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NWR - Graduation Parties

PhoneCardLadyPhoneCardLady member
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As an adult, if I attend a graduation, I will give them some monetary amount.

My question, if the graduate invites other people that he/she graduated with, is the attendee required to give a gift?  Some one on the news today said that their son had been invited to at least 20 graduation parties this summer.

I believe I was invited to two graduation parties when I graduated, but I only gave a card.  I was not employed at the time.
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  • melbensomelbenso member
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    I didn't bring a gift - or even a card - when I attended my friends' high school graduation parties.  Then again, most of those weren't family parties, but rather parties for high school aged kids.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I don't think kids need to bring gifts, no.
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    Call me cheap and petty, but I just went to a couple graduation parties for grad school. I wasn't bringing a gift to say, "Congrats on completing the exact same degree as me!"

    As a parent for high school graduations, I'd bring at least a card. But I don't think the peer has that obligation.
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  • daria24daria24 member
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    In high school I went to a LOT of parties, the only gift I gave was sometimes I would give a small gag gift to a close friend. If my parents attended (which was only one or two of my friend's parties) they did give a gift. 
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  • rsbloomrsbloom member
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    Like PPs we all invited all our friends to parties for both high school and college, but I had friends below and above me in years, and went to grad parties about 7 years in a row and counting. I gave a card to everyone, it if was a hosted party with family, and gave my very close friends a gift, usually a gift card to a store they liked. If it was a party party, with only "kids" then no gift was required, usually bringing food or drinks to share.
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  • insertusernamehereinsertusernamehere member
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    I just graduated with my bachelor's degree, and had a party at my house.

    I didn't expect gifts from anyone. Not even family. I just wanted to eat, drink, and use my bouncy castle with everyone. Yes, I got a bouncy castle. 

    My friends and I hardly exchange gifts for birthdays - if we do, we're just giving each other the same $25 in gift card form haha.

    At graduation parties, we're all (approximately) in the same boat. Our loans are in repayment (or are about to be) and searching for real-world employment. None of us expect money from anyone, especially our friends we just graduated with!
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    Not all parties are gift giving occasions.  A party for teens is not, unless, perhaps, a birthday party.  (Do they still do that?)
    Relatives usually send cards or gifts to a graduating student. 
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  • offensivekitten2offensivekitten2 member
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    Eh, I'd cap (heh) my effort with a card. Grad gifts are more of a family thing.



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  • WinstonsGirlWinstonsGirl member
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    I have never heard of a graduation party.  I wold like to go to lots of them, if only for the free cake.  

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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    CMGragain said:
    Not all parties are gift giving occasions.  A party for teens is not, unless, perhaps, a birthday party.  (Do they still do that?)
    Relatives usually send cards or gifts to a graduating student. 
    First bolded: That's sort of how I feel about graduation parties. At least, I don't feel that peers should be giving gifts to each other. I mean, they all graduated together, it's like they are celebrating together, in a way.

    Second bolded: Sweet Sixteens and Quinceañera comes to mind. Also, Sweet Thirteens are becoming a thing now which makes me sad.


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  • tigersgirlgvtigersgirlgv member
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    When I graduated high school, I brought a small present (a CD with our favorite songs from high school) to close friends, but not everyone. We would all have been just exchanging cash! My parents did give money to the parties they were invited to.
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  • OnceUponAVineOnceUponAVine member
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    If I'm in the same peer group then no, I'm not bringing a gift for a graduation party unless the person is a super closer friend. For my younger cousins (just graduating high school) I gave them a card with cash.
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