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parents being difficult

Knottie55847874Knottie55847874 member
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My parents live in TX. My fiancé and I are planning our wedding in VA where we met when my family lived there. My parents don't have a lot of money and never have I expected them to help with any wedding stuff. In fact, my plan was to pay everything out of pocket. My fiance family has now offered to help which is extremely generous. They have treated me like part of the family for years. My parents in the other hand don't seem to be as thoughtful when it comes to my fiancé.
Last night when I told my dad about our possible wedding date he said: "you invite me, I won't come." Then he proceeded to tell me that her needed to save money to work on his car. How should I tell my parents how important this is to me? I've tried dropping subtle hints but they don't seem to get it.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    This is very little backstory to go off of, so I can't say why your dad would have that sort of reaction.  I also don't know why your parents lack of money and your future IL's offers of assistance are relevant here.  Unless I'm to read between the lines and guess that your parents don't like your FI/his family, or are upset/embarrassed that they 'don't have a lot of money' (whatever that means), and/or are upset that you're getting married in VA instead of TX or somewhere else closer to them. 

    What's your relationship with them like outside of the wedding stuff? Is a choice of dates an option?  Can you ask your parents which date may work for them? 

    If they can't/won't come for whatever reason, you may have to just deal with it and tell them you'll miss them. 

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  • dalm0mdalm0m member
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    If that's your father's reaction you can either take him at his word & be disappointed that he doesn't come or you can scrimp & save more to buy him a ticket. Beyond that there's not much you can do.
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  • zitiqueenzitiqueen member
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    Knottie55847874 said:
    My parents live in TX. My fiancé and I are planning our wedding in VA where we met when my family lived there. My parents don't have a lot of money and never have I expected them to help with any wedding stuff. In fact, my plan was to pay everything out of pocket. My fiance family has now offered to help which is extremely generous. They have treated me like part of the family for years. My parents in the other hand don't seem to be as thoughtful when it comes to my fiancé. Last night when I told my dad about our possible wedding date he said: "you invite me, I won't come." Then he proceeded to tell me that her needed to save money to work on his car. How should I tell my parents how important this is to me? I've tried dropping subtle hints but they don't seem to get it.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    dalm0m said:
    If that's your father's reaction you can either take him at his word & be disappointed that he doesn't come or you can scrimp & save more to buy him a ticket. Beyond that there's not much you can do.
    do not buy him a ticket. he could easily not use it and then you are just out the money.
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