I just have to say I don't get what the fuck goes wrong in people's heads that makes them think they can say any inappropriate shit whenever they feel, about any topic. Pretty much since I got pregnant with out first son people were like "When are you getting married?" "You're supposed to be married before you have kids" "I know this wasn't expected but you could have gone to the courthouse". (Our son was planned, sorry to disappoint!) Because all of those aren't in any way rude or overstepping boundaries. Cool. So usually I'd give some vague polite this-isnt-any-of-your-fucking-business-i-got-this-shit-under-control statement, and I'd move on.
So, I am pregnant again. This time it was a surprise, but we knew we wanted a second child anyways, pre or post wedding. Our wedding is coming up in May. So I post a picture on fb of my first few baby purchases. A friend asks when I was due, I answered. They asked when the wedding was, I answered. They gave congrats and said perfect timing, etc.
Cousin says "I know you want the big wedding but you're going to have two kids. Maybe just save the money for diapers and kid stuff and go to the courthouse. That's what I would do. I think spending money on centerpieces and favors and all that at this point is a waste anyways."
FOR ONCE, I stood up to one of these no-filter assholes. I said "I don't remember asking you what you would do in my situation. We can afford diapers, "kid stuff", and the wedding we want. Thanks for the free financial advice though."