Brides parents are deceased

Re: Brides parents are deceased

• manateehugger member

  

  June 2014

  I don't think you need to do anything in particular or replace the parent role. If your FI's parents want to process, go ahead and let them, and then just move straight into the wedding party processional. People wont question it.

  Of course, you could have your sisters seated if you/they just want to, but I wouldn't think of it as a replacement of sorts.

  You could also have a note in your program in memory of your parents.  

  

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• CMGragain member

  

  June 2014

  You do not have anyone replace your parents.  You simply start the processional on time.
  

  

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• KatWAG member

  

  June 2014

  I think it would be very weird to have your sister be seat in the processional in place of your mother. This isnt a major part of the ceremony and I think having your sister do it would only draw attention to the fact that its not your mother.

  

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• photokitty mod

  

  June 2014

  KatWAG said:

  I think it would be very weird to have your sister be seat in the processional in place of your mother. This isnt a major part of the ceremony and I think having your sister do it would only draw attention to the fact that its not your mother.

  This ^^ but if you do decide to have your sisters in the processional, you should have your FI's siblings in the processional as well. 

  
  

  GL!

  ~xoxo~

  
  

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• NYCMercedes member

  

  June 2014

  photokitty said:

  KatWAG said:

  I think it would be very weird to have your sister be seat in the processional in place of your mother. This isnt a major part of the ceremony and I think having your sister do it would only draw attention to the fact that its not your mother.

  This ^^ but if you do decide to have your sisters in the processional, you should have your FI's siblings in the processional as well. 

  
  

  GL!

  
  Actually, I disagree with both. If you want your sisters, fine. That in no way obligates you to have your FSIL.

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• olittle member

  

  June 2014

  Thank you all for the responses, I agree with you all!!  
  

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• squiggynjoe member

  

  June 2014

  I just wanted to tell you that my parents are both deceased as well.  When I got married in February, my husband's parents walked in, and then we did the bridal party, etc.  My uncle--who is my godfather--walked me down the aisle.  And then afterwards, at the reception, during the introductions one of the groomsman escorted my godmother in (she didn't come to the ceremony), and then my uncle and his wife walked in, followed by my husband's parents.

  
  

  It was unconventional, but it was more important to my husband than to me that my godparents be recognized in place of my own parents.  If it had been up to me, I wouldn't have done any of it. 

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• kmmssg mod

  

  June 2014

  NYCMercedes said:

  photokitty said:

  KatWAG said:

  I think it would be very weird to have your sister be seat in the processional in place of your mother. This isnt a major part of the ceremony and I think having your sister do it would only draw attention to the fact that its not your mother.

  This ^^ but if you do decide to have your sisters in the processional, you should have your FI's siblings in the processional as well. 

  
  

  GL!

  
  Actually, I disagree with both. If you want your sisters, fine. That in no way obligates you to have your FSIL.

  I am with @NYCMercedes because this is EXACTLY what I did when I got married.  I lost both of my parents when I was a child and was raised by an aunt and uncle.  Their 2 daughters became my sisters when I was growing up, one is 2 years older than me and one is 13 years older than me.  I am super tight with the older one.  When her mom died she became the defacto matriarch of the family.  It was very important to me that she be in the processional and she agreed to it.

  
  

  This really comes down to what YOU want to do.  There is no right or wrong to this and you need to choose what makes you comfortable and happy.  For me - I never had parents at any important milestones (graduations, first wedding boycotted by my aunt and uncle, births of my children) in my life because they were both gone by the time I was 10.  It was important to ME that the role be filled by my sister and that she process.

  
  

  This has no effect on your guests so you decide what works best for you and your family and go with your heart.  If I had skipped this in my wedding it would have definitely left me with that empty feeling once again.

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