Ok, I know there are threads out there about this issue, but I would like advice on this EXACT family member.
Here's the shortened version ... I grew up with my mom's family. I did not meet my dad's side until maybe 4 years ago. At that time I actually lived with a half-sister for a while. This same half-sister ripped my future husband a new one (before we began dating)... Her and I were misinformed about something he supposedly did. She also threatened to sue him. Now, fast forward 3+ years and we're planning a wedding. I understand him not wanting her to be there. It's his day too. (I should also mention that a cousin on that side, the dad, and my other half siblings would be getting invites) Here are some of my thoughts:
A. I feel it's incredibly rude and also opening a major can of worms to basically invite everyone BUT her.
B. I don't want to send her an invite and "hope" she won't be able to make it. She actually does love me, so I'm sure she would make it a point to come.
C. We spoke about having a smaller wedding, then a few months later having a "celebration" (and of course, not accepting wedding gifts, that's just not right to do) but then I also feel if we go this way there are quite a few people I would want at the wedding that won't be able to be invited and again.. more hurt feelings...
D. We invite her... and I have a "talk" with her about possibly mending some hurt feelings prior to the wedding... (I hate confrontations, but this one tends to make more sense to me)
Obviously my fiance and I need to talk more about this, but I was hoping someone might have some helpful advice or is maybe facing something similar. Thank you for your time! God bless!