I am a 40+ (pushing 50) bride on her second go-round. This will be my fiance's first marriage. If it were up to me, we would go somewhere and do a small ceremony, but he wants to do things fairly customarily, with a few twists.
My dilemma is that my best friend lives on the opposite coast and has multiple health issues. She is also very sensitive and a huge worrier. I told her when the wedding was but told her that I would completely understand if she couldn't be there. She really never knows from day to day how she will feel...she is already obsessing about coming and worrying over small things, and our wedding isn't for another 18 months. Under normal circumstances, I would ask her to be in the wedding party in a heartbeat, but I don't want to put additional pressure on her to make the trip if she's not up for it. I guess I should just tell her that and see what she says, but I thought I'd see what others think.