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Dress Vent

Just need to vent. My dress situation has got my anxiety on high alert. It has made me feel like all my paranoia is completely rational!

I got engaged in December '13 and I'm getting married October 18th. I picked, purchased and ordered my Mori Lee 1909 dress at the end of January (they took my measurements and asked me what size I wear -8- at that time). I was told it would come in at the end of May or early June. I called mid-June asking about it and they said it had been stuck in customs but should be in in a week or two. I called July 1st and they said "14 days, for sure" so I asked if I could go ahead and schedule my fitting. They suggested setting that up for the middle or end of August, but I 1) didn't feel comfortable with waiting that long and 2) don't have many free weekends because of showers, etc. So I scheduled it for this past Saturday, July 26. The dress finally arrived at the store just a couple days before my fitting.

As soon as I started pulling the dress up I could tell it was the wrong size. The whole point is that you want to take the dress in, so it felt immediately too tight. Turns out they ordered me a size 6 dress. I have not been a size 6 for many many years and I have 34DDD boobs to deal with, so that zipper did not go up very far. There was about a 5 inch gap. The dress has a built-in sash and a LOT of beading on an overlay, but the helpful attendant said, "oh we can let it out." I have been a SUPER chill bride during planning, but I'm sorry, you are not going to craft a 5 inch panel to add on to my $1000 dress that was not ordered correctly (I have not gained or lost any weight). Thankfully my mom was with me because I was shaking with disappointment and anxiety. My mom got on the phone with the owner and they are working to get me an appropriately sized dress from another More Lee seller in the US and it will *hopefully* be shipped to the store this week. Of course now I've got three back to back showers followed by a wisdom teeth surgical extraction for the next four weekends, so I'm going to have to take off work for a fitting. And since the first dress took 6-8 weeks longer to get in than they originally told me, I'm finding it hard to trust their estimates.

I am absolutely in love with my dress, and it was just really disappointing to get in for my first wedding dress fitting and feel like I'm too big or something. No one likes trying on clothes that are too small for them, so the combination of that self-consciousness and just the general anxiety about now having to find a dress was just really rough. I've still got over 2 months, but I'm so so so glad I didn't let them talk me into that late august fitting!

Now I'm going to call all of my vendors today just to make sure none of my other crazy anxiety dreams have come true in addition to the dress situation! 
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Re: Dress Vent

  • Ugh this sucks. I'm sorry you are dealing with this.

     

    I would probably start looking at back-up options. It sounds like this shop isn't very trustworthy. Also, if I did get my dress their, I would look at getting my alterations done elsewhere.

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  • Is it too tight around your chest/rib cage? 

    If they can't get it together on getting you the correct size, you might be able to add a lace-up option and plain panel for closure. I would ask for that at no charge since they messed up.
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  • SaraBrideSoon I'm going to give it the week to see if they get it together. They're the number one rated dress shop in my area and we don't have a ton of options here, so I'm really hopeful they will get it together this week.

    beethery it doesn't even zip up. Like with the dress on, the two sides in the back are five inches away from each other. It doesn't even zip over my ribs. Because the dress has an overlay with lots of beading, I'm really uncomfortable with the shop adding any panels because I don't believe they'd match. The seamstress helping said she'd be rebeading the whole top if she did "let it out", but I can't see how that wouldn't result in less per square inch beading and noticeable differences in the part of the dress that the store made vs. the designer portion. I'm considering just asking for a discount on the alterations already, but we'll see. Trying to stay calm for the week until I find out if the appropriately sized dress has made it in.

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  • edited July 2014
    Sorry all that is going on.  I wore Mori Lee 1909 for my wedding!  The dress is very comfortable and absolutely beautiful.  It will be worth all of the stress I promise!


    ETA:   FWIW I ordered my dress in February 2013 and it didn't arrive till mid September.  I believe the store told me it was due in 6 months after ordering.
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  • ugh.  This would upset me, too.  I hope it works out for you!
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    edited July 2014
    SaraBrideSoon I'm going to give it the week to see if they get it together. They're the number one rated dress shop in my area and we don't have a ton of options here, so I'm really hopeful they will get it together this week.

    beethery it doesn't even zip up. Like with the dress on, the two sides in the back are five inches away from each other. It doesn't even zip over my ribs. Because the dress has an overlay with lots of beading, I'm really uncomfortable with the shop adding any panels because I don't believe they'd match. The seamstress helping said she'd be rebeading the whole top if she did "let it out", but I can't see how that wouldn't result in less per square inch beading and noticeable differences in the part of the dress that the store made vs. the designer portion. I'm considering just asking for a discount on the alterations already, but we'll see. Trying to stay calm for the week until I find out if the appropriately sized dress has made it in.

    Oh lordy lord. Stay calm, and start working on a backup plan. If they don't get their shit together, raise hell.
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  • Wear those bitchy pants when you need to!
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