My fiance wants us to have a "Dollar Dance" at the wedding, where apparently the whole premise is that people can put a dollar in a jar and dance with one of us for a period of time. Apparently it's a tradition where he's from (Coastal rural Maine). I grew up in Atlanta, and the whole thing just sounds... well, let's just say I can hear my mother shrieking her disapproval.
Did you have a dollar dance? Have you even HEARD of it? Is it tacky?
Re: Dollar Dance
Don't do it. Just tell your FI your uncomfortable with it and would appreciate his understanding.
@Elitefourabby, I urge you to share your reluctance with your FI. Point out how awkward and uncomfortable guests might be if this is done. Tell him it can create a total buzz kill to the reception.
And in the second, if I had to get you a gift, take time off, and/or pay a lot of money just to attend the wedding, I'm definitely not going to want to pay more for a money dance.
Skip it.
I'm not American and find it horribly tacky. I recently asked my colleague from Warsaw about it (some people kept saying it was Polish), and she was horrified- she had never heard of it. People have already given you a gift, why do you want to extort them for more money? If guests want to give you money, fine, but why force everyone to participate whilst you panhandle from your nearest and dearest.
I'm the fuck out.