My soon-to-be mother-in-law has taken charge of the rehearsal dinner. This was a-okay by me with our wedding day drawing nearer and nearer (August 9th!). We have picked a great location (it's all taking place in Hawaii, so what location wouldn't be good) and all has seemed great. Until, that is, I mentioned a few individuals that she was NOT ok with coming to the rehearsal dinner. My fiance has two half-sisters and we are of course inviting them, as well as their mother (who would be wife #2.....my fiance's mother being wife #1). Their mother has soooo helpful and accomodating to the both of us with planning and advice. We love her.
Well, the individuals my MIL did NOT want to invite was wife #2 (who is also no longer married to the father of the groom!). Her retort back to me after I named off a few people was, 'Well I am the one paying for the dinner, you know'. So my question is...am I being a bit of a brat if my initial response is, 'Yea and this is MY wedding!!'?????? I do not want to overstep my boundaries here, but at the same time my fiance and I want her there! Should my MIL have a right to invite or uninvite people to our rehearsal dinner? What are the rules here, if any??? HELP!