why yes, I am eating that...

CMGragain · June 2014

Since Mom died I've lost 20 lbs. Maybe just not having to listen to her snipes and cracks about my weight helped . I haven't even been dieting.
My sister has always been thin, even though she ate potato chips, ice cream, everything that I shouldn't. A few years ago she learned why she has always been thin - she has Celiac's. At least I can eat pizza and cake without getting sick. Be careful what you wish for.....

KytchynWitche · June 2014

Did anyone else notice a dramatic upswing in weight loss ads on Facebook after they changed their status to "engaged"?

I used to get a lot of jewellery, shoes, and clothing ads before I changed my status. Literally within minutes of changing it, ALL my ad spots were taken up with diet pill, miracle weight loss food etc. A friend of mine noticed the same thing when she changed her status to engaged. Is it just the two of us?

A couple of years ago, another friend of mine got engaged. She's always been kinda chunky, and she picked up a LOT of weight post-college and pre-engagement, but she never mentioned being unhappy about it until the moment the ring hit her finger. After that, there were only two topics of conversation: her wedding, and her weight. She could not stop talking about how she needed to lose this huge (and quite frankly unrealistic) amount of weight, but every time we went out, she ordered her coffee or hot chocolate with extra whipped cream, piled sugar into it, and whatever food she ordered was guaranteed to be fried. She did start gymming, but she wasn't prepared to make any changes to her diet, and she could not understand why she wasn't seeing results. She was miserable, she was making her FI miserable, and she was making all her friends miserable too. She did eventually get over her issues, they did get married and are very happy, but I feel like she wouldn't have ever gone through that if society wasn't constantly pushing "perfect" at us.

I know I'm overweight, but I don't care. I don't believe I've ever done the "Oh, I'm so fat, I'm such a pig, I ate 3 M&Ms and now I can never forgive myself" thing. I'm happy with me, FI's happy with me, so what business is it of anyone else's? I am not trying to lose weight for our wedding. I am trying (a bit hit and miss) to eat better because I want my skin, hair, and nails to look good, but no way am I changing who I am so I can look like someone else in my wedding pictures. That's just silly.

And wow, that ended up being way more ranty than I intended. Sorry!

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826 · June 2014

I have a food snarky coworker. She doesnt even know she's doing it. You'll sit down and plunk your meal down and she gives it this side eye. Every time. "What is that?" "Strawberries?" "What flavor is that?" "How much was that?" "Did you make that?"

It's not even because she thinks I need to watch my figure or anything like that. It's just how she is. She does it with everyone else too more or less, it just bothers me the most.

Meanwhile she's eating some canned soup with so many crackers it looks like she's eating cracker flavored pudding. (my version of food snark, lol)

I dread the questions, but with the soccer game on, she's been pretty distracted.

manillabar · June 2014

it's like you ladies are telling my life story!! People always feel like they can comment on what i'm eating, whether i've lost or gained weight, etc... Don't even get me started on the "family friend" who came over to my parent's house to help with something while I was visiting, and went on and on about how fat I had gotten. Seriously. Or the random church member who will comment on what I choose to eat for lunch after the service, telling me that *insert food here* is what's making me fat. Oh, thanks, I don't think I asked you. Or, FMIL who chooses to scold me for not going on walks with FI or lecture both me and FI on healthy eating. le sigh.

But it doesn't help that we do this to ourselves and each other, too. We allow ourselves to feel ashamed and feel like we need to apologize for what we decide. "oh, I know I shouldn't be eating this, I'm so bad." "I've really got to start dieting and exercising again, I'm such a slob."

I know it's easier said than done but my new resolution is to own my choices. "Yup, I'm eating this because it's delicious and I want it." "No, I didn't go for a walk/exercise today because I didn't want to." I'm really all for getting healthy, but on my own terms. And I certainly don't have to justify any of my decisions to anyone. My FI loves me and I love me. I am overweight, and I will be a beautiful bride. That's all anyone needs to know.

ashley8918 · June 2014

This seriously bothers the hell out of me. I am actively trying to lose weight, but it has nothing to do with my wedding. I have been dieting and *trying* to get more exercise in for the better part of a year. But now, all of a sudden everyone is commenting about how good I am doing at "losing weight for the wedding". Um, no. I'm losing weight for life. I don't like how I look.

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826 · June 2014

I just got this in a convo today:

Coworker: "You can pretty safely assume that someone that's engaged is trying to avoid any and all junk. Body image becomes an issue."

Me: "Im shaped the way I am. I accept it. I figured I should eat healthier but why wait for a reason? So I'm doing it for me. The dress already fits, what do I care? Also, you should have started your convo with 'You look great goldchocobo, and this statement doesn't apply to you!'"

Coworker: "You know it didn't apply. Sheesh!"

He's a good friend. Awkward as hell, but kind at heart.

gladyscf · June 2014

I'd been talking about exercising and watching what I eat for a couple years but hadn't gotten off my ass to actively do anything. Since about a month before we got engaged, I actually have been exercising and eating much better!

That doesn't mean that I won't go home and say "fuck it, I'm making tater tots and pouring a can of hot dog chili on them with melted processed cheese and toss some onions on that plate."

On the whole, I'm making great food choices but sometimes I just want junk and God help the person who makes snark at me when I do!

theartistformerlyknownas · June 2014

The only thing I'm actively trying to avoid is a sunburn with awkward tanlines, because those fuckers last FOREVER on me. But I'm going to mrsstatic's house for tater tots.

7651arty · July 2014

Back in college, I went from a size 6 to size 12. I realize that isn't huge by any means, but on my frame it was evident that I wasn't properly caring for myself.

In my mid 20s I changed my lifestyle and got down to a size 4, and stayed there til about age 29. Weight started coming back on, even though I was maintaining my routine. No matter how hard I pushed to lose the extra weight, I didn't see results, and my self image/esteem plummeted.

When I hit a size 10 this past January, fiancé insisted I see a dr. FINALLY figured out my thyroid is messed up. Started taking meds to put my metabolism back on track (takes a few months to get right), but I was still considered overweight and couldn't zip my wedding gown. My Dr prescribed the diet pill Adipex (phentermine), just to help me along. Using Adipex, a more strict diet (like, stupid strict) and ridiculous amounts of cardio in the last 9 weeks, I'm down 20lbs and back to a size 6. I should be back at my original weight by August.

*I will also state that I am 100% under medical supervision, must check in monthly with my Dr, and I keep food/exercise journals that I also turn in to her. Because I had only 28 lbs to lose, I am only allowed to take Adipex for 3 months, and I am beginning my 3rd month now*

Now, cue the coworkers. No, they dont know my medical condition because it's none of their business. I now get sideways glances and, within earshot of other coworkers, "hey....you look...different. That was... fast...are you ok? Are you counting calories? You know you need at least 2000 every day, right? Would you like some cake? Ill watch you eat it. How about I get you a soda?"

Seriously??? These people have known me for 4years, the first two of which, I was thin! I have a particular "helicopter" who is watching EVERY bite I take and every trip to the fridge or water cooler. Asking coworkers what I had for lunch if I dont eat at the office. Literally baking "goodies" and hand-delivering them ONLY to my desk. I've told her I don't eat sweets and to back off, but so far it hasn't worked.

This concern is completely out of the blue, and she and I are not close. I guess I'll have to pull her aside and explain my thyroid issue to shut her up. I never thought that at age 31, my coworkers would be demanding I answer to them about my diet. Just...wtf?

mysticl · July 2014

7651arty said:

Back in college, I went from a size 6 to size 12. I realize that isn't huge by any means, but on my frame it was evident that I wasn't properly caring for myself. In my mid 20s I changed my lifestyle and got down to a size 4, and stayed there til about age 29. Weight started coming back on, even though I was maintaining my routine. No matter how hard I pushed to lose the extra weight, I didn't see results, and my self image/esteem plummeted. When I hit a size 10 this past January, fiancé insisted I see a dr. FINALLY figured out my thyroid is messed up. Started taking meds to put my metabolism back on track (takes a few months to get right), but I was still considered overweight and couldn't zip my wedding gown. My Dr prescribed the diet pill Adipex (phentermine), just to help me along. Using Adipex, a more strict diet (like, stupid strict) and ridiculous amounts of cardio in the last 9 weeks, I'm down 20lbs and back to a size 6. I should be back at my original weight by August. *I will also state that I am 100% under medical supervision, must check in monthly with my Dr, and I keep food/exercise journals that I also turn in to her. Because I had only 28 lbs to lose, I am only allowed to take Adipex for 3 months, and I am beginning my 3rd month now* Now, cue the coworkers. No, they dont know my medical condition because it's none of their business. I now get sideways glances and, within earshot of other coworkers, "hey....you look...different. That was... fast...are you ok? Are you counting calories? You know you need at least 2000 every day, right? Would you like some cake? Ill watch you eat it. How about I get you a soda?" Seriously??? These people have known me for 4years, the first two of which, I was thin! I have a particular "helicopter" who is watching EVERY bite I take and every trip to the fridge or water cooler. Asking coworkers what I had for lunch if I dont eat at the office. Literally baking "goodies" and hand-delivering them ONLY to my desk. I've told her I don't eat sweets and to back off, but so far it hasn't worked. This concern is completely out of the blue, and she and I are not close. I guess I'll have to pull her aside and explain my thyroid issue to shut her up. I never thought that at age 31, my coworkers would be demanding I answer to them about my diet. Just...wtf?

I wouldn't. I once told a co-worker something personal to shut them up and it made things worse. I'd consider going to HR and explain you are being harassed by this co-worker.

falsara · July 2014

I hate the fact that my FB has all those stupid weight-loss things on it. Never was on there until I got engaged and now it's like every other post on my newsfeed. Excuse me FB but I have never ever been one to diet. I've never needed to. I'm the teenager that got accused of having an eating disorder in high school just because I happen to be tall and thin. I eat like a freaking horse. If you were to take me to a Golden Corral there would be at least 6 trips to the buffet and you bet I would be piling that plate up. Cut your Crap FB I don't need your shit.

I also hated it the other day when I told a co-worker that I don't eat sweets and they said "Oh I forgot, you have to fit in a wedding dress." 1. my wedding dress is a size 4, and it's a size too big. I need to gain wait you Bitch. 2. I don't eat sweets because I honestly don't like them. I grew up in a primarily sugar free household because my mom is a type 1 diabetic. I haven't had real sugar since I was 6. 3. I have a severe issue with my own blood sugar, eating sweets is not going to help that. 4. The reason I go to the gym a few times a week is to help said blood sugar problem and my stress levels that have risen because of people like you, that question my eating habits and are generally rude.

I eat what I want, and what I know is good for me. That's it move on and go stuff your insecurities onto someone else.

I thought this was shorter, sorry for the rant.

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