My fiance and I are in trouble financially. We are living with my sister (who is also MOH) and her boyfriend, and have been for 6 months (we were having an apartment renovated and did not expect to be here so long, but the renovation has been a nightmare and we're still here, impinging on their space and feeling terrible about it.) Also, it's been tough on our relationship - never having any privacy, feeling squeezed, etc.
My parents are unable to help very much because they have financial troubles of their own, and I feel as though the wedding is our responsibility, not theirs.
From the start, I tried to get my fiance to downscale the wedding - he's more involved in the preparations than I am. I started by asking him to elope, and he refused. He also refused a destination wedding, and a smallish wedding. We are now having 150 guests at a venue in NH this September 2011, and I'm in panic mode. There's very little money to work with and I don't want to take out a bank loan and put us in debt when we're just starting out.
After gently trying to talk to him about my feelings for several weeks (I've been sick as a dog for nearly a month with a flu-like virus and I'm convinced it's because of the stress), I finally snapped tonight. I told him we need money and a reliable plan, or we have to postpone til next year. Now we're both miserable and broken hearted over it, and that's not how I wanted to feel about our special day, ever.
Please, please, give me some advice to think over. Thanks.