I mind the gap!

Mkincaid2014 · June 2014

So we're going to a wedding this weekend that is having a pointless gap (pointless because the ceremony is starting late enough that it could have gone right into a lovely 4pm cocktail hour). I'm estimating we'll have at least 2 hours to kill - just enough time to get bored, but not enough time to go out and do something. This realization among my family members has led to many discussions about what we can do to pass the time.

Here are our options so far:

- Use the time for a costume change. My idea of daytime formal is very different from evening formal, and I want to be proper for the time of day, right?

- Bring bottles of wine with us and sit in the lobby of the hotel drinking until we are allowed to board the transportation to go to the reception site.

- Go get some food somewhere because if the cocktail hour doesn't start until 6:30, we probably won't have dinner until 8pm or later.

Any other thoughts or suggestions? This is why I HATE gaps.

lilacck28 · June 2014

Charades.

freebread03 · June 2014

Uh happy hour, obviously!

April192002 · June 2014

Hit up a bar. Actually, I'd be more likely to go to a restaurant to get dinner because I'm a vegetarian and usually don't have many food options so I get really hungry. I think an outfit change is acceptable as a lot of brides do it, even without a gap. I might actually change into a costume for the hell of it, depending on how drunk I got when packing (if traveling) or how many drinks I had in between the ceremony and reception.

lyndausvi · June 2014

Hit up a bar. That is mine plan for the one I have in the fall.

CMGragain · June 2014

I would go home....and stay there!

Nymeru · June 2014

Get something to eat and drink and change your clothes. It sounds like you'll have plenty of time.

schellzinator · June 2014

I've always handled gaps by going to a bar/restaurant and having an appetizer and a drink.

minskat30 · June 2014

Hate gaps! Went to a wedding with an ex one time and he was in the wedding party so not only was there a gap, he had to leave during the gap to take pictures with the B&G. I knew no one at the wedding so I ended up just going shopping at a nearby mall. If you can find a bar/restaurant, I would recommend that.

southernbelle0915 · June 2014

Have a nap, afternoon delight, photo bomb the pictures, find a bar....

Unhosted gaps need to go the way of the dinosaurs.

LondonLisa · June 2014

I wish we could post this whenever someone says "no one minds a gap"

beachyone15 · June 2014

I'd definitely be drinking.

Marzipan13 · June 2014

lilacck28 said:

Charades.

Yep, I was going to suggest Pictionary!

*draws nothing, leaves the board blank*
Everyone: Ooh, OOH! IT'S A GAP! IT'S AN UNHOSTED GAP!

-1,000,000 points to everyone-

thisismynickname2 · June 2014

In all honesty, FI and I are invited to a wedding that will be the same day as Major Horse Race (not going to get too specific- anonymous boards and all).

We learned there will be a gap. Major Horse Races are normally late afternoon, so we are going to hit an OTB! Mint juleps, anyone?

QueerFemme · June 2014

I'd skip the cermony and go straight to cocktail hour.

rhiannon383 · June 2014

We usually pass Gap Time by going to the bar, but I like the wine in the lobby plan! Although a snack would probably be a good idea in case you do eat later.

annathy03 · June 2014

I'd probably head to a bar and grab a drink and appetizer, but I love the idea of drinking in the hotel lobby too.

I'd be tempted to skip the ceremony, but I enjoy them so I'd probably still go. I've been fortunate enough not to go to a wedding with a gap, and several of them have been Catholic, so it CAN be done lurkers! 4pm cocktail hours rock.

Mkincaid2014 · June 2014

Thanks ladies! Yes, my frustration comes from the fact that this couple seems to have one of the lucky few Catholic weddings that starts later in the afternoon, and there is absolutely NO NEED for a gap to still have an evening event.

My elderly grandparents are riding with us between events, it's 4 hours away, and we can't check into the hotel prior to the ceremony. Bring on the day drinking...

lyndausvi · June 2014

I like day drinking. DH would take the afternoon off and we would go bar hoping walking around the neighborhood. Fun times.

Not as much fun when you have an obligation later in the day, unless you are with other guests in the same boat.

Do your grandparents drink? Mine all did. Some of my favorite times are drinking with my elderly family memebers. They are a hoot.

Mkincaid2014 · June 2014

lyndausvi said:

I like day drinking. DH would take the afternoon off and we would go bar hoping walking around the neighborhood. Fun times.

Not as much fun when you have an obligation later in the day, unless you are with other guests in the same boat.

Do your grandparents drink? Mine all did. Some of my favorite times are drinking with my elderly family memebers. They are a hoot.

Nope, grandparents on this side of the family do not drink nor like the fact we drink.

It would be a totally different game on the other side of the family. My other grandmother asked me to make a screwdriver for her and then complained that it wasn't transparent. :-)

larrygaga · June 2014

I hope you ended up drinking and it makes the B+G mad that people showed up tipsy.

lyndausvi · June 2014

Mkincaid2014 said:

lyndausvi said:

I like day drinking. DH would take the afternoon off and we would go bar hoping walking around the neighborhood. Fun times.

Not as much fun when you have an obligation later in the day, unless you are with other guests in the same boat.

Do your grandparents drink? Mine all did. Some of my favorite times are drinking with my elderly family memebers. They are a hoot.

Nope, grandparents on this side of the family do not drink nor like the fact we drink.

It would be a totally different game on the other side of the family. My other grandmother asked me to make a screwdriver for her and then complained that it wasn't transparent. :-)

I can't relate. I don't have any sides that do not drink.

Hosting to my grandparents was very, very important. The minute you walked in the door they were offering you a cocktail. If you were lucky she just made crab cakes or cookies. Well they were on a fixed income and didn't have much. Even my dad (their son-in-law) deposited a few hundred bucks in their account once a month from his paycheck to help out. So for xmas my cousins and me would buy them cases of beer, bottles of gin and whiskey. They would store the beer under grandpop's bed, liquor in their closet (the lived in a small 2 bedroom apt). That way they could still be good hosts when anyone popped in. Good memories.

Mkincaid2014 · June 2014

lyndausvi said:

Mkincaid2014 said:

lyndausvi said:

I like day drinking. DH would take the afternoon off and we would go bar hoping walking around the neighborhood. Fun times.

Not as much fun when you have an obligation later in the day, unless you are with other guests in the same boat.

Do your grandparents drink? Mine all did. Some of my favorite times are drinking with my elderly family memebers. They are a hoot.

Nope, grandparents on this side of the family do not drink nor like the fact we drink.

It would be a totally different game on the other side of the family. My other grandmother asked me to make a screwdriver for her and then complained that it wasn't transparent. :-)

I can't relate. I don't have any sides that do not drink.

Hosting to my grandparents was very, very important. The minute you walked in the door they were offering you a cocktail. If you were lucky she just made crab cakes or cookies. Well they were on a fixed income and didn't have much. Even my dad (their son-in-law) deposited a few hundred bucks in their account once a month from his paycheck to help out. So for xmas my cousins and me would buy them cases of beer, bottles of gin and whiskey. They would store the beer under grandpop's bed, liquor in their closet (the lived in a small 2 bedroom apt). That way they could still be good hosts when anyone popped in. Good memories.

That's really adorable. My grandmother has this huge bottle of Grey Goose from when it first came out 20 years ago or so. We have made quite a dent in it over the years - I'm her vodka buddy. I think it's still in her dining room china cabinet.

Aray82 · June 2014

My extended family is big on both gaps and costume changes...before the ceremony you can hear everyone around you whispering about changes of hairstyles and dress for the later reception. But if you're doing a costume change, why not go all out and do an actual costume: super hero, French maid...there's gotta be a Party City nearby, right?

annathy03 · June 2014

lyndausvi said:

Mkincaid2014 said:

lyndausvi said:

I like day drinking. DH would take the afternoon off and we would go bar hoping walking around the neighborhood. Fun times.

Not as much fun when you have an obligation later in the day, unless you are with other guests in the same boat.

Do your grandparents drink? Mine all did. Some of my favorite times are drinking with my elderly family memebers. They are a hoot.

Nope, grandparents on this side of the family do not drink nor like the fact we drink.

It would be a totally different game on the other side of the family. My other grandmother asked me to make a screwdriver for her and then complained that it wasn't transparent. :-)

I can't relate. I don't have any sides that do not drink.

Hosting to my grandparents was very, very important. The minute you walked in the door they were offering you a cocktail. If you were lucky she just made crab cakes or cookies. Well they were on a fixed income and didn't have much. Even my dad (their son-in-law) deposited a few hundred bucks in their account once a month from his paycheck to help out. So for xmas my cousins and me would buy them cases of beer, bottles of gin and whiskey. They would store the beer under grandpop's bed, liquor in their closet (the lived in a small 2 bedroom apt). That way they could still be good hosts when anyone popped in. Good memories.

This brought a smile to my face, that's a really cool story

lyndausvi · June 2014

annathy03 said:

lyndausvi said:

Mkincaid2014 said:

lyndausvi said:

I like day drinking. DH would take the afternoon off and we would go bar hoping walking around the neighborhood. Fun times.

Not as much fun when you have an obligation later in the day, unless you are with other guests in the same boat.

Do your grandparents drink? Mine all did. Some of my favorite times are drinking with my elderly family memebers. They are a hoot.

Nope, grandparents on this side of the family do not drink nor like the fact we drink.

It would be a totally different game on the other side of the family. My other grandmother asked me to make a screwdriver for her and then complained that it wasn't transparent. :-)

I can't relate. I don't have any sides that do not drink.

Hosting to my grandparents was very, very important. The minute you walked in the door they were offering you a cocktail. If you were lucky she just made crab cakes or cookies. Well they were on a fixed income and didn't have much. Even my dad (their son-in-law) deposited a few hundred bucks in their account once a month from his paycheck to help out. So for xmas my cousins and me would buy them cases of beer, bottles of gin and whiskey. They would store the beer under grandpop's bed, liquor in their closet (the lived in a small 2 bedroom apt). That way they could still be good hosts when anyone popped in. Good memories.

This brought a smile to my face, that's a really cool story

**** SITB ***

thanks. It was fun. Of course these days people would be horrified at an 8 year old grabbing beer for grandma and pouring it perfectly into her glass bottom frosted mug. But I wouldn't trade those memories for the world. It also was the start of me learning what a good host was and how you didn't need to be rich to be one.

lyndausvi · June 2014

annathy03 said:

lyndausvi said:

Mkincaid2014 said:

lyndausvi said:

I like day drinking. DH would take the afternoon off and we would go bar hoping walking around the neighborhood. Fun times.

Not as much fun when you have an obligation later in the day, unless you are with other guests in the same boat.

Do your grandparents drink? Mine all did. Some of my favorite times are drinking with my elderly family memebers. They are a hoot.

Nope, grandparents on this side of the family do not drink nor like the fact we drink.

It would be a totally different game on the other side of the family. My other grandmother asked me to make a screwdriver for her and then complained that it wasn't transparent. :-)

I can't relate. I don't have any sides that do not drink.

Hosting to my grandparents was very, very important. The minute you walked in the door they were offering you a cocktail. If you were lucky she just made crab cakes or cookies. Well they were on a fixed income and didn't have much. Even my dad (their son-in-law) deposited a few hundred bucks in their account once a month from his paycheck to help out. So for xmas my cousins and me would buy them cases of beer, bottles of gin and whiskey. They would store the beer under grandpop's bed, liquor in their closet (the lived in a small 2 bedroom apt). That way they could still be good hosts when anyone popped in. Good memories.

This brought a smile to my face, that's a really cool story

**** SITB ***

thanks. It was fun. Of course these days people would be horrified at an 8 year old grabbing beer for grandma and pouring it perfectly into her glass bottom frosted mug. But I wouldn't trade those memories for the world. It also was the start of me learning what a good host was and how you didn't need to be rich to be one.

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