Oh gosh where do I begin? I am
the maid of honor in an upcoming wedding and so far the process has been very
frustrating. I am dealing with a clueless, entitled bride but the worst of it
came yesterday when I received a text message from her announcing they were
having a destination wedding next spring with plans of having a PPD two years
later. Her message was “we figured we can do a big wedding later if we want to”
I immediately responded to her asking her why she was going to have a civil
ceremony if they planned on marrying in the Catholic Church and the excuse was “well
we love each other and can’t wait to be married so we’re just going to invite
50 people and have a bigger one in two years”
I was very upset to say the least. I
think it’s a matter of budget so I suggested they revise the guest list and move
the date up entirely but her response was “no I still want a big wedding that’s
why we want to have another one later, we aren’t having a reception either just
a small ceremony”
I didn’t know where to begin. I’ve
addressed the reception issue and informed them this is a requirement and how
stupid spending twice is but nothing I say is being considered whatsoever. I
even sent her link to the PPD post to what she responded “these people married
for valid reasons, I just want to be married so I wouldn’t judge anybody” I’ve
hit a brick wall.
I told her I’ll gladly be her MOH
in her upcoming destination wedding but I cannot do it again at their PPD. I am at a loss for words and can’t believe she
doesn’t understand why this is rude and how it makes no freakin sense.