I got my first...

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

...really disappointing wedding decline. Turns out the very first RSVP I got stating nothing but a brusque "unable to attend" (no name, thanks a lot) was written by my godfather's girlfriend. Was just discussing with FMIL whether my godfather should give a ceremony reading (he's Jewish - wouldn't have asked him to read New Testament but maybe he's down with Genesis?). Well that answers that question; he's not even coming. :'( Of all my siblings, he was the only one who actually stuck around... always sent cards at my birthday, came over for holidays... not anymore, apparently.

larrygaga · August 2014

Maybe they have a very good reason? Could it be a religious difference thing?

*hugs*

beethery · August 2014

I'm sorry

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

larrygaga said:

Maybe they have a very good reason? Could it be a religious difference thing?

*hugs*

It's not a church wedding, and he's been known to come over for Easter dinner and "bless" the ham by swearing at it in Yiddish (the only words he knew), claiming that made it kosher. Definitely not a religion thing.

I think his GF has her own reason, and that reason is she's a heinous bitch. She made all sorts of awful comments about how the retirement party we threw our mom wasn't good enough. She also happens to be the biggest racist I know, but went on an African safari 2 years ago and just became obsessed with the idea that she had to save all the poor African people because they're just so miserable and black so now she's planning more missions trips to brag to her rich friends about. I have no idea why my kind, sweet, funny, construction worker godfather is even with her. She's horrible.

missdelilah · August 2014

I'm so sorry to hear it. Hopefully they'll have a really good reason.

mysticl · August 2014

larrygaga said:

Maybe they have a very good reason? Could it be a religious difference thing?

*hugs*

I've known Jewish people to attend Christian weddings but they sat in the back and did not actively participate in the service. I am a little confused by a Jewish Godparent unless you are using a different definition of godparent than the one I was taught.

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

mysticl said:

larrygaga said:

Maybe they have a very good reason? Could it be a religious difference thing?

*hugs*

I've known Jewish people to attend Christian weddings but they sat in the back and did not actively participate in the service. I am a little confused by a Jewish Godparent unless you are using a different definition of godparent than the one I was taught.

He's Jewish by culture but not by religion. He attended all 3 of my mom's weddings (the first Catholic, middle Episcopalian, last Methodist), and I'm sure if he was devoutly religious he wouldn't have agreed to be my godfather at my Episcopalian baptism. I only mentioned him being Jewish because I was just having that discussion with FMIL on Tuesday about ceremony readings, and she said in her family it's traditional to have godparents do the readings and would mine like to do that, and I laughed and said "my godfather is Jewish, I doubt it." I'm 100% certain that has zero to do with him not coming.

larrygaga · August 2014

lolo883 said:

larrygaga said:

Maybe they have a very good reason? Could it be a religious difference thing?

*hugs*

It's not a church wedding, and he's been known to come over for Easter dinner and "bless" the ham by swearing at it in Yiddish (the only words he knew), claiming that made it kosher. Definitely not a religion thing.

I think his GF has her own reason, and that reason is she's a heinous bitch. She made all sorts of awful comments about how the retirement party we threw our mom wasn't good enough. She also happens to be the biggest racist I know, but went on an African safari 2 years ago and just became obsessed with the idea that she had to save all the poor African people because they're just so miserable and black so now she's planning more missions trips to brag to her rich friends about. I have no idea why my kind, sweet, funny, construction worker godfather is even with her. She's horrible.

BOX

I'm swinging wild here, but maybe she just threw it in the mail saying no without even telling him? Maybe he doesn't even know about the invite in the first place? I know you aren't supposed to do this, but if someone I was close to did something unexpected like RSVP no, I would totally call them out on it.

NOT saying you should, but maybe you should.

Sorry, I give horrible advice.

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

larrygaga said:

lolo883 said:

larrygaga said:

Maybe they have a very good reason? Could it be a religious difference thing?

*hugs*

It's not a church wedding, and he's been known to come over for Easter dinner and "bless" the ham by swearing at it in Yiddish (the only words he knew), claiming that made it kosher. Definitely not a religion thing.

I think his GF has her own reason, and that reason is she's a heinous bitch. She made all sorts of awful comments about how the retirement party we threw our mom wasn't good enough. She also happens to be the biggest racist I know, but went on an African safari 2 years ago and just became obsessed with the idea that she had to save all the poor African people because they're just so miserable and black so now she's planning more missions trips to brag to her rich friends about. I have no idea why my kind, sweet, funny, construction worker godfather is even with her. She's horrible.

BOX

I'm swinging wild here, but maybe she just threw it in the mail saying no without even telling him? Maybe he doesn't even know about the invite in the first place? I know you aren't supposed to do this, but if someone I was close to did something unexpected like RSVP no, I would totally call them out on it.

NOT saying you should, but maybe you should.

Sorry, I give horrible advice.

It's possible; she's a big enough bitch. My mom called them tonight (that's how I know that decline was theirs) but she didn't mention which of them she talked to.

mysticl · August 2014

lolo883 said:

mysticl said:

larrygaga said:

Maybe they have a very good reason? Could it be a religious difference thing?

*hugs*

I've known Jewish people to attend Christian weddings but they sat in the back and did not actively participate in the service. I am a little confused by a Jewish Godparent unless you are using a different definition of godparent than the one I was taught.

He's Jewish by culture but not by religion. He attended all 3 of my mom's weddings (the first Catholic, middle Episcopalian, last Methodist), and I'm sure if he was devoutly religious he wouldn't have agreed to be my godfather at my Episcopalian baptism. I only mentioned him being Jewish because I was just having that discussion with FMIL on Tuesday about ceremony readings, and she said in her family it's traditional to have godparents do the readings and would mine like to do that, and I laughed and said "my godfather is Jewish, I doubt it." I'm 100% certain that has zero to do with him not coming.

You're right he wouldn't have. I am a little surprised the minister allowed him to be a godparent. His girlfriend sounds like a really sweet person. Is my sarcasm coming through on the last sentence?

mschristie123 · August 2014

Man that's a bummer...

We had a few really disappointing declines while getting the rsvps back. It kinda sucks. You're day will be perfect despite them not being there. Chin up!

pinkcow13 · August 2014

I'm so sorry

That's soo disappointing. But, yor wedding will still be wonderful, regardless. Maybe they have a good reason? (Trying to be an optimist, here!)

lovesclimbing · August 2014

lolo883 said:

larrygaga said:

lolo883 said:

larrygaga said:

Maybe they have a very good reason? Could it be a religious difference thing?

*hugs*

It's not a church wedding, and he's been known to come over for Easter dinner and "bless" the ham by swearing at it in Yiddish (the only words he knew), claiming that made it kosher. Definitely not a religion thing.

I think his GF has her own reason, and that reason is she's a heinous bitch. She made all sorts of awful comments about how the retirement party we threw our mom wasn't good enough. She also happens to be the biggest racist I know, but went on an African safari 2 years ago and just became obsessed with the idea that she had to save all the poor African people because they're just so miserable and black so now she's planning more missions trips to brag to her rich friends about. I have no idea why my kind, sweet, funny, construction worker godfather is even with her. She's horrible.

BOX

I'm swinging wild here, but maybe she just threw it in the mail saying no without even telling him? Maybe he doesn't even know about the invite in the first place? I know you aren't supposed to do this, but if someone I was close to did something unexpected like RSVP no, I would totally call them out on it.

NOT saying you should, but maybe you should.

Sorry, I give horrible advice.

It's possible; she's a big enough bitch. My mom called them tonight (that's how I know that decline was theirs) but she didn't mention which of them she talked to.

"Hi, Godfather, I just got your decline in the mail. We'll really miss you at the wedding. When would be a good time to come and see you afterwards and show you pictures/video?"

Then you'll find out, and you won't be being rude.

lc07 · August 2014

Sorry, lolo. Almost all of my VIPs were there. All but one. My H had many who couldn't come d/t being out of country. I know it was really hard for him. *hugging you* Please try to give him the benefit of the doubt that it's not personal. Maybe there is a good reason.

Sugargirl1019 · August 2014

I'm sorry lolo! I blame it on that bitch woman.

emmaaa · August 2014

I'm so sorry! That has to be very disappointing

climbingsingle · August 2014

I'm sorry!! I'd be disappointed too.

sarahufl · August 2014

Declines are tough. I would def ask him, though. It sounds odd that he wouldn't come and not call you or let you know in some other way.

My grandmother was too ill to make it, but she called me to tell me. She was in tears and so upset. I, of course, said I understood and we would miss her. But she didn't just throw the RSVP card in the mail.

And honestly, if she doesn't want to come- it shouldn't stop HIM from coming if he wants to.

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

sarahufl said:

Declines are tough. I would def ask him, though. It sounds odd that he wouldn't come and not call you or let you know in some other way.

My grandmother was too ill to make it, but she called me to tell me. She was in tears and so upset. I, of course, said I understood and we would miss her. But she didn't just throw the RSVP card in the mail.

And honestly, if she doesn't want to come- it shouldn't stop HIM from coming if he wants to.

You would think. I'm pretty sure she keeps his balls in a glass case.

MommyKristin88 · August 2014

I'm sorry :-(

Want us to all rally together and get the bitch?

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

MommyKristin88 said:

I'm sorry :-(

Want us to all rally together and get the bitch?

Yes please.

mysticl · August 2014

lolo883 said:

sarahufl said:

Declines are tough. I would def ask him, though. It sounds odd that he wouldn't come and not call you or let you know in some other way.

My grandmother was too ill to make it, but she called me to tell me. She was in tears and so upset. I, of course, said I understood and we would miss her. But she didn't just throw the RSVP card in the mail.

And honestly, if she doesn't want to come- it shouldn't stop HIM from coming if he wants to.

You would think. I'm pretty sure she keeps his balls in a glass case.

Could she have kept the invite from him and just filled out the RSVP herself?

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

mysticl said:

lolo883 said:

sarahufl said:

Declines are tough. I would def ask him, though. It sounds odd that he wouldn't come and not call you or let you know in some other way.

My grandmother was too ill to make it, but she called me to tell me. She was in tears and so upset. I, of course, said I understood and we would miss her. But she didn't just throw the RSVP card in the mail.

And honestly, if she doesn't want to come- it shouldn't stop HIM from coming if he wants to.

You would think. I'm pretty sure she keeps his balls in a glass case.

Could she have kept the invite from him and just filled out the RSVP herself?

Yup. Wouldn't change anything though. What she says, goes.

DanikaMarie0227 · August 2014

Ugh, how disappointing

I'm sorry!

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