Yesterday. His boss fired him. Why? Because he refused to give in the 50 bucks that was missing from a till that he wasn't even working on.
FI is an assistant manager at a fast food place. One of the tills on his shift (he doesn't handle the tills) was short 250 bucks. So his boss said all the managers on shift would have to give 50 bucks to cover the difference. He called me to ask me to pull out the 50 bucks and drive it over, and I was like, awe hell no. That is illegal on so many levels - your boss can't make you pay back cash till shortages. What does he tell me? His boss has made him do it before, anywhere from 20 to 150 bucks. I was like :O Are you serious!? So I told him he was NOT to pay it and he got fired. Well, I put my bitchy pants on, went down there with the statute from our labour laws, showed them to his boss. I told him he had literally 30 seconds to give FI his job back or I would be filing a report and a lawsuit .
Not only does FI have his job back, he also has a raise and better hours. I filed the report anyway. But I was SO mad yesterday. My bitchy pants get shit done.
Re: Fiance Got Fired...
Ditto this. I'm way bitchier than my DH, but no way in hell would I do this. I think DH would feel less of a man. He's a grown adult, he can handle his own issues. I'm not his mother. Not to mention the fact that all his coworkers would probably be laughing at him behind his back.
Ahhh, ok. If your FI and other shift managers have been giving money in the past, why haven't they addressed this with each other and/or the boss? Large shortages that happen frequently aren't accidents. Someone is stealing.
It's total BS for his boss to demand money from the managers to cover the loss. But, it is absolutely ridiculous that your FI can't speak up for himself in a way that doesn't make him look like a snivling child that had to have his girlfriend/mommy speak up for him. I can't even imagine the shit talking his co-workers will be doing now.
He needs to look for another job because his boss is an ass, but also, because he will likely never live this down. I can't imagine his employees thinking very highly of his authority once they all hear about this.
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Can you imagine how that makes him look to his coworkers, subordinates, and supervisors - that he can't even handle a confrontational but appropriate conversation with his employers? It makes him look weak, irresponsible, and immature (or at least, that's what I'd be thinking).
I worked in my undergrad university's student conduct office; the parents who called to try to solve their kids' problems always had the most ridiculous and poorly adjusted students. How will anyone ever learn to stand up for themselves if someone else always does it for them?
This will not help break this "vicious cycle" - if anything, you've opened him up to ridicule and judgment, I think.
I probably would have done the research for him. And coached him through how to talk to his boss. If they decided they wouldn't stand up for their own benefit, I would have serious issues with them.
If my partner was being beat up, sure, I'd step in. If my partner was too immature to advocate for themselves in the workplace, and was ok paying probably 3-5 hours of their salary for something they didn't do, I'd seriously wonder how they were going to handle any other conflict in their lives.
You may have temporarily saved his job. But, you severely undermined any authority he had at that place. You didn't help deter a vicious circle. You just created another one. One where he knows he doesn't actually have to be a grown-up.
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http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
Back to the OP I have had similar issues regarding illegal payouts at the restaurant I work for. The owner tries taking it out of our check of we mess up/the kitchen messes up/the customer doesn't like it. I have started documenting each incident; though in a few cases I just split the check pay for the fuck up and eat it.
Usually, he will come home and lose his shit, ranting and raving about what happened and after he's vented, we discuss it. We talk it through and role play how to direct the conversation the next day. FI is very emotionally connected and looses sight of logic when he's really invested in something. We work together to find the words, examples, and solutions that work best and then he takes that with him the next day.