TalkRadio this morning was discussing weddings...Is this really a thing??

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826 · June 2014

I have a friend that goes to them because she likes to catch up with people she hasn't seen in a while. I try to discourage her because what kind of friend only wants to see you when they need a quick way to turn cash? Might as well go hang out by the pawn shop. I tell her she's hanging out with people and she isnt even intvited to the end result of what they are gathering money for. Makes me feel used

I'm being mean... I'll stop now.

kaitlynmichelle · June 2014

Stag and Does are popular around the area of Ontario I am from. I haven't heard of them around BC (yet? ). I can't stand them and won't attend them. Even though I live across the country I still get FB requests or even private messages just asking me to at least buy a ticket. No.

I'm paying for my own damn wedding, stop asking me to fund yours ESPECIALLY when I'm not even invited.

Most of the weddings I've been to were cash bars, but I've also been to an open bar once.

kellamity · June 2014

I grew up in Alberta and had no idea what a stag and doe was until I moved to Ontario (GTA). I'd say maybe 1/3 of my friends who have gotten married have had a stag and doe. I've never gone to a stag and doe because I see them as shameless cash grabs, especially because I've been invited to stag and does when I knew I wasn't going to be invited to the actual wedding.

All of the weddings I've gone to have been open bar. I had no idea that cash bars/toonie bars were so common. every so often I've heard of someone having a toonie bar but I always thought it was the exception.

ETA: I should specify that none of my really close friends have had stag and does. If I was in a bridal party or really close friends with a couple, I would attend their stag and doe - up to this point I've only gotten the typical Facebook invites.

mrscomposer · June 2014

As far as I can remember, I've never been to a wedding that DIDN'T have a loonie or toonie bar. Wine was always paid for by the couple, but anything else was a couple of bucks.

I'm born and raised Albertan, now living in Manitoba, and I had never heard of a Stag and Doe until I moved (they call them socials around here). I don't understand them. I hear more about socials than I do about weddings, probably because the gas stations around here always sell tickets for the couples. Thankfully, my fiance doesn't like them (he's lived in MB longer than I have), so having one wasn't even an option for us.

LadyMillil · June 2014

People go to them in my hometown because 1) they know the couple and see it as a way to help them take the next step in their lives 2) drinks are cheaper than going to the only local bar 3) there is actually nothing else to do on a Saturday night (1 bar, 3 restaurants, no movies, theatre, clubs within 100km)

jennyleigh16 · June 2014

I live in a small town just outside Ottawa, Ontario and I see them advertised in the local paper a lot next to the engagement announcements. I've never attended one and I think they're tacky. Who wants a bunch of strangers showing up at your party?

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826 · June 2014

jenbaer16 said:

I live in a small town just outside Ottawa, Ontario and I see them advertised in the local paper a lot next to the engagement announcements. I've never attended one and I think they're tacky. Who wants a bunch of strangers showing up at your party?

I know, right? Selling tickets at gas stations, advertising in papers.... Man, just get an ad on the local radio station while you're at it.

LadyMillil · June 2014

goldchocobo said:

jenbaer16 said:

I live in a small town just outside Ottawa, Ontario and I see them advertised in the local paper a lot next to the engagement announcements. I've never attended one and I think they're tacky. Who wants a bunch of strangers showing up at your party?

I know, right? Selling tickets at gas stations, advertising in papers.... Man, just get an ad on the local radio station while you're at it.

More people = more profits

syoun1nj · July 2014

LadyMillil said:

goldchocobo said:

Nymeru, a Stag and Doe ( or Buck and Doe or just Stag) is a pre-wedding party that is thrown and hosted by the Bride, Groom, and wedding party, though I think anyone can host. You pay a certain cover fee or purchase a ticket (in my area it's something like $15 at the door or $10 in advance) and you drink, play games with the bride and groom for money, have a 50/50 draw, have a poker tourny, or raffle off an ipad or something to turn a profit for funding your wedding/honeymoon/whatever.

Anyone can go. You don't have to be invited to the wedding.

ETA: Typos. Also, a question! Do other countries do this or just Canadians? Do other countries call it something different?

In my hometown, drinks aren't included, so you have to buy drink tickets. All the games are heavily weighted so that the bride and groom "win" the money. Sometimes things like chips are included, but usually there is a buffet with sandwich fixings and veggies and dip that also costs more. The $10-$15 basically gets you in the door and everything else is paid for on top of that. I've only been to a couple stag and does. The "good" ones had a dj and were almost like going to a club, no pressure to pay for anything except entrance and drinks. The rest were so cash grabby that I felt uncomfortable. There was one that had 3 tables set up as soon as I went in the door. At the first they were selling goldfish insurance - if you didn't pay a toonie for it your name went into a draw and if it was called you had to eat a goldfish; the second was selling raffle tickets, the third was selling drink tickets - the drink tickets were $3 each or 8 for $20, I didn't want 8 tickets and got hassled for only buying 2 because I "wasn't supporting the bride and groom".

Not all Canadians have stag and does. They are very popular in my hometown in rural Ontario. When I moved away for university almost nobody had heard of them. Most people that knew what they were also grew up in a small town/rural area. I now live in Vancouver and nobody here has heard of them.

What in the actual fuck.

TalkRadio this morning was discussing weddings...Is this really a thing??

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