At a loss with how to proceed. My fmil is a very strong personality it's hard nothing I seem to do is right.
We ask for a list of who they would want to invite and she tells us if we invite anyone on her husbands side of the family she will not go to the wedding and she will think less fi and never forgive him. After much deliberation we agree to give her what she wants (all though I think it is wrong) but there is always something new she wants to complain about.
Now she wants and thinks she has the right to choose the wedding colors, flowers, ceremony, ect. My fi says to ignore it but it's hard every time she hears any plans for the wedding she turns up her nose and says wat we should be doing. When she asked about flowers and I told her my moms suggestion she flat out said ur mom already did a wedding with your brother this my turn.
I don't want to make anyone upset but I can't appease every whim she has in fear she will have a tantrum and not go to the wedding.
Her newest issue is she wants my fi's sisters In my bridal party when it was explained that I already have my bridesmaids she stated how it was wrong of me not to have them in it they belong in it and that I should call them and tell them they won't be in my wedding party ( personally I think if I call and said in case you are wondering you are not a bridesmaid is rude I'm sure they know they would have been asked if they are a bridesmaid and are not assuming) .
Ah why can't she just be happy for us instead of always telling me what I chose is wrong. Too much. Too many people. Wrong color. At a loss.