My fiance has a small family with only 2 children ages 10 and 13 however I come from a large family with 20 kids under 18. He really wants his family kids to come however I feel like if we invite his kids we have to invite my families kids and now we are talking a lot more money and a way larger guest list. I've tried explaining this to him and that it's really going to hurt our budget but I don't think he's getting it. On top of this the kids on his side do not have the best table manors and are quite messy. At this point I don't know what to do.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated! you're welcome to be brutally honest