no moh?

ValB15 · July 2014

We are having 2 bm/gm in our party. Is it ok to not assign one to be MOH and Best man? The girls are my sister and my best friend since kindergarten. I really don't want to tell one and not the other that they are MOH. The other option is to have 2 MOH, I know that has been done but there are usually other bm. My FI is less worried about and will just go with the flow. Thanks for your thoughts.

Maggie0829 · July 2014

The title of MOH is just that, a title. It really doesn't mean that one person is more important then another. You can certainly have two MOHs without other BMs. If you don't want to make one person feel less then the other then just don't have hand out the MOH title.

AddieCake · July 2014

I did not have a MOH. They all do the same thing anyway, so there is no real reason to declare any of them "the chosen one" unless you want to.

ValB15 · July 2014

I guess my underling question is what is better, giving them both the title or leaving the titles off completely?

Thanks for your thoughts

Maggie0829 · July 2014

flantastic said:

I don't think either is better. If everyone has the title then it doesn't mean anything in terms of relative position. Just depends what you want to call your attendants. Technically, everyone who stands up with you is in an "honor attendant" position. You could just call everyone (men and women) "attendants."
Basically, take your pick.

This. If both have the title of MOH then they are "equal" in each others eyes. If they both have the title of BM then they are "equal" in each others eyes.

You don't have to call them anything if you don't want.