The word "lover."

ElcaB · June 2014

Last night FI & I started reading through sample ceremony readings aloud, from the gathering words to our vows and everything in between. (Side note: every time it was my turn to read I got all choked up --- I don't stand a damn chance during the actual ceremony.) We're writing our own ceremony from start to end, so our plan is to sort through sample readings and take parts we like (as well as things we think of & want to include) and construct something that works for us.

Quite a few of the samples contained the word lover. I'm sorry, but I cannot take this word seriously. For some reason I associate it with affairs, so it seems negative to me. Secondly, I just kind of get the giggles when I hear it: "Lover." I get a serious Spice Girls flashback. We both wholeheartedly agreed this word will not be part of our wedding.

Anyone else, or just me?

theartistformerlyknownas · June 2014

OMG yes totally. I scratched any song from first dance contention if it had the word lover. It's just creepy. I picture it being whispered in a breathy voice with way too much tongue.

larrygaga · June 2014

Lover is for sure a term that sounds like affiar or fling.

cupcait927 · June 2014

Lover is one of my all time most hated words. I cringe when I hear it. I find it either juvenile or inappropriate. I'm getting the heebie jeebies now just reading that word. Ugh.

pinkcow13 · June 2014

Oh, I agree. Every time I hear that word I think of Carrie Bradshaw when she saw those amazing pink Loubatin's. " Hello, Lover." I even have a shirt that has that written across the front. In other words, I totally would not take that word seriously, either.

VulgarGirl · June 2014

Lover always makes me think of like really old hippies doing it. Like the couple in the Joy of Sex.

climbingsingle · June 2014

This is honest to god the image that comes to mind every time I heard that word.

slothiegal · June 2014

Haha oh my god, I'm so glad I'm not the only one.

At my bridal shower, FI's grandma was giving me marriage advice and said something along the lines of, "You have to be friends to make it work, not just lovers." I simultaneously started giggling/gagging.

Bubblegum5586 · June 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

This is honest to god the image that comes to mind every time I heard that word.

Fantastic

wandajune6 · June 2014

I don't have the same issues with it- I just hate the idea of saying it in front of my grandparents!

buttercup1958 · June 2014

Urg that word is really gross to me. I think its on the same level as moist.

slothiegal · June 2014

buttercup1958 said:

Urg that word is really gross to me. I think its on the same level as moist.

Whenever my friends want to get a rise out of me, all they have to do is say, "How moist are your panties?" Even typing it is making me squirm at my desk.

cupcait927 · June 2014

Between seeing the words moist and lover, this thread is going to make me as uncomfortable as the thread with the spiders.

iloveotters2014 · June 2014

The first time I brought my now husband to a family function my late Grandmother walked up to me, looked at H and said "Is this your Lover? (said like Loovvaaaaa)" and literally everyone in my family stopped talking and burst into laughter.

Never have I been able to take that word seriously since.

Cookie Pusher · June 2014

I wrote our ceremony and refused to use the word "lover" because FI and I can't stand it. It just sounds... creepy. Like panties. *shudder*

ElcaB · June 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

This is honest to god the image that comes to mind every time I heard that word.

I feel like we would be great friends, @ClimbingBrideNY. Great friends indeed.

emmaaa · June 2014

I would never want "lover" used in my ceremony.

However, mine and FI's first dance song (that he just decided on and told me last night) is Tim McGraw's "My Best Friend." In the song it says..."You're more than a lover." I don't hate it. The song has been our song since we started dating in high school since we had always been best friends before we started dating.

P.S. FI originally said he didn't want to use this song since so many people so, even though it was our song. So we decided to use an "old" (as in 1950's era) country song that he would pick. Apparently he changed his mind on that though.

JennyColada · June 2014

I am the odd woman out who really likes the word "lover". I get warm fuzzier when I think of the word and like that it has implications both of loving as well as being loved.

I probably would shy away from using it I front of family though, as it does have distinct sexual implications as well (but to me, love and sex are two different things, so to be my "lover" one doesn't have to engaging with me sexually...but I understand that not everyone shares that point of view).

climbingsingle · June 2014

ElcaB said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

This is honest to god the image that comes to mind every time I heard that word.

I feel like we would be great friends, @ClimbingBrideNY. Great friends indeed.

Totally agree, girl.

JCbride2015 · June 2014

Shudder. I hate it too.

ohannabelle · June 2014

slothiegal said:

buttercup1958 said:

Urg that word is really gross to me. I think its on the same level as moist.

Whenever my friends want to get a rise out of me, all they have to do is say, "How moist are your panties?" Even typing it is making me squirm at my desk.

Aaaaaaaaagh! You have cruel, cruel friends. That was worse than anything on the spider/snake/bat thread. Even if a possum and a rat were thrown in.

Panties is the stupidest word in the universe. Moist is the creepiest. Aaaaaaaagh. I can't type either without physically cringing.

Lover is kind of creepy. Ick.

beethery · June 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

This is honest to god the image that comes to mind every time I heard that word.

I still say hot tub the way they did

theartistformerlyknownas · June 2014

ohannabelle said:

slothiegal said:

buttercup1958 said:

Urg that word is really gross to me. I think its on the same level as moist.

Whenever my friends want to get a rise out of me, all they have to do is say, "How moist are your panties?" Even typing it is making me squirm at my desk.

Aaaaaaaaagh! You have cruel, cruel friends. That was worse than anything on the spider/snake/bat thread. Even if a possum and a rat were thrown in.
Panties is the stupidest word in the universe. Moist is the creepiest. Aaaaaaaagh. I can't type either without physically cringing.

Lover is kind of creepy. Ick.

Panties is such a weird word. As is pantyhose.

I like the word underpants. But I always say it this way:

ElcaB · June 2014

beethery said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

This is honest to god the image that comes to mind every time I heard that word.

I still say hot tub the way they did

You mean, "Hottub?"

ElcaB · June 2014

lolo883 said:

ohannabelle said:

slothiegal said:

buttercup1958 said:

Urg that word is really gross to me. I think its on the same level as moist.

Whenever my friends want to get a rise out of me, all they have to do is say, "How moist are your panties?" Even typing it is making me squirm at my desk.

Aaaaaaaaagh! You have cruel, cruel friends. That was worse than anything on the spider/snake/bat thread. Even if a possum and a rat were thrown in.
Panties is the stupidest word in the universe. Moist is the creepiest. Aaaaaaaagh. I can't type either without physically cringing.

Lover is kind of creepy. Ick.

Panties is such a weird word. As is pantyhose.

I like the word underpants. But I always say it this way:

Anyone who posts anything Boy Meets World related is good, in my book.

Semi-related: I had a wedding nightmare last night & Danielle Fishel showed up schwasted. I was really mad at her because she stumbled down the aisle and made a scene in the middle of the ceremony.

climbingsingle · June 2014

ElcaB said:

lolo883 said:

ohannabelle said:

slothiegal said:

buttercup1958 said:

Urg that word is really gross to me. I think its on the same level as moist.

Whenever my friends want to get a rise out of me, all they have to do is say, "How moist are your panties?" Even typing it is making me squirm at my desk.

Aaaaaaaaagh! You have cruel, cruel friends. That was worse than anything on the spider/snake/bat thread. Even if a possum and a rat were thrown in.
Panties is the stupidest word in the universe. Moist is the creepiest. Aaaaaaaagh. I can't type either without physically cringing.

Lover is kind of creepy. Ick.

Panties is such a weird word. As is pantyhose.

I like the word underpants. But I always say it this way:

Anyone who posts anything Boy Meets World related is good, in my book.

Semi-related: I had a wedding nightmare last night & Danielle Fishel showed up schwasted. I was really mad at her because she stumbled down the aisle and made a scene in the middle of the ceremony.

That was really messed up for Topanga to do that in the middle of your wedding.

Fran1985 · June 2014

I think only Oberyn Martell can pull the word lover off.

ElcaB · June 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

ElcaB said:

lolo883 said:

ohannabelle said:

slothiegal said:

buttercup1958 said:

Urg that word is really gross to me. I think its on the same level as moist.

Whenever my friends want to get a rise out of me, all they have to do is say, "How moist are your panties?" Even typing it is making me squirm at my desk.

Aaaaaaaaagh! You have cruel, cruel friends. That was worse than anything on the spider/snake/bat thread. Even if a possum and a rat were thrown in.
Panties is the stupidest word in the universe. Moist is the creepiest. Aaaaaaaagh. I can't type either without physically cringing.

Lover is kind of creepy. Ick.

Panties is such a weird word. As is pantyhose.

I like the word underpants. But I always say it this way:

Anyone who posts anything Boy Meets World related is good, in my book.

Semi-related: I had a wedding nightmare last night & Danielle Fishel showed up schwasted. I was really mad at her because she stumbled down the aisle and made a scene in the middle of the ceremony.

That was really messed up for Topanga to do that in the middle of your wedding.

I would have forgiven her if she brought her BIL Eric Matthews. He would have known exactly what to say to make it right.

alpacalunch · June 2014

I think Liz Lemon said it best...

ETA: When I was in high school there was a band my friends were all into called 'Moist' and I couldn't bring myself to listen to them because ick.

Kauris · June 2014

SATC when Carrie was dating The Russian, if I hadn't already hated the word, that sure as shit did it for me!

And yes, I'm not saying lover in front of all of my friends/family, swimteam moms and co-workers. Gah!

CMGragain · June 2014

I guess I'm in the minority, but that word conjures up good things for me. Song lyrics, The Rainbow Connection:

Someday we'll find it
the rainbow connection
the lovers, the dreamers, and me.

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