I'm less than two months from the wedding and the stress is starting to add up so that little problems feel a hell of a lot bigger than they are. I need some help/counsel/advice/words of encouragement/etc
My FI's sister is one of our groomsmen. She is down with wearing a tux, no problems there, but she did request that she not wear the jacket since most places really don't tailor to women (and I knew we'd be going to MW). That wasn't really an issue except that I thought if ANYone should be sticking out, it should be FI, and not one of the groomsmen. So FI and decided that our groomsmen would not wear jackets (vests only) and FI would wear the full tux with jacket (for the ceremony). Crisis averted - yay!
Well, we finally went over the MW and set the group up and go FI fitted/measured. I wasn't crazy about the color ties they had at MW so I am opting to look elsewhere (with the help of my super fantastic and supportive MOH - just figured she deserved a shout out). I mentioned this to the group that I'd be providing them with the ties once I located them. We also decided that FI will don a bowtie while the others wear a standard tie to further set him apart. Except FSIL doesn't want to wear a tie at all...
On one hand, I get it. It's not a feminine look. But on the other hand, I think it will look silly if FI is wearing a bow tie, three groomsmen are wearing a regular tie and she is wearing no tie. I guess I'm just annoyed that so far all the decisions revolving around what FI wears have been based on her preferences, not our own (though to be fair, I suppose it's my preference since FI doesn't have much of an opinion about this stuff).
So I guess...do I talk to FSIL about it and ask her to suck it up and wear a tie (which she can take off after the ceremony and pictures) or do I just ride this one out? The only other thing I was thinking about was having it so that ONLY FI is wearing a tie but I'm afraid it will look too casual if the other guys are not.
Thoughts, comments, advice to preserve my sanity?