My bridal shower is in a month, my mother and MOH are planning it together, but my mom is paying for the event. I'm thrilled to be having a shower, but my mom just informed me that she has invited people who are not invited to the wedding. There is no way at this point to include those people in the wedding and some of them I was vehmently opposed to seeing at all, ever. She seems to think this is fine. I however, know that it is rude to invite people to a shower and not the wedding. But I am stuck at this point with things the way they are. I am looking for advice on what to say to these people when they ask why they haven't recieved a wedding invitaiton. I am at a loss. I'm pretty upset with my mother for doing this as well. But it can't be undone. What would you say to them?