My FMIL has decided she wants to throw me a bridal shower because most of my friends and family are 9 hours away and she will most likely not be attending the one my bridesmaids are throwing for me. I gave her a list of people that we are inviting to the wedding that are from the area for her to invite, but she is now planning to invite people we are not inviting to the wedding. I had my fiancé tell her it is not appropriate to invite people we are not inviting to the wedding (he actually said this word for word) and she keeps saying it's ok their feelings would be hurt if we didn't invite them. These are people I have never met before and it will be the first time I am meeting them at my shower. His grandmother is also starting to say she wants to invite other people (also not coming to the wedding) and I feel like it is starting to spiral out of control. My parents are paying for most of the wedding and we don't have the money or space to invite more people. I want to make sure it is clear who is coming to the wedding but also not make this the most awkward shower for me with people I don't know. Any thoughts welcome!