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AlexisA01 · August 2014

@Smichek It has been posted

I was talking to Smicheck about my distant friend and the new stuff since I had stopped talking to her. She was always pushy with things.The friend I was telling you guys about that I reconnected with who was very religious and I had to step away from the friendship, Kodie...asked me yesterday night if she could officiate my wedding since she was licensed to do so. She thought it would be a great thing to do for her "friend". She sent a pm first then posted on her facebook, tagging me. Since she can't post on my wall(thanks to privacy settings), she used her page and tagged me in it and I can't physically take it down. Lots of mutual friends and family are like yes that is such a good idea etc.

ETA: more info, sorry If it was confusing ladies

missdelilah · August 2014

Is @Smichek looking for some Facebook advice? I've had issues like this, but usually not with anyone I know. Friends of friends who I assume are phishing. You can mark the post you are tagged in as spam or harassment, explain the situation when you do this, and have it removed, if you can't directly untag yourself.

Can Kodie read @Smichek's wall? If not, post something telling your friends and family that you do no want this arrangement and you do not wish to discuss it further. Hopefully they'll be respectful.

AlexisA01 · August 2014

missdelilah said:

Is @Smichek looking for some Facebook advice? I've had issues like this, but usually not with anyone I know. Friends of friends who I assume are phishing. You can mark the post you are tagged in as spam or harassment, explain the situation when you do this, and have it removed, if you can't directly untag yourself.

Can Kodie read @Smichek's wall? If not, post something telling your friends and family that you do no want this arrangement and you do not wish to discuss it further. Hopefully they'll be respectful.

No I was telling Smichek about this and she was wondering if I made a thread about this.

AddieCake · August 2014

I'm so lost.

slothiegal · August 2014

AddieCake said:

I'm so lost.

I thought it was just me and my hangover. Glad it's not.

AddieCake · August 2014

Oh, ok. Someone on FB was out of line. I'm shocked.

AlexisA01 · August 2014

Even though I clicked to have my name removed from the tag, it still shows up on her page. I have timeline review and because it doesn't violate any facebook rules they can't take it down. It was a crappy thing because she asked me first in a private message and I didn't respond to it so she posted on her wall.

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

Ah ok this makes much more sense now.

I wouldn't be quite so blunt; it'll only make matters worse for yourself. I would PM her saying "I'd really like to keep personal wedding details off Facebook; could you remove the status where I'm tagged?" If she doesn't, I would just ignore what your family is saying. They can think anything's a good idea; doesn't mean you need to do it.

missdelilah · August 2014

@AlexisA01 Have you thought about blocking her on Facebook? That would likely make her unable to tag you in any future posts. It's the only course of action I can think of without directly confronting her.

I think @smichek has given some very good advice. But I agree, some people shouldn't be allowed on social media. I had a similar problem with some family members to the one she describes. My niece posted a pic of her with her brothers, which ended up with one brother calling the other a pedo repeatedly, and the second retaliating by calling the first one a drug f'ed s**tface. She pleaded about five times that they remove those comments; I joined in and pointed out that this was upsetting her, and in any event, an inappropriate argument to involve a child in.

I really hope you sort it out soon. But certainly, tell your family and friends that you are no longer friends with Kodie, and this arrangement is not to your liking and will not happen.

AlexisA01 · August 2014

You all are the best, I rather come to you guys with dealing with touchy stuff. Even my own friends are like brush it off, it's not a big deal. I'm going to use @smichek and @lolo883 in combination. I guess she thought she was doing me and her church a favor. Tonight is my dinner with my Fi's friend and his new wife. Can't wait to update you guys with that tonight.

missdelilah · August 2014

@AlexisA01 I'm happy this community has been of some use to you. I dislike the idea that your friends would brush off someone you dislike trying to interfere with what will be one of the best and most memorable days of your life. I feel as though she did it in such a public forum because she wanted your friends and family on side, thus making it more difficult for you to say no. It's obviously just conjecture seeing as I don't know this woman, but I don't see much else in the way of motivation for that behavior.

I hope you have a great time tonight!

Kauris · August 2014

@AlexisA01‌ is this dinner with the save the date couple in your other thread?

AlexisA01 · August 2014

kasmith1 said:

@AlexisA01‌ is this dinner with the save the date couple in your other thread?

YES!!!

AlexisA01 · August 2014

smichek said:

I need an update on this dinner.

Just posted and came back. I'm a little pissed off it was so shitty....so I hope it all makes sense @smichek

NavyBlue143 · August 2014

People suck. One of H's friends posted the link to our wedding website on her FB, tagged the two of us in it, and told all 8 million of her FB friends to go show us some love. Most of her "friends" are people H specifically said were to know absolutely nothing about the wedding because they tend to crash parties and make them drunken, drug filled raves, and several of them had said they planned to do just that at our wedding. Plus she's friends with his crazy ex girlfriend who tried to break us up by claiming H was the father of her child (child was born two years before we met, no cheating) He offered to take a paternity test knowing full well the timelines didn't match. She backed off real quick after that. But obviously H didn't want her knowing anything either.

I asked her nicely to take it down for privacy reasons (seriously, not her information to publish, but then she always intruded in H's life) and since she cannot stand to be corrected, thus began the hating Navy spiral that essentially ended her and H's friendship once she told me she hated me for taking him away from her and lectured me on how to treat the "tamed beast" that was my H. Hokay, crazy cakes.

beethery · August 2014

NavyBlue143 said:

People suck. One of H's friends posted the link to our wedding website on her FB, tagged the two of us in it, and told all 8 million of her FB friends to go show us some love. Most of her "friends" are people H specifically said were to know absolutely nothing about the wedding because they tend to crash parties and make them drunken, drug filled raves, and several of them had said they planned to do just that at our wedding. Plus she's friends with his crazy ex girlfriend who tried to break us up by claiming H was the father of her child (child was born two years before we met, no cheating) He offered to take a paternity test knowing full well the timelines didn't match. She backed off real quick after that. But obviously H didn't want her knowing anything either. I asked her nicely to take it down for privacy reasons (seriously, not her information to publish, but then she always intruded in H's life) and since she cannot stand to be corrected, thus began the hating Navy spiral that essentially ended her and H's friendship once she told me she hated me for taking him away from her and lectured me on how to treat the "tamed beast" that was my H. Hokay, crazy cakes.

Hooooooooooly shit.

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