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Asking my BFF to be my MOH and......

soontobemrshamiltonsoontobemrshamilton member
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I was going to ask in a cute and creative way, however I saw a post that said not to give a gift when asking. I bought an inexpensive, little keepsake box and inside I have a note asking. We are going out to dinner this weekend and I was going to give it to her then. I mean we've been friends for over 20 years, I know she will say yes. She is just the greatest and I wanted to do a little special something.
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    I'm not sure I understand what the point of this post is.  Are you seeking approval?  It sounds like you have a plan and you're going to do it no matter what the Internet strangers tell you.




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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Unless you're psychic or live inside your friend's head, you DON'T know that she'll say yes.

    We not only don't recommend giving gifts when asking someone to be your bridesmaid, we also don't recommend making a production of the asking.  It can put the askee in a very uncomfortable position-especially if they CAN'T say yes.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Ditto NYCMercedes. There is always a risk, but I think it will be fine. I, too, am curious about the point of this post, though. There does not appear to be a question in it.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • soontobemrshamiltonsoontobemrshamilton member
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    Yeah I didn't finish my post very well. I guess what I'm getting at is what the big deal is on giving a little something like I'm planning. I haven't thought any thing about it until I saw the other post about someone giving all their BM and GM gifts. I'm just doing it for MOH and yes I do know that she'll say yes @jen4948
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    soontobemrshamilton said:
    Yeah I didn't finish my post very well. I guess what I'm getting at is what the big deal is on giving a little something like I'm planning. I haven't thought any thing about it until I saw the other post about someone giving all their BM and GM gifts. I'm just doing it for MOH and yes I do know that she'll say yes @jen4948
    I think maybe it would be better if you gave her the box later on... as part of her gift (or actual gift?) for being in the bridal party.

    I guess I just don't get why there needs to be a gift when asking her? Not that you need a good reason for giving any of your friends a gift, but it seems like you want a reason.

    Are you having any bridesmaids? Are you getting them gifts?
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Unless your friend is big on saving little trinkets, I suspect that keepsake box will end up in a junk drawer or at Goodwill in a years time.

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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I'm sorry, but I still don't understand why there even needs to be a keepsake box. 

    I took my MOH out to dinner. And during dinner I said, "I was wondering if you'd be my MOH." And she said, "Omg, really? YES." And then she cried. And then I cried. And it was a really awesome and sweet moment. I didn't give her a trinket or a box or a letter. I just ASKED. 

    I can't help but think these "creative" ways to ask people to be in your wedding are really just immature and childish. 
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  • soontobemrshamiltonsoontobemrshamilton member
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    Haha what? Immature and childish? I just thought it would be a fun, different kind of way to ask her. I don't see how that's immature in any way! It just seems fun to me. I know if she or another friend did something like that with me, I'd love it.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Sorry but I don't see how handing her a small box with a note in it is fun or different.  But then again I am not the type of person who needs small or large gestures when it comes to these types of things.

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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    Seriously, though.  Was there a question here?  Or are you just sharing your plans with us?




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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    soontobemrshamilton said:
    Haha what? Immature and childish? I just thought it would be a fun, different kind of way to ask her. I don't see how that's immature in any way! It just seems fun to me. I know if she or another friend did something like that with me, I'd love it.
    Yes. Because as an almost 34 year old woman, I would fell silly handing my MOH a keepsake box to ask her to be in my wedding. Or any of these other dumb ideas, like ring pops. or special books or letters. 
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  • soontobemrshamiltonsoontobemrshamilton member
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    I posted to see what people thought and now I see. Thanks ladies :)
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Is the keepsake box like a silver box from Things Remembered type thing? Or is it just a box? 
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    soontobemrshamilton said:
    Yeah I didn't finish my post very well. I guess what I'm getting at is what the big deal is on giving a little something like I'm planning. I haven't thought any thing about it until I saw the other post about someone giving all their BM and GM gifts. I'm just doing it for MOH and yes I do know that she'll say yes @jen4948
    No, you DON'T KNOW.  I don't believe you can predict this in advance.  And even if she says yes, she still may not appreciate being asked in an over-the-top theatrical way.
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    Jen4948 said:
    soontobemrshamilton said:
    Yeah I didn't finish my post very well. I guess what I'm getting at is what the big deal is on giving a little something like I'm planning. I haven't thought any thing about it until I saw the other post about someone giving all their BM and GM gifts. I'm just doing it for MOH and yes I do know that she'll say yes @jen4948
    No, you DON'T KNOW.  I don't believe you can predict this in advance.  And even if she says yes, she still may not appreciate being asked in an over-the-top theatrical way.
    If one of my friends asked me with some sort of gift or cutesy idea, I'd seriously think "oh shit, is she going to expect me to think that her wedding is the most important thing EVER and expect me to do all the Pinterest stuff?"




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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    @sarahbear31 I am loving your GIF. 
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    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    @sarahbear31 I am loving your GIF. 
    aw thanks.  Steel Magnolias is my favorite movie of all time :)




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    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    @sarahbear31 I am loving your GIF. 
    aw thanks.  Steel Magnolias is my favorite movie of all time :)
    I love that movie too. Whenever it's on TV, I have to watch it. And then I balls my eyes out. 
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  • soontobemrshamiltonsoontobemrshamilton member
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    ok, this is my last comment, because you ladies, take things to a whole other level. I don't think giving my friend a little box is in any way "over-the-top theatrical."
    Nor does it mean my "wedding is the most important thing EVER and expect her to do all the Pinterest stuff?" You guys are smokin some crack. What part of this country are you from?

    Sorry I like to be different and creative, it's just a box! 
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  • slothiegalslothiegal member
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    So @sarahbear31 called it from the beginning.  OP has made her mind up, knows that we are all wrong, and is gonna do her thang no matter what.  Why is this a thread?
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    soontobemrshamilton said:
    ok, this is my last comment, because you ladies, take things to a whole other level. I don't think giving my friend a little box is in any way "over-the-top theatrical."
    Nor does it mean my "wedding is the most important thing EVER and expect her to do all the Pinterest stuff?" You guys are smokin some crack. What part of this country are you from?

    Sorry I like to be different and creative, it's just a box! 
    @soontobemrshamilton - We never said that YOU think that but your friend possibly could think those things when handed a keepsake box with a note inside.

    And no we are not smoking crack and I am from Maryland...not really sure what that has to do with anything though, but I do think you are overreacting.

    I just don't understand why you even posted this thread.  You decided to do this thing already so I really don't know what you were expecting to get from this post.

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    slothiegal said:
    So @sarahbear31 called it from the beginning.  OP has made her mind up, knows that we are all wrong, and is gonna do her thang no matter what.  Why is this a thread?
    Do I get a prize for this?  :)




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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    slothiegal!  I'm thirsty!




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  • soontobemrshamiltonsoontobemrshamilton member
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    @sarahbear31......congrats you do win a prize! Your mother's dick in a box!

    Suck on that one ;)
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    soontobemrshamilton said:
    @sarahbear31......congrats you do win a prize! Your mother's dick in a box!

    Suck on that one ;)
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    soontobemrshamilton said:
    @sarahbear31......congrats you do win a prize! Your mother's dick in a box!

    Suck on that one ;)
    Seriously?  @KnotPorscha - pretty sure this deserves at least a warning.

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