My FI & I have been together for 8 years & own a home together. We are getting married in September & neither one of us wants separate bachelor/bachelorette parties. No need for a last hoorah of being single. Just a celebration of the next phase of our relationship. We want a combined party. We'll plan something fun with our bridal party & closest friends. We're not even asking the BM OR MOH to help plan it. The problem is the best man has a problem with what we want. He has actually said that it's his "right" to throw a bachelor party & if my FI won't commit to one that he'll just kidnap him at some point. This is causing a lot of tension. I'm pretty sure as the bride & groom that we get to decide what we want to do. Recommendations on how to deal with this?