Low Testosterone

Re: Low Testosterone

• CMGragain member

  

  June 2014

  I am still very worried for you.  Please be sure that marriage witth this man is what you really need and want.
  My sister married a man who has low T..They had sex for the first two or three years of their marriage, but not since then.  20 years plus.  He is not gay, just not interested.
  He could take supplements, but he doesn't want to.  They have decided to just live like brother and sister.  That wouldn't work for me, but who am I to judge?
  

  

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• wandajune6 member

  

  June 2014

  I had an ex with that issue and we're monitoring FI for levels, though it isn't a problem now. Same story as you. When he was taking his meds, everything was fine. When he didn't, there was no sex. I'm also convinced it impacted his moods, but there wasn't a clear correlation.
  
  The problem is largely the meds. I know there's a health risk. The bigger issue is adherence- all of the options I've seen are lotions. They smell bad, leave the guy sticky, and you can't touch the area. It makes adherence very difficult because it's so miserable to use.
  
  Low T isn't a dealbreaker but you need to be on the same page. The ex was fabulous with "everything else" and took care of me even when he wasn't in the mood. He wanted me to be happy even if he wasn't always physically as interested.
  
  The key is to keep your mind healthy. It's very easy to feel rejected so FI needs to be proactive about making you feel loved and wanted. I know that I tend to place a huge value on sex so it messes with my head when my partner doesn't want me.
  
  Just be honest with yourself about what you can/ can't live with.
  
  Good luck!

  

  

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• NavyBlue143 member

  

  June 2014

  A bit late to this, but H does. We had almost no sex on our honeymoon and average once every two weeks, though we've gone over a month on several occasions. Which is doubly unbearable considering we didn't live together before marriage, and haven't even been married two years nor do we have kids, and I have a high sex drive, so we should be all over each other. It took me almost 9 months to get him to go get tested and get on testosterone injections, which he did for a month and quit.
  
  It does wonders for your self esteem when you go to bed naked, undress in front of your husband, or prance around in lingerie and he still rarely notices, and if he does, it's to grope you and then go do other things. Especially when you've heard stories about was a hound he was years ago. And what sex we do have is usually unsatisfying for me since it's been so long and he rushes things. I ask him not to, but the next time he does. So I quit trying because I'm tired of being frustrated and feeling unattractive when I know I'm not.
  
  Do not marry him until this is fixed. You are aware there is a problem. I wasn't. Now I'm kind of stuck trying to deal with this and there's only one way out. And I won't throw away an otherwise good relationship over sex, but let me tell you, when there are other issues in the marriage, feeling undesirable doesn't help at all.

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