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Am I being nitpicky?

krock12krock12 member
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So a family member of mine sent out Save-The-Dates 6 months ago, but only sent it to me (who lives close to the wedding venue) and none to my family back home (who would need to travel).  Then 6 weeks before the wedding date they sent out the wedding invitations to everyone except one of my sisters (which I found strange).  None of my family will be able to make it because its such short notice, but they may have had they had ample time to plan.  Also, everyone received the invitation 4 days before the RSVP date which was one month before the wedding.  I find this very ignorant but don't want to say anything to upset the bride and groom to be, but this is bothering me.  I just want to make sure I'm not getting upset for nothing.
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Re: Am I being nitpicky?

  • mysticlmysticl member
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    While you would expect save the dates to go out to people who live farther away so they can plan there may have been reasons (like they weren't sure how many they could host). Your sister could be an oversight or there could be an issue there that you aren't aware of. That is a very short turn over time from receiving the invite to RSVP. You're right don't say anything to the bride and groom. I'd go with annoyed over upset.
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    I wouldn't worry about the fact that they didn't get save the dates... they're not required. Plans may have changed regarding budget/capacity allowing them to come, or maybe they didn't get everyone's address in time to send a save the date. 

    The quick turnaround is weird though... if none of you had gotten a save the date I'd say you all got B-listed... but it's weird to me that you all got them on the same date. Eh maybe you got B-listed anyway. Who knows with people these days.

    Your sister's invite could have gotten lost in the mail. 
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    If you send out an STD they have to be invited. If you do not send out an STD you can still send out an invite because STD are not required in anyway. They are helpful, but not required. Plans and budgets often change and not sending out an STD can help in that regards. Should the plans and budget increase you can still invite them. That all said, the tight RSVP turn has me thinking your family was b-listed.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • natswildnatswild member
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    what is the cancellation mark on the stamp?  I know there's been various people on here who've had invitations go missing/never delivered, so that may be a possibility.  Or as PPs said, it may be B-listing, or now enough venue space. shrugs
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  • April192002April192002 member
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    My friend basically invited everyone via facebook because they got the invitations out later than they wanted and found out a handful of them were never received, or returned to sender. It could have been a B-list thing, they're floating around in the USPS world, or she might have gotten them out late...really late.
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  • Jwenke10Jwenke10 member
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    It could also be that they had major issues getting their invites printed, addressed and sent out like I have encountered. Thankfully, I started way ahead of schedule and RSVP is still a month from now but hotel deadline is less then a week from now and I am getting returned invitations.
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