Wedding Woes

Mean bridesmaid

A friend of mine is getting married next August, and I'm getting married next October. She's asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding, I said yes - but I'm hesitant to ask her to be one of my bridesmaids because she hasn't been the nicest friend to me. She doesn't keep in touch, and rarely shows interest in what's going on in my life. Recently, she even went so far to say she would punch someone (another friend of mine that she dislikes) at my wedding if they talk to her!

I don't want to worry about anyone fighting on my wedding day. How awkward would it be if I didn't ask her to be my bridesmaid? Knowing her, I would no longer be in her wedding if she wasn't in mine - and we might not even be friends any longer.

Help!

Re: Mean bridesmaid

  • A friend of mine is getting married next August, and I'm getting married next October. She's asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding, I said yes - but I'm hesitant to ask her to be one of my bridesmaids because she hasn't been the nicest friend to me. She doesn't keep in touch, and rarely shows interest in what's going on in my life. Recently, she even went so far to say she would punch someone (another friend of mine that she dislikes) at my wedding if they talk to her!

    I don't want to worry about anyone fighting on my wedding day. How awkward would it be if I didn't ask her to be my bridesmaid? Knowing her, I would no longer be in her wedding if she wasn't in mine - and we might not even be friends any longer.

    Help!

    Wait...why do you want to be friends with her if she hasn't been the nicest friend to you? That doesn't make sense to me.

    Regardless, wedding parties aren't tit-for-tat. If you don't want to ask her, don't. If she kicks you out of her WP, then that's on her, and you have to decide if you want to keep this friendship going after that.
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
  • delujm0delujm0 member
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    ask whoever you want to ask. if she asks you any questions, tell her your weding party has aready been chosen and move on. if she's not nice to you i have no dea why in the world you'd even consider asking her (or why you acceped a place in her WP).
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