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Family feuds & guest list

mrsdelkinsmrsdelkins member
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Hi all,

Has anyone ever encountered a situation of family feuds?  My future MIL does not like her husband's family AT ALL!  I want to respect her & not make her miserable/anxious/any negative feelings on our wedding day, but I don't want to disrespect her or them, so I don't know whether or not that side of the family should be invited.

As a bit of context, my FI isn't super close with them, but they do have a relationship.  I know the rule: don't invite anyone expecting them to say no.  So I'll stay away from that.  My FI doesn't know what to do either, so I'm not trying to step on his toes or overstep my bounds within their family dynamic.

Has anyone ever dealt with this or have suggestions?  If we end up not inviting that side of his family, does anyone have ideas for a respectful and tactful way to handle it if someone asks, "Where is my invite?" or something along those lines?

Thanks in advance!
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Re: Family feuds & guest list

  • Jells2dot0Jells2dot0 mod
    Moderator Ninth Anniversary 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    FI has to be willing to accept that no invite may mean a ruined or strained relationship with these people in the future. At the same time, MIL should put aside her feelings for these people for your big day.

    Or you can do what I did and just elope! Lol

    Seriously, though, this is something that needs to be worked out between your FI and his mom. FI needs to chat with her, gauge her reaction, weigh his feelings about the family, and do what is best for the both of you in the long run.

     







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  • mrsdelkinsmrsdelkins member
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    Thank you!
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