How Did You Meet Your SO?

beanbot2002 · June 2014

We met in high school. Show Choir. No, I'm not kidding.

lennonkdc · June 2014

FI and I met 11 years ago at work. I was a hostess and he was a line cook. We were friendly and enjoyed flirting over a drink or two after work with a group of friends. Then I left to take a bartending gig and figured that was that. A few weeks later he and his BFF walked into the bar I was working at, which was down the street from his house. We hung out later that night, and the next night, and then for the next 11 years

[Deleted User] · June 2014

We were set up on a blind date!

I moved to Colorado from Virginia when I graduated college. I started working for my current company and had probably been there 2-3 months. My boss at the time came in one day and said "I have the perfect guy for you". Since I really didn't know many people, I thought what the heck...why not? My boss had us over for drinks, food and a game of pool with some other people. We hit it off right away and the rest is history.

FoxandBunny · June 2014

I met BF during high school. We technically met sometime in 9th grade (or even before then) because that's when we were in band together. However, I don't remember the first time I met him, and I remember my general assessment of him was he was cute, but had too much of an ego for me.

We didn't actually get to know each other until 10th grade. We had chemistry class together and got assigned seats next to each other in the back of the class for the whole year as we were the "good" kids who wouldn't talk much and would pay attention. We had another friend back with us, so the three of us were like peas in a pod in the back of the class. BF was a natural at chemistry and I sucked at it, so he made it his mission to help me. We had fun talking to each other but in a friend way as we both had other romantic interests at the time. I actually started dating my crush (not BF) at the end of 10th grade, even though it didn't last long (it's a interesting but long story that involves many love triangles and stalking, which I will tell if anyone wants to know).

By the time junior year rolled around, I had decided I didn't care what anyone thought so I'd just be myself and apparently had several guys wanting to date me. BF beat everyone to the punch though and asked me out over Facebook one night after a football game (he was in the marching band, I had taken a break for the year but went to the games for the band as all my friends were there). I said I didn't know and would have to get back to him, as in my naivety I thought he was asking me to be his girlfriend when he was apparently asking for a date. We talked all though the night, went to a friends house together the next day, went on a date the day after that, and have been dating ever since.

Ok, that was way longer than I meant it to be. Oh well.

TL:DR: We met in 9th grade and started dating in 11th grade. We got to know each other in chemistry class.

LabLove86 · June 2014

Ollie08 said:

Oooh! This is fun! I love hearing stories of how people met.

BF and I met on OKCupid. We had a terrible match percentage (60 something percent), and neither of us were really interested in dating the other, but we could talk for hours. We started chatting before Christmas in 2012. A few weeks later, I decided to cancel my account on OKC, so I gave him my number to keep in touch. I figured that if nothing else, I could end up with a great friend, or maybe he would introduce me to someone I'd be interested in dating. It took us until February to finally meet in person. He came out to help my mom move, and the rest is history.

I made a lot of assumptions based off of his OKC profile that were completely inaccurate. I thought he was destined to go nowhere. I assumed he was uneducated and immature. I also assumed he was an atheist. What I came to find out while we were moving my mom is that he's extremely driven. He has a Master's degree, and he's incredibly responsible. And not only was he religious (with the same beliefs as I have), but he served in the church, donating his time and talents to further their mission. I had NO idea that he was so much more than some stupid OKC profile.

Apparently I wasn't alone though. He swore he would never date someone with kids and that he was completely ok with not finding someone to marry. But apparently we met in person and that's all it took for us to realize that there was so much more we could offer one another.

My 'compatibility %' with BF was GREAT - like - 95% or something like that. . . . then after we were dating for a few months I found out that he only read about half of the questions that he answered - which would make sense as to why he was an atheist who wanted a Catholic wedding, a vegan who's favorite dish was Steak and potatoes, and a virgin who had had threesomes . . . . . I'm so glad that I had read those questions . . . I still give him a hard time about some of his answers!

Just FWIW - he is an atheist, he loves red meat, and was not a virgin when we met! Haha

behsco90 · June 2014

I love everyone's stories! BF and I met at work, we were friends for 6 years, and one night we went to a coworker's going away party at a bar, I got drunk, he drove me home. I told him to come in. Somehow we ended up spooning on my bed. He said, "See, this is why people think we are dating!" (A lot of our coworkers kept asking if we were dating) Then somehow I got him to tell me that he liked me. So we decided to risk our friendship and it all worked out!

mrsmorales2be · June 2014

My crazy story - I was a nun...well, a novice, to be more exact, not in vows. He was a brother, studying to be a priest in the same Order. We knew of each other and met in passing a few times, but of course it was totally fraternal because I was totally going to be a nun!

Fast forward a couple of years - I chose to leave my community. Within the next few months 4 of my friends, including FI, also left. We all kept in touch with each other because it's a pretty tough adjustment. FI and I wound up talking every day for months but nothing happened for almost a year when we finally decided to take a chance on a long distance relationship. The rest is history!

lilacck28 · June 2014

I had just graduated from college and moved back home. I was trying to decide if I should apply to law school or go for my MFA in studio art. My friends all lived elsewhere, so my snarky grandmother said "Lilacck, get with the times! Join a dating site. You need a social life" and offered to pay for an account on JDate (she clearly wanted me to find a nice Jewish boy, even though she considers herself an atheist.)

Well, you listen to grandma in my family, or you'll never hear the end of it. After signing up I decided "okay, I'll message some people and then be done with it." I saw fiance's profile, saw that he was similarly not religious, graduated college a year ahead of me, and went to school in the same city my parents had gone to graduate school (which is where they met-- their roommates who were dating each other set them up on a blind date. I love that story.) And besides his profile picture, which was terrible, he was so good looking. Like a model.

My fiance hadn't dated anyone in about a year and his best girl-friend convinced him to do online dating. She signed him up for OKcupid. He felt like a lot of people on OK cupid that he was coming across weren't really his type... a lot seemed like crazy partiers or had kids (which at 23 he was just not interested in or ready for.) So he signed up for Jdate on a whim.

Anyway, he messaged me back after I had been on JDate for a whopping two days (out of my six month subscription). He wanted to email rather than go through the dating site. He didn't tell me at the time, but his one month paid account was about a day away from being over when he received my message. I almost didn't give him my email because I thought that would be too personal too quickly. We emailed for about a week or two, and entertained each other through Hurricane Irene and our subsequent power outages. He asked me out and I told him we have to wait a little longer so that my power can come back and I'll be able to take a shower. After I got my shower, we went out for coffee, and talked for 3 hours. My parents were terrified by the whole online thing, so without my knowledge, kept circling the coffee shop to make sure I didn't get abducted.

A week and a few dates later we had a terribly awkward first kiss, clanking teeth and all. I was embarrassed, and he told me he didn't want to date anyone else and was taking down all of his accounts. Another week and a bunch more dates later, he freaked me out by telling me he loved me. I didn't believe him. He didn't push it. We've been together for almost three years now, and we're getting married next year. Grandma is very proud of her achievement.

Ollie08 · June 2014

lilacck28 said:

I had just graduated from college and moved back home. I was trying to decide if I should apply to law school or go for my MFA in studio art. My friends all lived elsewhere, so my snarky grandmother said "Lilacck, get with the times! Join a dating site. You need a social life" and offered to pay for an account on JDate (she clearly wanted me to find a nice Jewish boy, even though she considers herself an atheist.)

Well, you listen to grandma in my family, or you'll never hear the end of it. After signing up I decided "okay, I'll message some people and then be done with it." I saw fiance's profile, saw that he was similarly not religious, graduated college a year ahead of me, and went to school in the same city my parents had gone to graduate school (which is where they met-- their roommates who were dating each other set them up on a blind date. I love that story.) And besides his profile picture, which was terrible, he was so good looking. Like a model.

My fiance hadn't dated anyone in about a year and his best girl-friend convinced him to do online dating. She signed him up for OKcupid. He felt like a lot of people on OK cupid that he was coming across weren't really his type... a lot seemed like crazy partiers or had kids (which at 23 he was just not interested in or ready for.) So he signed up for Jdate on a whim.

Anyway, he messaged me back after I had been on JDate for a whopping two days (out of my six month subscription). He wanted to email rather than go through the dating site. He didn't tell me at the time, but his one month paid account was about a day away from being over when he received my message. I almost didn't give him my email because I thought that would be too personal too quickly. We emailed for about a week or two, and entertained each other through Hurricane Irene and our subsequent power outages. He asked me out and I told him we have to wait a little longer so that my power can come back and I'll be able to take a shower. After I got my shower, we went out for coffee, and talked for 3 hours. My parents were terrified by the whole online thing, so without my knowledge, kept circling the coffee shop to make sure I didn't get abducted.

A week and a few dates later we had a terribly awkward first kiss, clanking teeth and all. I was embarrassed, and he told me he didn't want to date anyone else and was taking down all of his accounts. Another week and a bunch more dates later, he freaked me out by telling me he loved me. I didn't believe him. He didn't push it. We've been together for almost three years now, and we're getting married next year. Grandma is very proud of her achievement.

I love this story, but particularly the bolded. I'd SO be that parent!

Ollie08 · June 2014

LabLove86 said:

Ollie08 said:

Oooh! This is fun! I love hearing stories of how people met.

BF and I met on OKCupid. We had a terrible match percentage (60 something percent), and neither of us were really interested in dating the other, but we could talk for hours. We started chatting before Christmas in 2012. A few weeks later, I decided to cancel my account on OKC, so I gave him my number to keep in touch. I figured that if nothing else, I could end up with a great friend, or maybe he would introduce me to someone I'd be interested in dating. It took us until February to finally meet in person. He came out to help my mom move, and the rest is history.

I made a lot of assumptions based off of his OKC profile that were completely inaccurate. I thought he was destined to go nowhere. I assumed he was uneducated and immature. I also assumed he was an atheist. What I came to find out while we were moving my mom is that he's extremely driven. He has a Master's degree, and he's incredibly responsible. And not only was he religious (with the same beliefs as I have), but he served in the church, donating his time and talents to further their mission. I had NO idea that he was so much more than some stupid OKC profile.

Apparently I wasn't alone though. He swore he would never date someone with kids and that he was completely ok with not finding someone to marry. But apparently we met in person and that's all it took for us to realize that there was so much more we could offer one another.

My 'compatibility %' with BF was GREAT - like - 95% or something like that. . . . then after we were dating for a few months I found out that he only read about half of the questions that he answered - which would make sense as to why he was an atheist who wanted a Catholic wedding, a vegan who's favorite dish was Steak and potatoes, and a virgin who had had threesomes . . . . . I'm so glad that I had read those questions . . . I still give him a hard time about some of his answers!

Just FWIW - he is an atheist, he loves red meat, and was not a virgin when we met! Haha

That's too funny @LabLove86 - BF read the questions and answered them honestly, but we didn't answer the same questions. He had lots of the odd ones that I skipped over, and I think that's why it brought down the match %.

NowIamMrsKlein · June 2014

I had recently fallen back into the trap of a friends with benefits situation with an old crush. I had been cruelly dumped by a guy ("I love dating you, but you're just not the type of girl one marries"), and was looking for comfort in all the wrong places. I started going to some parties with this 'friend' and hit it off with one of his female friends, adding her to facebook.

Fast forward a month or two and I had posted something on this newly acquired friends FB wall. someone on her friends list (spoiler alert: FI!) saw my comment and thought I was witty and subsequently clicked on my profile to see my pic. Apparently he 'couldnt believe this girl existed!' (short, redheaded, uber dork) and decided to do something completely out of character and ask his friend to set us up.

Friend obviously knew of my current 'dating' situation and thankfully decided that even though she was more friends with the guy i was seeing, that it was an unhealthy relationship for both of us and she really thought that this mysterious FB guy and I would make a way better match. So she texted me up and asked me to hang out and if I would be interested in meeting someone that she thought I would really click with.

I sat on it for a day and then decided I was getting much to old to be playing some game, texted friend with benefit and told him I was done and then texted girl that I was in for getting set up.

Met during a beer and wing group hang out. Talked a bit but didnt really get a good conversation in due to the venue. I thought he seemed like a nice guy but he didnt ask for my phone number at the end of the night so I thought that was that. Apparently he kicked himself for 2 days for not being brave enough to ask me out, and finally with prompting from the girl, sent me a message via FB with his phone number and asked me to text him sometime.

2 years later we are happily engaged.

lilacck28 · June 2014

@Ollie08 Yeah, I've basically been bred to be that type of parent

My poor possible future children! I've already told fiance that he's going to have to try and keep me from being too overbearing.

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