How Did You Meet Your SO?

loves2shop4shoes · June 2014

Just for fun, and because I love these stories... How did you meet your SO?

loves2shop4shoes · June 2014

I'll start!

I met DH at Boston University orientation. He had a summer job with the Office of Orientation as a Student Advisor, and I got randomly assigned to his "group." So he helped me pick my classes, and we chatted a bit.

A few weeks later I bumped into him at the university's welcome weekend thing that they put on every year and we agreed we should hang out. The rest is history.

KeptInStitches · June 2014

We met my first week of undergrad at college. He'd been there for a couple of years. We were both in the university band; I played tuba and he played saxophone (probably tenor or bari that semester). It took us a little over 3 years to start dating, and after that, the rest was history.

Pepperally · June 2014

We like to just say we met on the internet. The truth is we met on Craigslist. I had used dating sites many times. I was sick of the screening you could do based on lots of checkboxes and was on Craigslist to sell old wedding stuff for a wedding that never happened and realized Craigslist even had a personals section. I liked it was more about the words I wrote than the checkbox criteria of other dating sites. Yes, there were tons of weirdos to weed through, but he contacted me and we hit it off. Met up maybe the following week and dated ever since.

Pepperally · June 2014

@TwoDimes‌ - lol!!! Were you in the whole drunk protecting my friend from a-holes mode, or you just knew you might want him for yourself?

lavenderfields13 · June 2014

I was visiting my friend W at college a couple hours away for the weekend. FI was there visiting his friend B too (W's twin brother). We were at a party at B's gf's place and I told B I thought his friend was cute and I wanted to make out with him. We had our first makeout session in the bathroom that night because I'm klassy like that.

The funny part is we're from the same town (different areas) and went to the same high school (he was a couple grades above me) and never met until that night.

bethsmiles · June 2014

We met in our first week of college. He lived in the dorm below me. Two girls were talking about some cute guy they met and I said well let's go get him. We knocked on his door and BF and his roommate thought we knocked on thier door and came out. We've been pretty much inseperable since that moment. I honestly don't think we've gone a single day without talking since we met.

Oh and BF is MUCH cuter than the guy we were actually there to see.

AuroraRose41 · June 2014

TL;DR: we met in College.

The long version (but still PG!) is that we met in a computer programming course my sophomore year. I was one of 2 girls in a 60 person class, and I definitely stood out with my blonde hair and sorority letters on. One day, this guy and his friend sit next me before class starts, and the one who is closer says a really sarcastic joke about the professor being late, and I came back with a witty response. That guy is my now BF. We became instant friends, and would do homework together, passing our laptops to each other to read and correct our codes. We became project partners for a few more classes that we had together, and one thing lead to another.

What he later told me, is that his friend bet him a case of beer that he "wouldn't go sit next to the pretty blonde." And, BF and his friend were both transfer students from a community college, and actually both took the same programming course prior, but their credits didn't transfer. My BF aced it the first time, and purposefully made mistakes in his homework to spend more time with me! Straight out of Mean Girls, except it was vice versa.

eilis1228 · June 2014

I was in town to visit my then BFF for her 21st bday. I went to school about 3 hours away and didn't visit often, but I'd just gotten out of a 3-year relationship and was trying to be really social and outgoing. BF was friends with her and her then BF, and we were both at BFF's party. We flirted a lot that night and each thought the other was cute, but since it was long distance we didn't pursue anything further. We didn't even exchange phone numbers or anything.

A few months later I was back in town for my sister's birthday, and BFF calls and says we should hang out. She said she'd get a big group together and we'd go visit some bars. That big group was me, current BF, BFF, and her then boyfriend. Sooooo awkward. BF was really aloof that night and barely spoke. It was awful. Plus it was my first date-ish after that big break up, and I was so pissed that it didn't go well. I figured I'd write him off and never see him again.

Six weeks later at around midnight I get a Facebook message from BF. I was feeling really lonely that night and had been watching the episode of House where he and Cuddy finally get together. I figured I might as well respond because it's not like I had anything to lose. Best decision I ever made. We could not stop talking! We talked all day and all night for weeks. We'd text all day during class and then talk on the phone until 4 or 5 in the morning. It was amazing. About a month later we finally had our first date, and the rest is history.

I still give him shit about that awkward date-ish though. It's one of my favorite stories to tell people lol. At one point I had to tell him to buy me a drink, and when we he got up to get it, we had to pull his chair closer to mine. He was just... so out there. My friends kept telling me that he'd been talking about me non-stop since we first met, and they were so baffled by his behavior. I guess he choked? No idea. He was smart to wait a while before trying to contact me again though, and I'm so glad he did.

TLDR: We met through a mutual friend at a party but had a difficult time getting the relationship off the ground.

buttercup1958 · June 2014

I met mine in at college too! We both are geology majors, so we had the same mineralogy class. I thought he was so smart and cute. He actually helped me carry a very heavy tray of samples for class. Thats when I introduced myself to him. I kept wanting to ask him out/talk to him but somehow I always ended up choking. He thought I didn't like him! I told one of my coworkers that I thought he was cute and wanted to know he was single. Of course she was sneaky and told V even though she said she wouldn't. I'm happy she did though! He asked me out to dinner at a japanese place, movie, and a walk on a trail. We have been together since then!

evadorrough · June 2014

Mine's not very interesting--we met through OkCupid. I really wasn't expecting much out of the site, but I would sometimes go through and "rate" profiles when I was bored. I guess I gave him a high rating, and he got an email notification that I "liked" him. He sent me a message asking if I wanted to get a drink sometime, and I said yes.

luckya23 · June 2014

I contacted my SO through match.com. I had never seen him in my "match results" until I had contacted this other dude who was in seminary - I contacted him saying I didn't think I was "preacher wife" material, but he seemed interesting if he wanted to hang out as friends.

SO was listed as a "similar match" - his screen name was Xian, which I was hoping was his name, and he wasn't a religious nut, which turned out to be the case :-)

I found out later that he had seen me in his matches but didn't bother to contact me... grrrrr.

lovemyrunner · June 2014

Met my BF on PoF. We messaged back and forth for several weeks before finally meeting in person. About 2-3 months later we became 'official.' And the rest is history. Now I'm just (im)patiently waiting for him to promote me from GF to fiancee.

Funny thing is we went to the same college at the same time and even lived in the same apartment complex at the same time, but didn't actually meet until 10 years later!

BreMR · June 2014

My best friend since first grade had the biggest crush on my cousin, and she always felt bad about it. I guess to ease her guilt she introduced me to her cousin, we started talking and never stopped. We've been together 12 years and my bff and my cousin never dated, but they did make out.

LabLove86 · June 2014

OKCupid.

I had actually met just enough "creeps" and was going online to delete my account. I had messaged now BF a week or so prior - and he had replied. I decided he seemed normal enough and to see where it went. And we just celebrated 1 year!

Dignity100 · June 2014

I worked with my FI. I was in another relationship when I met FI, I wasn't happy in my other relationship but stayed in it (I felt I was helping my ex out, he had a lot of debt and I was giving him a roof over his head). FI was assigned as my 'mentor' so he was showing me the ropes of the job and stuff and we hit it off. I noticed that FI treated me WAY better than my ex did and really started re-assessing my relationship and decided I had a right to be happy.

It wasn't easy to break off the relationship I was in, it was a 7-year relationship; but so glad I did. I'm so much happier, my parents have made comments about how much happier I am and how I don't complain about my FI like I did my ex (my ex was pretty controlling), my parents have even made comments that even though they shouldn't admit it, they like FI so much better than my ex.

Blue & White · June 2014

H is one of my best friends' exes. Probably the only sane one lol. The summer after college, we decided we were going to have no strings attached relationships. She was going to get back with J and I was going to mess around with G. We both managed to have a decent summer of sneaking away to do so although A and J were still kinda awkward from the whole A breaking J's heart in high school thing. After the summer, I went to grad school and A went to japan. Being a dumb girl, I was hung up on G and texted J about it. Turns out J and I were like majorly aligned with our life goals and priorities and morals, etc. So one day I asked A if I could date her ex. She admitted she though we would be adorable together and said go for it. So yep, I stole her ex. When we got engaged, I called her to tell her I was marrying her ex lol. She couldn't make the wedding cause it was the same week as her cousins but I'm seeing her next week so obviously our relationship made it through.

ETA: apparently my HUSBAND is my best friends' ex. I swear we got married over two months ago

blabla89 · June 2014

FI and I met at a coffee and dessert bar. The place is closed now, but it was pretty hip and it was always packed at night. One Saturday I went there in the afternoon because I'm a fatty and I wanted cake, and we were the only two people there. We talked for two hours...and I forgot all about wanting cake.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

@TwoDimes -I think we could be friends in IRL lol.

I had recently been in a long-term relationship with a jerk for almost 3 years. I got enough courage to end things at the beginning of March 2012. I was going through a very life altering time in my life and many changes were happening. After the breakup, my grandmother passed away of a long battle with lung disease and then I was shortly after fired from my part time job in college right before graduation. So through all this struggle I basically clung to the only thing I knew which was my faith. I told myself that I would never let myself fall into another relationship where my SO would be more important to me than my faith.

One of my sorority sisters wanted me to meet this guy that was recently single that she grew up with. I was hesitant because it was only a couple weeks after my breakup. So I told her that if we all went out as a group then I wouldn't mind meeting him in a group setting and not on a date. Well, she also invited this guy who I had a crush on for like years.....I mean years...and lets just say things didn't go as planned and I ended up hanging out with my crush the whole night. I felt really bad about it the following weekend and I texted my friend letting her know that if her friend (now H) would like to friend request me on face book then that would be fine. So we chatted on facebook a few times before we actually met in person. We went out on a group outing again to a school event and then grabbed dinner.

That night he asked me out on our real first date. I'm very strong in my faith so I was totally relying on that to make sure I'm not going to be a stupid little girl and fall for the first guy I go on a date with after my bad breakup. So I was super picky about everything that I ever thought I could want in a guy and I wrote it down. I told myself that if I meet a guy that doesn't meet these qualities then he isn't for me. BOY did that happen quickly. On our first date, I knew I wanted to marry now H. He met every single quality I wanted on that list (which was pretty extensive lol). So don't ever Settle!!!! lol. We got engaged 10 months later : )

buddysmom80 · June 2014

Short story: POF

Long story: Before I met FI, I was dating an asshole for three years. The last six months of our relationship was horrible and we were living together but in seperate areas. He had the living room and kitchen as his "domain" and I had the bedroom and bathroom. So probably around that summer I set up a POF profile with my friend. I went on a few dates but nothing too promising. Plus it was hard because even though my ex and I weren't together, but still living together, every time I would go out, I would get a million questions.

My ex moved out December of 2010 without any notice. Left all his shit at my house an everything. I was so fed up with relationships and dating that on New Year's Eve I decided I was deleting my POF profile and just start living a life of an Old Maid. In my inbox was an email from FI and I thought to myself "why not? I could at least use a free dinner" so we started chatting. He asked me out and we had our first date in January of 2011 and have been together ever since.

ShallowSeas · June 2014

We met at the beginning of my second semester in college in January 2007. I was sitting in Biology class on the first day and FI walked into the classroom and sat next to me. Those seats were our seats for the rest of the semester, and since we sat next to each other, that automatically made us lab partners. We realized we had almost everything in common, including our favorite band. We instantly became best friends and stayed that way throughout college.

Since I was in a serious relationship this whole time, and FI was in and out of relationships, we didn't get to hang out as much as we'd like, but we kept in contact through AIM, Myspace, Facebook, and texting. We hung out several times between 2007-2010 and went to some concerts together...one with my now ex (awkward).

When I first separated from my ex and moved out on my own in 2012, I was sitting in my apartment, alone and miserable. I was lonely and thought to myself "which friend do I miss the most that I wasn't really "allowed" to hang out with while I was with ex...?" FI was the first person that popped into my head. FI had a crush on me since the first day of class and he wasn't shy about it. He let me know way back then. My ex could tell that FI liked me and did not want me hanging out with him the last year or two he and I were together, so I actually hadn't SEEN FI in person since 2010, although we still talked all the time.

In 2012 I posted on FI's fb wall, " FI FIRST NAME, MIDDLE NAME, LAST NAME! I miss you! Its been way too long."

He messaged me back and we worked out plans to meet up finally to hang out again. This was around the time of my birthday, about a week before. I met him a restaurant/bar that his friends' band was playing at (they're now playing our reception) and we drank, listened to music, and had a good time. As a birthday surprise to me, he paid for everything and then took me to the theater to see "Silver Linings Playbook"...and that was the night that started it all

LizzyTish88 · June 2014

BF and I met in High School. We began dating Sophomore year. We had your typical HS relationship, on and off, then back on and back off. We dated this way until senior year. The summer after senior year I broke it off knowing we were going off to college 2 1/2 hours away from each other and we needed to do our own thing.

I dated other people, and he went through a crazy drinking/partying stage. This went on for about a year and a half. During this time, we talked and would hang out rarely. Fast forward to summer and he was having a house party. We got into a big fight right before it but all my friends were going to his house, so my choice was to go to the party, or sit home alone while they were all there. So they convinced me to go. I was so nervous that I was shaking when I walked into his house. He assured me everything was going to be okay and gave me a hug and kiss.

Things were going great until he introduced me to this girl named A. I didn't think much of it, until he walked me down to his bedroom to tell me that he liked A and they were just starting to talk. I freaked out (I was hammered) and ran out of the house. Drama ensued, We fought in the driveway for hours, and then I slept there. We were up all night talking about our problems and what needed to be fixed and decided to try again but slower this time.

We took the summer to take it slow and officially got back together in September and things have been great ever since! We have both grown and changed so much since HS and are not the same people we were back then, but I love him now more than I ever did. It wasn't in any way easy, but I wouldn't change any of it.

Hummingbird125 · June 2014

FI and I first met about 6 months before we started dating. I had a friend from LI, and FI had been one of that guy's college roommates. That guy had a photography show in the city one night, and FI and I were both invited to it. He and one of his friends actually bought me and my friend drinks that night, but we had someplace else to go and didn't chat with them for too long.

6 months later, our same mutual friend invited us to a bar for someone's birthday party. FI was there and I thought he was very cute, so I started talking to him. Well, one thing led to another, lots of drink were involved, and he came home with me. My birthday had been a few days before and I had to meet my mom, grandpa, and uncle for brunch the next morning, but FI hung out with me until the last possible minute before I had to get ready to go. He downloaded Breaking Bad and Party Down onto my computer, convinced me I had to watch both of them, and I think we watched some funny YouTube videos together in bed. I walked him to the door, and as he was standing outside my door saying goodbye, he FINALLY asked for my phone number. We went out on a real date the next weekend, and quickly started spending several days a week together and were a couple within 6 weeks :-)

lmcooper86 · June 2014

Short story: we met on eHarmony.

Long story: Last winter I was going through a really messy break up; my ex was the one who ended things, but we were living together and he didn't want either of us to move out. We spent about 6 months in limbo, with me thinking we were sort of together but not totally, and feeling shitty about absolutely everything. I eventually realized I was wasting my time trying to get him to take me back, and set up accounts on eHarmony and Match; I figured I would try them both for a bit and then commit to one of them.

I hated Match. Absolutely hated it. I was only on there for about 3 days before I closed that account, and I didn't open like95% of the emails I got from that site. But because I am an electronic hoarder I kept them all, just unread.

So I stuck with eHarmony, moved out of the place with my ex, and eventually got a message from my now FI (important note: FI has a really odd guy's name). We started talking, met fairly quickly, and both stopped dating anyone else pretty much immediately. About 2 months into our relationship we were watching tv and I was mindlessly cleaning out my email...until I came to a message from Match: "(FI's name) wants to get to know you". I opened the email, and it was him, same profile picture and everything, from 6 months before we met!

FI says he's never going to stop teasing me about ignoring him the first time around

@buddysmom80 - Yeah, online dating while living with an ex is so fucking awkward!!

minskat30 · June 2014

H and I met on Match. It almost didn't happen though because he "winked" at me...which I thought was lazy...write a damn email. My co-worker/friend (who met her H on Match) stopped by my office when I was looking at his profile and convinced me to wink back "because she wanted to go to an Indian wedding". She got her wish as one of my bridesmaids about a year and a half later.

I knew right away that H was the one for me...I remember calling my Mom after the date and telling her this was it. It took H until our 2nd date to reach the same conclusion...he's slow.

luckya23 · June 2014

@buddysmom80 & @lmcooper86 : I was living in my ex's house when I set up my profiles too! I didn't meet anyone until SO though, which was almost exactly 1 month after I moved into my own place, but I still had stuff in the old place so that was awkward.

Ex still has about 4 boxes of my books that he had stored somewhere else that I really do want back, but I'm too chicken to contact him :-(

labro · June 2014

FI and I met on OkCupid. His picture had been popping up as a potential match so I finally just decided to message him. We emailed back and forth for probably two or three weeks before exchanging numbers and deciding to go on a date. He really wanted to go to Six Flags (I did too, I LOVE roller coasters) but I wanted to make sure I actually liked him before committing to spending an entire day at a theme park with a total stranger. So we went on a date on a Saturday night got dinner, tried to see a movie but the theater was packed, left, and went to my favorite coffee shop. We sat and talked for at least three hours over coffee and I decided he probably wasn't an ax murderer. The next day, he got his date to Six Flags and we just hit it off from there. We got engaged after about 2 1/2 years of dating and we're getting married in just under 4 months.

Ollie08 · June 2014

Oooh! This is fun! I love hearing stories of how people met.

BF and I met on OKCupid. We had a terrible match percentage (60 something percent), and neither of us were really interested in dating the other, but we could talk for hours. We started chatting before Christmas in 2012. A few weeks later, I decided to cancel my account on OKC, so I gave him my number to keep in touch. I figured that if nothing else, I could end up with a great friend, or maybe he would introduce me to someone I'd be interested in dating. It took us until February to finally meet in person. He came out to help my mom move, and the rest is history.

I made a lot of assumptions based off of his OKC profile that were completely inaccurate. I thought he was destined to go nowhere. I assumed he was uneducated and immature. I also assumed he was an atheist. What I came to find out while we were moving my mom is that he's extremely driven. He has a Master's degree, and he's incredibly responsible. And not only was he religious (with the same beliefs as I have), but he served in the church, donating his time and talents to further their mission. I had NO idea that he was so much more than some stupid OKC profile.

Apparently I wasn't alone though. He swore he would never date someone with kids and that he was completely ok with not finding someone to marry. But apparently we met in person and that's all it took for us to realize that there was so much more we could offer one another.

emmaaa · June 2014

I love hearing everyone's stories! So much variety.

My story is not nearly as interesting. FI and I met when were 5 in kindergarten. Actually, we went to the same day care when we were 2 and 3 but I don't remember him. We were best friends and didn't start dating until senior year of high school.

Fi always likes to joke that he always knew he was going to marry me but I forgot about him. In elementary school, FI left for 3 years and went to a chart school and I never noticed. I just assumed he was in another class because we always saw each other at our BFF's house.

We did a lot of innocent flirting starting in 10th grade. I made him go to prom with me junior year. He asked me out after and I said no because I was going to an academic school all summer. As soon as I got home we started talking every day. We both had shoulder surgery that year. I offered to take him to school but he never took me up on the offer. After my surgery, he took me to school a few times and brought me home after football games (he was on the team, I was in the Pep Club).

He asked me to be his GF one night after a football game on the way home and then didn't kiss me for a week. Which was hard because I like kissing and always judged guys by how good they were at kissing (I wanted a good kisser). He lucked out that he was good at it. It is cute though because he was nervous.

He was the typical jock, football player who went to parties on the weekend. I was the opposite. I danced (refused to be on dance team) and was the "nerd" I suppose. I didn't go to parties and just basically hung out with my girlfriends. We were definitely in different "cliques" (I hate that word).

Ollie08 · June 2014

Blue & White said:

FI is one of my best friends' exes. Probably the only sane one lol. The summer after college, we decided we were going to have no strings attached relationships. She was going to get back with J and I was going to mess around with G. We both managed to have a decent summer of sneaking away to do so although A and J were still kinda awkward from the whole A breaking J's heart in high school thing. After the summer, I went to grad school and A went to japan. Being a dumb girl, I was hung up on G and texted J about it. Turns out J and I were like majorly aligned with our life goals and priorities and morals, etc. So one day I asked A if I could date her ex. She admitted she though we would be adorable together and said go for it. So yep, I stole her ex. When we got engaged, I called her to tell her I was marrying her ex lol. She couldn't make the wedding cause it was the same week as her cousins but I'm seeing her next week so obviously our relationship made it through.

Wait a second. Did you get un-married? ;-)

GoldenPenguin · June 2014

FI & I went to college together, but we didn't really know each other. We had a ton of mutual friends, and knew OF each other, but we never hung out or anything.

In the spring of 2011, I was on Match.com. I saw him on there, and he looked familiar, so I shot him a message and asked "This might sound weird, but did you go to Our College?" He wrote back that he did, and we exchanged a few messages. Meanwhile, I had gotten in touch with an old high school boyfriend, and we got together when I was home that summer, and started dating, so I deleted my Match profile.

FI had just moved up to where we live now, and by some strange fate, the first people he met were people that I was friends with, so I started seeing him in pictures hanging out with people I know, etc. We friended each other on FB, but I was with ex-bf, so that was really it.

Ex & I broke up in the spring of 2012, and I was miserable. (Many of the girls here can attest to that disaster, haha.) I was single that whole summer, and then in the fall, FI & I started exchanging FB posts about the Red Sox & Patriots, because we're both huge fans. One Saturday afternoon in September, I was sitting at home alone, drinking a bottle of wine, and decided that I was going to send him a message. So I posted on his wall "I think we need to have an Upstate reunion, what do you think?" and he wrote back "Just the two of us? Works for me." We went out to watch football the next day, and the rest is history.

We both remember HAVING the "official" conversation, but neither of us remember the date of that, so we just use our first date - Sept. 23 - as our anniversary.

I've always been a huge believer in fate & everything happens for a reason, and I definitely think it played a part with us. I had been trying to move away from here for a LONG time, but for some reason, it just never worked out. He moved up here for work, after living in NH and CT, and randomly got shipped up here knowing no one. And now we're getting MAAAARRIEEDDD!

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