would like to think there is a handful of us that ARE following rules of etiquette and hosting our guests properly with no ifs/ands/buts about it.

I think if you want to charge per cup for your wedding you are too immature to be getting married, period. That's just.... I can't.

Lizzieyounce · May 2014

tcnoble said:

kitty8403 said:

Also, as a young bride, I have AMAZING ETIQUETTE.
Don't let these gross people ruin your idea our us youngins.
Hahaha! I'm not *that* old either. But I do tend to go a little easier on couples just out of high school or around college age than, say, somebody in their 30s or 40s. They usually have less to work with and more to learn, you know?

THIS. This rubs me the wrong way (not you personally, just this idea that is so prevalent). Just because you are young doesn't give you a "get out of jail free card" on bad wedding etiquette. FI and I were 25&26 when we got engaged (I still consider that to be young) and I immediately started to find out everything I could to make sure our wedding was a great event for our guests. On the contrary I have a friend who is 28, engaged, and has NO interest in etiquette or hosting an event that puts her guests first. So for every one snowflake who gives us young brides a bad name, I would like to think there is a handful of us that ARE following rules of etiquette and hosting our guests properly with no ifs/ands/buts about it.

I think if you want to charge per cup for your wedding you are too immature to be getting married, period. That's just.... I can't.

DAMN BOX!!!

Thank you for saying what I was thinking.

sophhabobopha · May 2014

Lizzieyounce said:

tcnoble said:

kitty8403 said:

Also, as a young bride, I have AMAZING ETIQUETTE.
Don't let these gross people ruin your idea our us youngins.
Hahaha! I'm not *that* old either. But I do tend to go a little easier on couples just out of high school or around college age than, say, somebody in their 30s or 40s. They usually have less to work with and more to learn, you know?

THIS. This rubs me the wrong way (not you personally, just this idea that is so prevalent). Just because you are young doesn't give you a "get out of jail free card" on bad wedding etiquette. FI and I were 25&26 when we got engaged (I still consider that to be young) and I immediately started to find out everything I could to make sure our wedding was a great event for our guests. On the contrary I have a friend who is 28, engaged, and has NO interest in etiquette or hosting an event that puts her guests first. So for every one snowflake who gives us young brides a bad name, I would like to think there is a handful of us that ARE following rules of etiquette and hosting our guests properly with no ifs/ands/buts about it.

I think if you want to charge per cup for your wedding you are too immature to be getting married, period. That's just.... I can't.

DAMN BOX!!!

Thank you for saying what I was thinking.

That's what I'm saying! I'm twenty, will be twenty-two at the wedding, and I WOULD NEVER EVER EVER.

kitty8403 · May 2014

tcnoble said:

kitty8403 said:

sophhabobopha said:

Also, as a young bride, I have AMAZING ETIQUETTE.
Don't let these gross people ruin your idea our us youngins.

Hahaha! I'm not *that* old either. But I do tend to go a little easier on couples just out of high school or around college age than, say, somebody in their 30s or 40s. They usually have less to work with and more to learn, you know?

THIS. This rubs me the wrong way (not you personally, just this idea that is so prevalent). Just because you are young doesn't give you a "get out of jail free card" on bad wedding etiquette. FI and I were 25&26 when we got engaged (I still consider that to be young) and I immediately started to find out everything I could to make sure our wedding was a great event for our guests. On the contrary I have a friend who is 28, engaged, and has NO interest in etiquette or hosting an event that puts her guests first. So for every one snowflake who gives us young brides a bad name, I would like to think there is a handful of us that ARE following rules of etiquette and hosting our guests properly with no ifs/ands/buts about it.

I think if you want to charge per cup for your wedding you are too immature to be getting married, period. That's just.... I can't.

I can see that.
I guess I lean toward the idea that if the couple is quite young, they might still be acting under a lot of family influence. I think some of this shitshow is being driven by parents and older siblings, based on past history of other events, and that the kids have been raised to think certain things are OK. They *should* know better, and all you lovelies would set them straight if they came to TK and asked, but I doubt they sincerely understand this is a major clusterfuck.
So maybe giving them a "pass" isn't quite the right way to phrase it, but I can forgive, or at least let go of, youthful ignorance/young adults following parental misjudgment a lot more than deliberate rudeness by people who have been on their own for years and had lots of chances to learn better.

kitty8403 · May 2014

That said, I agree that it's a huge immaturity red flag that should call the marriage into question.

huskypuppy14 · May 2014

Paying for cups should stay in college. Do you have a BBQ at your house and charge people for cups of beer.

KGold80 · May 2014

That reminds me of this gem from WW today. You can totally save money by buying the alcohol yourself and charging guests $2 a drink.

http://m.weddingwire.com/forum-posts/11d5395a9127b505

Rosebubbly · May 2014

What state is this wedding taking place in? I really wish you were going for the sheer hilarity of the reviews....

Cookie Pusher · May 2014

Can I just drink right from the keg? I won't need a cup!

pinkcow13 · May 2014

There's a restaurant in the city that pours tequila down your throat. Can I do that at this wedding?

KGold80 · May 2014

Cookie Pusher said:
Can I just drink right from the keg? I won't need a cup!

You mean like keg stands? Awesome!

alpacalunch · May 2014

KGold80 said:

That reminds me of this gem from WW today. You can totally save money by buying the alcohol yourself and charging guests $2 a drink. http://m.weddingwire.com/forum-posts/11d5395a9127b505

Oh boy.

This ChosenAtRandom person reeeeeks of TK. Also, I'd like to buy them a drink. I'll even provide a cup.

Cookie Pusher · May 2014

KGold80 said:

Can I just drink right from the keg? I won't need a cup!
You mean like keg stands? Awesome!

Hell yea! I'm small, plus it would be free entertainment for the other guests!

vanityink · May 2014

Cookie Pusher said:

KGold80 said:

Can I just drink right from the keg? I won't need a cup!
You mean like keg stands? Awesome!

Hell yea! I'm small, plus it would be free entertainment for the other guests!

I must say I have totally been to a wedding where both the bride and groom did keg stands… (one of DH’s friends years ago). I was entirely torn between trying not to laugh as they fought to keep the bride’s full, satin ball gown from going up over her head and side-eyeing the hell out of it.

Other than that it was a generally nice wedding.

PrincessOfHavoc · May 2014

Huh, I never bought a cup in college. Mainly because I can do keg stands easily. Please, I can walk on my hands while hammered.

I'd buy sleeves of the cups and sell 'em in the parking lot for a buck. Please, 600+ guests, easier money scam than a honey fund. Why do people tease me like this! For $5, I'm selling a cup and two pieces of pizza.

tortoisebride · May 2014

Maybe she said red solo cups so people will bring red ones but they'll really be some other color and she'll know what RUDE people were trying to CHEAT her out of her well deserved honeymoon money!!!

Inkdancer · May 2014

vanityink said:

Cookie Pusher said:

KGold80 said:

Can I just drink right from the keg? I won't need a cup!
You mean like keg stands? Awesome!

Hell yea! I'm small, plus it would be free entertainment for the other guests!

I must say I have totally been to a wedding where both the bride and groom did keg stands… (one of DH’s friends years ago). I was entirely torn between trying not to laugh as they fought to keep the bride’s full, satin ball gown from going up over her head and side-eyeing the hell out of it.

Other than that it was a generally nice wedding.

My FFIL did a keg stand at FBIL's engagement party. He is 60 years old and 6 feet tall. It was awkward times.

JCbride2015 · May 2014

Oh God that WW thread. Here's a new way of justifying cash bars though:

I am from Canada, and I am having the reception 4 months after my destination wedding on a cruise ship.... Perhaps not to my friends from the south, however up North we like to giver, and always pay at a cash bar or Wedding.

I think she means "give," as in, people in Canada are so polite they just are clamoring to pay for their drinks at weddings.

LadyMillil · May 2014

I hate the "in Canada we do this (insert bad etiquette)" brides. I'm in Canada and I had an open bar and I side eye every wedding I've been to with a cash bar. I doubly side eye it when they had a stag and doe and a cash bar. WTH did you spend the money you fundraised on if I still have to pay full price for a drink?!?!

LondonLisa · May 2014

In Britain, there is a stereotype that American teen parties always have those red plastic cups. Obviously no one thinks Yanks do this at formal parties, just those crazy house parties- Blame all those teen films like American Pie etc. I'm laughing at the thought that some woman would want essentially a "Superbad" themed wedding. Is she also stealing the alcohol from her parent's drink cabinet?

beethery · May 2014

How to deal with a wedding where they want to do this:

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