Hello, total newbie, but I've been asked to be a MOH in my BFF's wedding. I have looked at the forums and decided to make my own thread, since I'm sure people have stories of horror they think might happen, even if the wedding hasn't occurred yet.
I need somewhere to vent
TK seems like the ideal place.
Rundown - unplanned wedding, in that it's going to be in BFF's (Bride's) house. Normally I wouldn't have an issue with this, except they are somehow going to have to fit 60 people on a postage stamp-sized lawn. (30 from each side.) How are they going to get enough chairs, and there's no way they can get tables also to fit. Enough food doesn't seem to be a problem. It'll be a dry wedding, which is fine. Unfortunately the Bride is "planning" it all by herself. I understand the need to cut corners for budget, but one thing I wouldn't skimp on are the invitations. They look like birthday party invites.
The majority of the updates on who the BMs are, etc. has been posted on Facebook. Keep in mind she didn't start planning until late July and her wedding is on August 16. Aaaah! She doesn't have a dress that fits, she wants her cake to be pistachio, and cupcakes with strawberry cream cheese icing. I'd gobble the CCs right up, but I've never heard of a pistachio cake. I feel sorry for her because most of her family hates the groom, and there really is no talking to her about changing the cake to something more... recognizable. Or about anything else, because it's HER wedding.
Also there is drama with one of the gals she wants to be a BM. They kind of stopped being friends. I just can't see how it's all going to come together fluidly in time, and I'm nervous that there will be a lot of raising voices/yelling because her fam hates the groom. Well, not hate, they just think she can do better. She doesn't think she can. B&G are both late 20s, for reference. I personally think she should have her sister be the MOH, but that's me. She wants a person to make the cake, and three separate BMs to do her hair, makeup, and nails. Dress code doesn't seem to make sense to me either: pink and maroon for BMs. What if guests wear those colors too? Awkward.
I'm all for being on a budget, but I'd for sure plan in advance. I've tried speaking to her about having a courthouse wedding at this point, because I think that would probably go off without a hitch. Again, no talking to her.
She doesn't want an ounce of advice.
Is she a Bridezilla or no? I just have a horrible feeling about the whole thing.