I think my twin sister and I are the black sheep of the family, but in a good way. My mother is always late. I used to be a little late, but I used to work overnight shifts (and I would always tell people if I could not arrive that early). My mom showed up an hour late to my bridal shower, and two hours late to my sister's baby shower. Now that I have a normal job, I am always on time, if not, I make it a point to be a little early. (But not so early it is considered rude). My sister and I have deep concern for others where everyone else in our family only cares about themselves.
My younger half-sister sister is a "recovered" heroin addict... lots of drama there. And my younger half-brother is such a chauvinist, and acts just like my dad. My step-mom is a wonderful person, and has been so good to my half brother, he takes advantage of her and is always nasty to her. He treats his wonderful fiancee like dirt, and he was really pissed when he found out she was pregnant with a girl and not a boy. My father is the most selfish person on earth, he almost qualifies for a deadbeat, except he stays in my life to stir up drama, until I had the common sense to no longer tolerate it. And my older sister gives up her family for any man in her life. She is with an abusive controlling husband, now, who tells her what she is and isn't allowed to eat, who she is allowed to see or talk to, and she has to answer her phone whenever he calls (not an exaggeration... every 20 minutes). "I am watching a movie. No there is no guy in the background. It's a movie. I'm at my sister's... I swear I'm not lying." I think my twin sister and I turned out so well because we had each other. We kept our head down and didn't let the toxicity affect who we wanted to be.
But my twin sister and I are not the same people either. We have almost the exact same likes, but in guys and music.In school, I was the swimmer and she was the runner. I am submissive and she takes the reins in almost any situation. She is an extrovert, I am an introvert. She is left handed, I am right handed. SHe excelled in Math and Science. I excelled in English, French, and social studies. She is a baker, and I am more of a cook (but I bake as well).
My older sister and I are very similar. We both worked hard in academics but she decided to take a break from college and work. She's a wife and mom now and is very driven and someone that I look up to. I got both my Associate's and Bachelor's and am working a customer service position mainly for the benefits. My little brother is, in one word, an asshole. Going on 19 he barely passed high school and dropped out of college, claiming that he was getting nothing out of it and would rather work. He has a crappy part-time job and blows his money on video games and tattoos. We don't speak to each other. The last time he spoke to me, which was over a year ago, he said, "I could give two shits about you." He was present at my wedding (Mom's request) and sat in the corner sullen and glaring and everyone.
See, my sisters and I have very little in common on paper, but you wouldn't know that when we're together and we're absolutely BFFs. Driven by different things, totally different paths, but the same values and mannerisms and we finish each other's sentences.
Ugh, my sister and I are 10 years apart in age, I'm the younger at 34. She is just the biggest drama queen. There is even a nasty poem about her that people say back in my hometown (where she still lives) because she is such a sh!t stirrer. We are usually really close but do have huge fights once in a while. While I would never even mention to my children that we are fighting she is ALL about telling my nephew that I don't love him or that I'm mad at him even when it has nothing to do with him. We got into a fight close to his high school graduation and for no apparent reason she told him that I didn't want to come to his graduation anymore. We already had taken off work and were planning to make the trip. I had to call my nephew and talk to him which was awkward for both of us. That's the kind of thing she does. She is crazy. She just can not be nice.
Most people are shocked once they realize that my brother and I are siblings. We we raised in the same house only three years apart and people seriously don't know we are siblings because we are so vastly different. We don't look alike or act anything alike and the downside is that we were never close. I will never understand how it happened...
People react the same when they find out that my sister and I are related. She was always the social butterfly and more popular than me in high school, so she knew more people. Whenever I meet someone that I know knows who she is, I'll mention that I'm her sister and I'm always met with a shocked reaction. It's not possible for us to be more different from each other than we already are. And we had the same childhood, same experiences, and we're only 20 months apart (I'm older).
Glad I'm not the only one that deals with this lol. We shared a common group by being involved in some of the same sports. I'm still involved in that same general community and even today people are shocked to find out we're siblings. I always think it's weird because our last name isn't that common so I always think "How many others in the area have this name??"
This would be interesting for psychology studies on why people differ so much when raised exactly the same. I know some of you said you weren't raised exactly the same (age differrences, step parents, etc) but it's still really interesting! Thanks for all the responses!
My grandmother forced my mom to surrender a baby girl for adoption 9 years before I was born. When my half-sister was 45 (21 years after our mom passed away) she decided to look for her birth mother and found my grandmother and aunt who then put her in touch with me. We were never raised together and we only met 3 years ago but people are astounded when they interact with both of us - they find it so hard to believe that we weren't raised together because many of our mannerisms are so similar.
Chalk one up for nature. I'm so thankful she came looking for us - My only wish is that she would have had the opportunity to meet our mom in person. Mom never wanted to give her up but in those days parents & society could exert a lot more pressure on a young pregnant woman than they can today.
I'm the boring one in my family. I like to read and chill and I'm totally fine just sitting while FI games, or joining him if he's playing a game I want in on. My siblings are more wild - my brother and my middle sister were WAY wild growing up. My baby sister is a little more mellow like me but then she'll have moments where she just gets wound up and will shoot crap off like it's nothing. She's the most outgoing of us all - she's the one that stood in the middle of a crowded NYC subway and talked in the THICKEST Alabama drawl about how hard it was to ride her cow to the walmart and get the milk back to the house before it "spohlt" (translation: spoiled). People sitting near her were trying not to crack up because she was so deadpan serious that they couldn't figure out if she was joking or not.
My sister is hideously irresponsible and a dramatic bitch. We don't have a relationship. Our brother refuses to see or speak to her. My father is about one tantrum away from disowning her. I just cannot wrap my mind around why she's that way. I know part is what my brother and I went through, but I honestly was jealous for many years that she didn't go through that. I'm too good because I went to college out of state - I needed a break from home then. She had decent offers but didn't follow through. I'm stuck up because I don't drink. Sorry, BTDT, realized I was not solving my problems that way and was tired of being so sick from even one drink.
@jenna8984 Yeah, she's what we call a "spit-fire" around here. I can't stand how people say "bald" peanuts, either, haha! I have worked very hard to keep my accent fairly soft... although if I get angry or frustrated (or a call from my grandmother) it comes out really bad, haha.
I have worked very hard to keep my accent fairly soft... although if I get angry or frustrated (or a call from my grandmother) it comes out really bad, haha.
Too funny! I haven't lived in the south for too much of my life but both sides of my family are southern and my mom always had her southern accent. H pokes fun at me now after I get off the phone with one of my family members because I guess my accent comes back with a vengeance :-)
Re: Sibling differences
My grandmother forced my mom to surrender a baby girl for adoption 9 years before I was born. When my half-sister was 45 (21 years after our mom passed away) she decided to look for her birth mother and found my grandmother and aunt who then put her in touch with me. We were never raised together and we only met 3 years ago but people are astounded when they interact with both of us - they find it so hard to believe that we weren't raised together because many of our mannerisms are so similar.
Chalk one up for nature. I'm so thankful she came looking for us - My only wish is that she would have had the opportunity to meet our mom in person. Mom never wanted to give her up but in those days parents & society could exert a lot more pressure on a young pregnant woman than they can today.
My brother and I get along great.