Wrapping Shower Gifts

Goldlie11 · December 2009

OMG, I can't believe some of the stuff that gets posted. OP, thanks for making me laugh.

janedoe1113a · December 2009

Yea, it has nothing to do with whether you live in a big city or not. A lot of the girls here live in the city. I guess people now a days just don't care about etiquette.

rebecca.shockey · December 2009

I hear rain is good luck on a wedding day...that was really sweet of you to wish her luck!

shanns33 · December 2009

Hilarious. Because it is a fad, that makes it appropriate? And, I wasn't aware that Manhattan was the only large city in the world? Good to know.

BTW, Manhattan can claim a lot: Great food, fashion, entertainment... But manners? No.

Goldlie11 · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wrapping-shower-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e5217119-36f5-4bb7-8f6a-486c5af0d783Post:1ac88f38-d478-48ae-99e5-543190137180">Re: Wrapping Shower Gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]Holy Crap. Anyway, thanks for the poem, CEW. I think it's great and will be sure to pass it on for the invitations. Thanks for answering my original question. Thanks to the other girl for defending me. Most people I've spoken to in real life think it's a good idea too.
Posted by LuvCG[/QUOTE]
If you don't want to unwrap gifts, why not request that all gifts be brought in unwrapped? At least you will be doing something for the environment. You can claim that you wanted to do your part to be "green". That comes off a lot better than "I don't want to/feel like unwrapping gifts".

aallenba · December 2009

YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEHAWWWWWWWWW I'm from a small town...we don't have ..what you city folk call...education?

Bridal shower..is that a big town thing? I ain't ever heard of such a thing! I have to bring an unwrapped gift? Gee I guess I better get to Wal-Mart to get you something real nice so you can just sit there an look at it while it sits on a table. I understand you city folk are too busy to be unwrapping your own gifts..I'll make sure I don't wrap your Christmas present either.

JK10910 · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wrapping-shower-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e5217119-36f5-4bb7-8f6a-486c5af0d783Post:b338f786-e0af-4e4d-ac74-a3b1e8172996">Re: Wrapping Shower Gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]In response to both the bride-to-be and the posters: I've been to about three different showers within the past two months (two wedding showers, one baby shower) that had "Display Showers". I don't think there is anything wrong with it and I don't think it's tacky. Actually, the bride is right; it's the new thing! Maybe the posters should consider that most of you seem to be from small-town places that aren't usually as up to date as bigger cities (I'm from Manhattan, so we're up to date with these things - sorry!). And the bride who posted this is from the "outer boroughs" (whichever that may be), so she might have a better idea than the girls who are attacking her, specifically CEW515...your posts are pretty nasty and immature...kind of what how I would expect my 8th graders to act when their friends don't want to follow along with her idea. To the bride-to-be: go for it! You're a step ahead of the game!
Posted by stefala[/QUOTE]

Well, dear, this is exactly why there are local boards. But FWIW, etiquette is not a local thing. What is "commonly acceptable" surely does vary from location to location, but that doesn't mean that etiquette does. And I'm back to my original point that if you come to an ETIQUETTE board looking for advice, you're going to get advice on etiquette. Shocking, really.

aallenba · December 2009

Oh I'm sorry I didn't put my resume on my bio...i'll post it next time so you can see my education level

janedoe1113a · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wrapping-shower-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e5217119-36f5-4bb7-8f6a-486c5af0d783Post:a3f2cd37-640b-49bf-b412-438f00eea56b">Re: Wrapping Shower Gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]Aside from this...aren't weddings generally centered around fads anyway? Huge puffy sleeves? Sweatband-like headpieces? Teased hair? These fads were all once okay...so what would make this thing any different??
Posted by stefala[/QUOTE]

Yes, but do any of those offend your guests? No...

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · December 2009

Aw. sweetie, I am from a big city. But most of the regulars on this board have a lot more class than you ever will. Money and education can't buy manners!

OP, you never answered our question - if you hate showers so much, why are you having one?

polichik · December 2009

stfala, I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

lyndausvi · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wrapping-shower-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e5217119-36f5-4bb7-8f6a-486c5af0d783Post:b338f786-e0af-4e4d-ac74-a3b1e8172996">Re: Wrapping Shower Gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]I Actually, the bride is right; it's the new thing! Maybe the posters should consider that most of you seem to be from small-town places that aren't usually as up to date as bigger cities (I'm from Manhattan, so we're up to date with these things - sorry!). And the bride who posted this is from the "outer boroughs" (whichever that may be), so she might have a better idea than the girls who are attacking her, specifically
Posted by stefala[/QUOTE]

This is so condescending.. Like some how us county folk are behind the times and EVERYTHING coming out of the BIG CITY is ALWAYS right.

I personally dislike showers and I'm from the 'country'.... That said I would never require my guests to have a display shower. You know your family and their customs, I would just go with the flow. You can always just not have a shower... but somehow I think the Big City thinking states you are entiled to gifts soley because you are getting married.

JK10910 · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wrapping-shower-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e5217119-36f5-4bb7-8f6a-486c5af0d783Post:a3f2cd37-640b-49bf-b412-438f00eea56b">Re: Wrapping Shower Gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]I am saying this from a perspective of a girl who has had three close friends throw a shindig like this and their own reasons why: it has nothing to do with not FEELING like unwrapping presents, it has to do with the fact that you're not five-years-old and nobody cares about your cool new toy. Aside from this...aren't weddings generally centered around fads anyway? Huge puffy sleeves? Sweatband-like headpieces? Teased hair? These fads were all once okay...so what would make this thing any different?? Also, I'm not saying only big cities have bridal showers. We just tend to do things differently. And aallenba, I don't think someone from a state that is notorious for having one of the worst education systems in the nation should attempt to criticize someone of my educational stature. Moreover, I can understand why you'd want to register at Wal-mart for its great prices and large selection, just don't forget your shoes on the way over there. Anyway, enough of the fighting, this is ridiculous. I was simply saying you people should not have viciously attacked this girl. You are all so concerned with "wedding etiquette", yet the majority of you remotely seem have social etiquette yourselves. And while this will stir some of you up some more and you'll post more angry things (even though I was not trying to offend you small-town folk), I might as well get it out there: yes, I wished cew315 rain on her wedding...but that's just as much good luck as when a pigeon shits on your head...none. It's just something people say so you don't cry when your hair is about to friz...and we don't want that to happen because, after all, it's just a fad.
Posted by stefala[/QUOTE]

I really, really wish you could see or hear me laughing right now. Really. Really a lot. Oh, but I'm sorry, I'm sitting so high up on my highfalutin etiquette horse that I forgot that redundancy might make you mock my education level.

[Deleted User] · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wrapping-shower-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e5217119-36f5-4bb7-8f6a-486c5af0d783Post:d1787b34-9be9-4b8e-b539-d20c09168229">Re: Wrapping Shower Gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]We could be friends, but I sure as hell hope it rains on your wedding day.
Posted by stefala[/QUOTE]

I'm so pissed that I missed this last night. They cut our internet off at 8:00 here in the village.

This is quite possibly the best burn in the history of message boards. I'm just devastated right now that you've wished me rain. You've cursed me and ruined my life.

I bow to your superior comeback skills. Do you prefer that I walk around holding your belt loop or is it easier for you if you turn you pocket inside out and I hold on to that?

krise624 · July 2014

Wow. It looks like I stumbled upon this post several years too late.

First of all, I am appalled by the judgmental and unhelpful responders on this post. Consider proper ETIQUETTE when responding to someone's questions. There is a more tactful and appropriate way to respond even if you disagree with the person's question.

Second, I want to wish the bride a sincere congratulations. I hope you have enjoyed many years of wedded bliss and I am positive you had a beautiful shower filled with family and friends.

Third, I FULLY support this bride's decision to wrap gifts in clear plastic or not at all. I think bridal and baby showers are a form of cruel and unusual torture. I think it is absurd that people sit there and watch a bride open every gift. Quite frankly, I could care less about my 30 seconds in the spot light when she opens my gift. And I the majority of people I know feel the same. Regardless of the gift opening process, I know the bride will be very grateful and will express that in a heartfelt thank you note. I would rather value family and friends' time by engaging in friendly conversation and laughter in anticipation of the exciting events to come.

In closing, I would like to point out to responders that there is a way to tastefully incorporate a creative idea and make wedding planning your own. Don't judge another person for their ability to think outside the box. You should try it some time.

STARMOON44 · July 2014

@KnotPorscha‌ please close this zombie thread

RissAnn1970 · July 2014

1. I live in north Jersey, right outside NYX. The US doesn't have a bigger city.

2. I've been to one display shower. Most showers here in cosmopolitan areas are still real showers. Display showers suck.

3. We have enough plastic in our oceans. You are selfish and thoughtless for making people use more.

zitiqueen · July 2014

krise624 said:

Wow. It looks like I stumbled upon this post several years too late. First of all, I am appalled by the judgmental and unhelpful responders on this post. Consider proper ETIQUETTE when responding to someone's questions. There is a more tactful and appropriate way to respond even if you disagree with the person's question. Second, I want to wish the bride a sincere congratulations. I hope you have enjoyed many years of wedded bliss and I am positive you had a beautiful shower filled with family and friends. Third, I FULLY support this bride's decision to wrap gifts in clear plastic or not at all. I think bridal and baby showers are a form of cruel and unusual torture. I think it is absurd that people sit there and watch a bride open every gift. Quite frankly, I could care less about my 30 seconds in the spot light when she opens my gift. And I the majority of people I know feel the same. Regardless of the gift opening process, I know the bride will be very grateful and will express that in a heartfelt thank you note. I would rather value family and friends' time by engaging in friendly conversation and laughter in anticipation of the exciting events to come. In closing, I would like to point out to responders that there is a way to tastefully incorporate a creative idea and make wedding planning your own. Don't judge another person for their ability to think outside the box. You should try it some time.

Why the hell would you resurrect a five-year-old thread?

AddieCake · July 2014

zitiqueen said:

krise624 said:

Wow. It looks like I stumbled upon this post several years too late. First of all, I am appalled by the judgmental and unhelpful responders on this post. Consider proper ETIQUETTE when responding to someone's questions. There is a more tactful and appropriate way to respond even if you disagree with the person's question. Second, I want to wish the bride a sincere congratulations. I hope you have enjoyed many years of wedded bliss and I am positive you had a beautiful shower filled with family and friends. Third, I FULLY support this bride's decision to wrap gifts in clear plastic or not at all. I think bridal and baby showers are a form of cruel and unusual torture. I think it is absurd that people sit there and watch a bride open every gift. Quite frankly, I could care less about my 30 seconds in the spot light when she opens my gift. And I the majority of people I know feel the same. Regardless of the gift opening process, I know the bride will be very grateful and will express that in a heartfelt thank you note. I would rather value family and friends' time by engaging in friendly conversation and laughter in anticipation of the exciting events to come. In closing, I would like to point out to responders that there is a way to tastefully incorporate a creative idea and make wedding planning your own. Don't judge another person for their ability to think outside the box. You should try it some time.

Why the hell would you resurrect a five-year-old thread?

Because nobody has ever suggested a "better" way to post, Ziti! Because she will save The Knot by being the first to set people straight! Because the interwebz needed a hero!

chibiyui · July 2014

I have to say, this thread was fucking hilarious. I'm glad I read it.

krise624 said:

Wow. It looks like I stumbled upon this post several years too late. First of all, I am appalled by the judgmental and unhelpful responders on this post. Consider proper ETIQUETTE when responding to someone's questions. There is a more tactful and appropriate way to respond even if you disagree with the person's question. Second, I want to wish the bride a sincere congratulations. I hope you have enjoyed many years of wedded bliss and I am positive you had a beautiful shower filled with family and friends. Third, I FULLY support this bride's decision to wrap gifts in clear plastic or not at all. I think bridal and baby showers are a form of cruel and unusual torture. I think it is absurd that people sit there and watch a bride open every gift. Quite frankly, I could care less about my 30 seconds in the spot light when she opens my gift. And I the majority of people I know feel the same. Regardless of the gift opening process, I know the bride will be very grateful and will express that in a heartfelt thank you note. I would rather value family and friends' time by engaging in friendly conversation and laughter in anticipation of the exciting events to come. In closing, I would like to point out to responders that there is a way to tastefully incorporate a creative idea and make wedding planning your own. Don't judge another person for their ability to think outside the box. You should try it some time.

Display showers are tacky as fuck. Don't like showers, decline offers for the shower. It's not that fucking hard people.

RebeccaB88 · July 2014

Not unwrapping your gifts at your shower was tacky 5 years ago, and it's still tacky today. Just FYI for newer brides reading this. City or country it doesn't matter, UNWRAP YOUR EFFING GIFTS OR DON'T HAVE A SHOWER.

If unwrapping gifts bores you, don't have a shower and don't complain about not getting gifts.

If watching someone unwrap your gift bores you, then don't attend the shower. Send a gift ahead of time, or just don't bother.

It's also rude to attend a shower and then complain about being bored or tortured by it. THEN DON'T GO. It's not a difficult concept.

I don't attend display showers. If I'm going to take the time to pick out a gift, wrap it, and attend, you're for damn certain going to open it in front of me and thank me for it. If not, it will probably be the last gift you ever receive from me, thanks to your rudeness.

@KnotPorscha, a lock please?

misshart00 · July 2014

I really don't understand. If showers are the most awful thing in the world, don't go and don't have one.

Viczaesar · July 2014

krise624 said:

Wow. It looks like I stumbled upon this post several years too late. First of all, I am appalled by the judgmental and unhelpful responders on this post. Consider proper ETIQUETTE when responding to someone's questions. There is a more tactful and appropriate way to respond even if you disagree with the person's question. Second, I want to wish the bride a sincere congratulations. I hope you have enjoyed many years of wedded bliss and I am positive you had a beautiful shower filled with family and friends. Third, I FULLY support this bride's decision to wrap gifts in clear plastic or not at all. I think bridal and baby showers are a form of cruel and unusual torture. I think it is absurd that people sit there and watch a bride open every gift. Quite frankly, I could care less about my 30 seconds in the spot light when she opens my gift. And I the majority of people I know feel the same. Regardless of the gift opening process, I know the bride will be very grateful and will express that in a heartfelt thank you note. I would rather value family and friends' time by engaging in friendly conversation and laughter in anticipation of the exciting events to come. In closing, I would like to point out to responders that there is a way to tastefully incorporate a creative idea and make wedding planning your own. Don't judge another person for their ability to think outside the box. You should try it some time.

You do realize that the bride is not the one wrapping the presents, yes? Not the one buying the gift wrap or the present, and thus has absolutely no right to try to dictate how the guests present their presents.

You're welcome to think outside the box, but not if your 'outside the box' idea is rude and inappropriate. Making demands of your guests is never, ever appropriate. Ever.

Fran1985 · July 2014

So display showers are bad enough. But this is asking guests to go out and buy cellophane and wrap them in that? So make the guests do even MORE work?

misshart00 · July 2014

Fran1985 said:
So display showers are bad enough. But this is asking guests to go out and buy cellophane and wrap them in that? So make the guests do even MORE work?

This. I have a gift wrap closet with paper, bows, bags, etc. I'm not going to go find cellophane and then figure out how to use it.

BMoreBride6 · July 2014

Also, many gifts come in boxes/wrapped in packing paper from the store (ie. Crate and Barrel plates will come wrapped in brown paper and in a C&B box), so you just display a bunch of C&B boxes on a table?

[Deleted User] · July 2014

I love that she NOTICED she was 5 years too late, and STILL resurrected a zombie!

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