My parents are planning a "rehearsal dinner," which isn't really a rehearsal dinner (I just figured this out today), it's actually a welcome party for my family and only my family. No one in FI's family is invited because they didn't contribute to the wedding. I was not consulted about any details of this dinner. I had no input on the guest list. I had no input on choosing the place. I didn't even know what place they chose, my sister knew but I didn't. I don't know if my attendants are invited, and I don't know if FI's attendants are invited. The thing that makes me really angry is that there's only 2 people in FI's family who she wants to invite, but apparently it's going to cost too much to have them, yet my sister's BFF is invited along with her boyfriend.
I wish they had spoken to me about this. We could have chosen a more budget friendly restaurant so inviting 2 more people wouldn't be an issue. I'm assuming there is no actual rehearsal dinner, which is crappy for the attendants. I can't afford to host one or I would. I had gone along this whole time thinking this dinner was a RD, since that's what my mom kept referring to it as, but when I saw the guest list today I realized that it's not.
I'm super grateful for everything they've done, but I don't feel like this was the right thing to do. I don't think it's right to exclude every single one of FI's guests, she asked for 2 people and her attendants. I don't think it's right not to have an event to honor all the attendants. I understand that my parents are paying a lot for this, and again, I'm grateful, but I just feel that if it was going to be such a major issue, we could have chosen a different place.
I don't know what to do, any suggestions? And please let me know if my post makes no sense, I'm trying to explain it the best I can but I'm not sure it came out right! Thanks!