Black Tie Welcome

Re: Black Tie Welcome

• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  July 2014

  Another couple who has no idea what Black Tie actually means.

  
  "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
  
  

  
  

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• LDay2014 member

  

  July 2014 edited July 2014

  bubblegum1309 said:

  This was listed on a wedding invitation I received today. First time I have seen that!

  But what if you wear a fluorescent orange tie? or CAMO!!!!!

  
  

  Seriously, what the hell does that even mean?  It's was it previousl 'unwelcome'?  of course it's welcome.  Was their other option to turn away people who were wearing black tie?

  
  

  I'm sorry sir, I must turn you away from this wedding for you are in a tux and tuxes are not allowed.

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• Liatris2010 mod

  

  July 2014

  Who wouldn't welcome top shelf booze, multi-course meal with gloved service, live band, valet service, etc?
  

  

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• manateehugger member

  

  July 2014

  AKA 

  
  

  "We aren't shelling out to host a black tie event, but we'd like you to show up in black tie to make us look good at your expense."
  
  I think you should take your cue from Liatris, and RSVP with a big note saying how exciting you are about gloved service, valet, top shelf booze, and the all-important and necessary bathroom attendant!
  

  

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• Bubblegum5586 member

  

  July 2014

  The wedding is at 4:30, which doesn't black tie have to start at 6pm or later? 

  
  

  Also - this is the wedding I was venting about a few months ago that my 20 year old sister didn't get a guest invite for her boyfriend of 3 1/2 years….

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• Bubblegum5586 member

  

  July 2014

  PDKH said:

  AKA 

  
  

  "We aren't shelling out to host a black tie event, but we'd like you to show up in black tie to make us look good at your expense."
  
  I think you should take your cue from Liatris, and RSVP with a big note saying how exciting you are about gloved service, valet, top shelf booze, and the all-important and necessary bathroom attendant!
  

  This is a backyard wedding at their summer home on a lake…. which has a septic system that won't handle all their guests so we will be using porta-potties…. in black tie attire…. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• jellybeann member

  

  July 2014

  bubblegum1309 said:

  PDKH said:

  AKA 

  
  

  "We aren't shelling out to host a black tie event, but we'd like you to show up in black tie to make us look good at your expense."
  
  I think you should take your cue from Liatris, and RSVP with a big note saying how exciting you are about gloved service, valet, top shelf booze, and the all-important and necessary bathroom attendant!
  

  This is a backyard wedding at their summer home on a lake…. which has a septic system that won't handle all their guests so we will be using porta-potties…. in black tie attire…. 

  WHAT!?!? No I refuse to believe this is a real thing.

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• chibiyui member

  

  July 2014

  Ah hell no. 
  
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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  July 2014

  bubblegum1309 said:

  
  

  PDKH said:

  
  

  AKA 

  
  

  "We aren't shelling out to host a black tie event, but we'd like you to show up in black tie to make us look good at your expense."
  
  I think you should take your cue from Liatris, and RSVP with a big note saying how exciting you are about gloved service, valet, top shelf booze, and the all-important and necessary bathroom attendant!
  

  
  

  This is a backyard wedding at their summer home on a lake…. which has a septic system that won't handle all their guests so we will be using porta-potties…. in black tie attire…. 
  
  Yeah that is like the total antithesis of a black tie event. Wow, lol!
  

  
  "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
  
  

  
  

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• doeydo member

  

  July 2014

  As if other weddings would kick someone out if they showed up in a tuxedo or something.

  
  

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  July 2014

  There's nothing wrong with their venue - it sounds great and really pretty. But it's DEFINITELY not anywhere even close to black tie. Tux or evening gown + porta potty = disaster. 

  
  

  Why do people think well-dressed guests will make their party fancier? Just... no. 

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• short+sassy member

  

  July 2014

  Long, formal gowns should not be accessorized with porta-potties. (Shudder).

  

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• KatieinBkln member

  

  July 2014

  I just would like to say that this thread has taught me much about what Black Tie actually entails. I had some ideas, but never looked it up since I am definitely not having a black tie wedding. Thanks, gang!

  
  

  This baby knows exactly how I feel

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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  July 2014

  Some Black Tie event criteria:
  

  • Event begins after 6pm
  • High end, indoor venue
    
  • Valet service provided by the Bride and Groom
  • Gloved service
  • Hand passed hor d'ourves
    
  • Top shelf open bar with full wine list and preferably with a sommelier on site to assist with wine choices.
    
  • Multi course gourmet level plated meal- generally 5 to 7 courses, and preferably with dual entrees or tableside ordering
  • Real china, silver ware, glassware, linens, etc
  • Multi piece live band and and a DJ or secondary performers for when the main entertainment takes breaks
  • High end decor and custom lighting

  
  "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
  
  

  
  

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  July 2014

  doeydo said:

  As if other weddings would kick someone out if they showed up in a tuxedo or something.

  This is exactly what I told my mom the other day when she asked if my step-dad was "allowed" to wear his tux to my wedding. There's no upper limit on the dress code, dress as nicely as you're comfortable!

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• KatieinBkln member

  

  July 2014

  PrettyGirlLost said:

  Some Black Tie event criteria:
  

  • Event begins after 6pm
  • High end, indoor venue
    
  • Valet service provided by the Bride and Groom
  • Gloved service
  • Hand passed hor d'ourves
    
  • Top shelf open bar with full wine list and preferably with a sommelier on site to assist with wine choices.
    
  • Multi course gourmet level plated meal- generally 5 to 7 courses, and preferably with dual entrees or tableside ordering
  • Real china, silver ware, glassware, linens, etc
  • Multi piece live band and and a DJ or secondary performers for when the main entertainment takes breaks
  • High end decor and custom lighting

  
  

  Stuckindabox

  
  

  
  

  Thank you!

  
  

  This is making me very excited for my friend's black tie wedding next summer. I feel like the fanciest party I've ever been to is my prom, which did NOT have a sommalier on site (lame!). It'll be fun to go to a big do as an adult.

  
  

  This baby knows exactly how I feel

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• offensivekitten2 member

  

  July 2014

  Black tie... back yard... porta potty....
  
  Excuse me *leaves to get holy water and fire*

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• jenna8984 member

  

  July 2014

  Oh my......! You should definitely wear a short sundress and flip flops!

                                                                   

  
  

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• Cookie Pusher member

  

  July 2014

  I had nowhere near a black tie wedding, and my one defining criteria when choosing our outdoor venue was NO PORTA-POTTIES. No way was I going to get into one in my wedding gown, especially near the end of the evening. Yikes!

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