Attending a PPD today.

CA.Giraffe · August 2014

DH is a groomsman. The couple married a year ago, and isn't hiding that fact from anyone, but...still.

I can come back with an update if anyone's interested, but so far it's been a shitstorm. Bachelor party in Vegas, planned by the groom, without asking anyone for a budget. The tux rental for DH was $300. At the rehearsal dinner last night, one of the bridesmaids freaked out over something, I don't know what, and removed herself from the wedding. Also at the RD, I asked what drinks were covered and was told it was open bar. At the end, everyone who ordered hard liquor received a bill.

The event today features a horse-drawn carriage to start an outdoor wedding. It's 106 outside right now. I can't wait. I'm sucking it up because its DH's best friend.

chibiyui · August 2014

Damn. Hope liquor is covered at the reception.

Chipmunk415 · August 2014

Updates! We must have updates!

CA.Giraffe · August 2014

So the bride updated FB an hour ago and listed the location and time of the wedding. Wonder how many crashers they'll get? Is it proper etiquette to give the crashers a bill for their liquor?

Kauris · August 2014

I am following for updates. Your husband is a good friend and you are a good wife for going along with this.

falsara · August 2014

Oh must have updates. Sounds very entertaining.

beethery · August 2014

CA.Giraffe said:

DH is a groomsman. The couple married a year ago, and isn't hiding that fact from anyone, but...still. I can come back with an update if anyone's interested, but so far it's been a shitstorm. Bachelor party in Vegas, planned by the groom, without asking anyone for a budget. The tux rental for DH was $300. At the rehearsal dinner last night, one of the bridesmaids freaked out over something, I don't know what, and removed herself from the wedding. Also at the RD, I asked what drinks were covered and was told it was open bar. At the end, everyone who ordered hard liquor received a bill. The event today features a horse-drawn carriage to start an outdoor wedding. It's 106 outside right now. I can't wait. I'm sucking it up because its DH's best friend.

Poor horsies

wandajune6 · August 2014

We need updates!

mrscaty · August 2014

I definitely want an update! That is, if you haven't passed out from heat stroke. Geez.

missdelilah · August 2014

It certainly sounds very interesting. Although the issues you've already observed can happen at any wedding and aren't PPD specific. The couple just sounds inconsiderate. I hope you can enjoy the day regardless.

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

Updaaaaaaaaates!!!

Sugargirl1019 · August 2014

Yes please update!

I would have stirred some shit saying, “oh a bill? I was told open bar was covered. You must be looking for b&g to give the bills to."

LDay2014 · August 2014

We would start a live blog or something for bad weddings.

CA.Giraffe · August 2014

All in all, the event went better than I expected. Lots of etiquette fails, and a general sense of being over the top given these folks are already married.

We were outside, it was 107 degrees, seats for roughly 75 percent of guests, and the ceremony started 35 minutes late when the bride came screaming up the venue's driveway in her horse-drawn carriage. The sound gave out during her processional, so we couldn't hear anything. No food at cocktail hour. Also during cocktail hour, the two bartenders got into an argument over whether the wine had been sitting in the sun too long, so nobody was served for the last 30 minutes. Beer and wine and water were hosted - nothing else was offered. No coffee, tea, lemonade, or sodas.

The reception was just weird - the bride left as soon as she ate dinner, and didn't come back until about 15 minutes before the wedding coordinator kicked everyone out - 90 minutes before what we had been told was the end time. Because the bride was gone, there were no toasts (even though BM/MoH had been told to prepare speeches), and the cakes (two of them) were never cut or served. In place of toasts, the groom thanked us for coming, and said he and his wife would be opening gifts today in hopes of covering the bar tab. Classy. At least we were spared the planned money dance since the bride went AWOL.

DH is just glad it's over.

Jells2dot0 · August 2014

If you're gonna have a PPD, you should at least put in the effort to hosts your guests properly. Poorly Hosted PPDs (PHPPDs??) are beyond tacky and rude.

CA.Giraffe · August 2014

It felt like the emphasis was on PRINCESS!!!!!. She was in a massive ball gown and had her horsey carriage, and the rest of us common folk were not only poorly hosted, it was like the bride didn't even want to interact with us. And cake is my favorite part of any party, so I was bummed.

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

WOW what a shit show!

Knottie37373131 · August 2014

That is terrible. . .

LabLove86 · August 2014

thisismynickname2 · August 2014

Why plan a PPD if you miss the event? Weird!

Nymeru · August 2014

Have you found out why the bride left?

missdelilah · August 2014

Sorry to hear that it sucked, but not at all surprised considering your original post. Definitely think we need to differentiate PPDs from PHPPDs.

falsara · August 2014

Wow that sounds horrendous. And why would the bride miss the party?

sarahufl · August 2014

I couldn't WAIT to get to my reception and I was bummed when it was over. I can't imagine having MISSED IT.

Sugargirl1019 · August 2014

sarahufl said:
I couldn't WAIT to get to my reception and I was bummed when it was over. I can't imagine having MISSED IT.

YES! What the hell was she doing?!

pinkcow13 · August 2014

I wonder why in the world she left her own party??

CA.Giraffe · August 2014

We have no idea where she was all that time...when I first noticed she was gone, I thought maybe they were out taking pics at sunset, but her groom was back pretty quick and she wasn't. I imagine she had to pee, and I know she had her own stash of hard alcohol in her dressing room, but...hopefully neither of those activities takes hours on end.

CLoGreenEyes · August 2014

I just can't get over not cutting the cake. WHAT IS THE POINT OF ANYTHING IF NO CAKE?

Also, the groom's excuse for a thank you? No. Just NO.

beethery · August 2014

Why do you get cake if you're not going to eat it? WHO DOES THAT?

Simply Fated · August 2014

Was the groom just making a (bad) joke or was he being serious?
You need to find out why she left. We need to know. I bet it was because she found out how high the bar tab had gotten already.

CA.Giraffe · August 2014

Trust me, I have DH trying to find out what went down with the bride.

I suspect the groom was serious about the bar tab, since he made a similar statement about 5 days ago when DH and I went to dinner with them. I chatted up one of the bartenders about halfway through the reception, who told me the estimated amount of alcohol for the evening had been consumed before dinner was served.

They had a 4-tier wedding cake and a 2-tier grooms cake. Both of which were intact when we were all booted from the reception. DH told me their cake bill was $1400. Such a shame.

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