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Re: Social Media and Weddings

  • StitelME said:
    @sarahbear31 - i just have to say that your sig is the most adorable thing ever.
    aw, thanks!  I saw it online and it cracks me up!
  • If it were the bride or groom updating social media with photos during their big day, THAT I would side-eye.  However, I love it when guests post photos throughout the day when I'm not a guest at that wedding.  I have 200+ Facebook "friends" and you better believe I stalk the bejezus out of people on the wedding day and the days following.  I just love wedding photos. I look up hashtags on Instagram too if notice someone publicized one. 
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  • I think that this is the kind of thing that I spend not one iota of energy thinking about because there's literally nothing you can do to control it. You can't tell grown adults what to post on their social feeds (though I'm sure at least once a day we all wish that we could). It's going to happen. You're not going to be able to stop it, and allowing yourself to be annoyed by it is probably just a piece of stress you don't need.

    Relax. Breathe. Be glad you have people who care about you and what to share your happiness. 
  • fdjlka said:

    QUESTION:  What are your thoughts on wedding guests posting photos of your big day on social media?

    I have noticed a trend lately that guests seem to post updates and document every second of the day as it is going on.  While, on the one hand, this is kind of nice to have different POVs, on the other hand it seems a little overexposed and intrusive to share what should be an intimate celebration with strangers online. 

    What about guests who cannot attend the wedding?  Do you want to be the ones to share your own wedding photos (might I mention, expensive, professional photos which are flattering) and moments with them yourselves, or is this NBD to you if they see all of this through some guest's social media account?

    I never really gave this a second thought until recently so just wondering if this is something else other brides are thinking about as their day approaches.

    I really hope people take pictures and crowdsourse my wedding. . .I need instant gratification! I can't wait for the professional pics to come back!!!!

    That said, I don't always think FB is the most appropriate place to share wedding photos or info, but it's probably going to happen to an extent.

    I added an insert in our invitations about the WedPics app and included our album name in the hopes ppl will take and share pictures there. I went to a wedding in July where this was done and it was awesome. It was cool to see all the pictures ppl were uploading.

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  • As long as no one puts an invitation or any other info-type stuff up, I don't care.

    Also, as long as no one tags me in a pic where I'm doing a Jim Carrey face, I'm good.
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  • QUESTION:  What are your thoughts on wedding guests posting photos of your big day on social media?

    I have noticed a trend lately that guests seem to post updates and document every second of the day as it is going on.  While, on the one hand, this is kind of nice to have different POVs, on the other hand it seems a little overexposed and intrusive to share what should be an intimate celebration with strangers online. 

    What about guests who cannot attend the wedding?  Do you want to be the ones to share your own wedding photos (might I mention, expensive, professional photos which are flattering) and moments with them yourselves, or is this NBD to you if they see all of this through some guest's social media account?

    I never really gave this a second thought until recently so just wondering if this is something else other brides are thinking about as their day approaches.

    I really hope people take pictures and crowdsourse my wedding. . .I need instant gratification! I can't wait for the professional pics to come back!!!! That said, I don't always think FB is the most appropriate place to share wedding photos or info, but it's probably going to happen to an extent. I added an insert in our invitations about the WedPics app and included our album name in the hopes ppl will take and share pictures there. I went to a wedding in July where this was done and it was awesome. It was cool to see all the pictures ppl were uploading.
    Our friends used the WedPics app and it was great! A ton of people used it and it was really fun!
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  • I loved seeing all the pictures of my wedding while I waited on the pro pics. Just set your privacy settings to where you have to approve any tagged pictures of you and enjoy seeing the pictures.
    These settings do not prevent the image from still showing up on the Newsfeed with your name tagged on it... it just prevents it from showing up on YOUR timeline/profile.
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  • I swear I tried to change my name before and couldn't figure it out lol. Must have been a brain fart lol/
  • I personally don't like it.  But this is mainly because we choose not to put pictures of our daughter on social media.  But this has a lot to do with my line of work as well and not wanting her picture out there.  Most family and friends respect this.  

    Saying that... I am aware that some people don't take any of this into consideration and will post what they like when they like.  Though I don't agree, I know it will happen and I will have to remember this is part of it in this day and age.
  • you'll be so wrapped up in the day that you won't be monitoring FB to see who's posting what. who cares.  and really, most people at weddings post pics of themselves, not the couple :)
  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville member
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    I really didn't care. Yeah, it meant their other friends and other random people who I didn't know could see my wedding, but that was no big deal. 

    Back in the day, people had photo albums and would share photos with friends and family (remember "Brag Books" for grandmothers?), so it's sort of the same thing to me. It's not like I was drunk in pajamas. It was my wedding day, when I was all dressed up with fancy hair and makeup and felt amazing, so I didn't care.

    I didn't notice a lot of people on their phones during the reception. A few people checked-in at the casino where we got married and then again at our hotel (we had an in-suite reception), but it was Vegas, so who could blame them? :)

    I really liked the photos and videos I saw, and it was nice to have pictures while waiting for our pro pics. There was only one photo I didn't care for, where I had Crazy Eyes, so I asked my friend, nicely, to please remove it (which she did, immediately).

    I also changed my settings so I couldn't be tagged. I went through everyone's photos and tagged myself in the ones I really liked. There were only a few I didn't want on my profile, but only because the photo itself wasn't very good (really dark and grainy, etc).

    This was so totally a non-issue for me that day. I was more worried about not tripping, not screwing up the vows, not blubbering, not spilling anything on my dress, making sure I didn't have food in my teeth, etc. Other than that, I was focused on H and everyone else I talked to.
  • Simply put, I hate this "trend." I think posting about somebody's wedding before they get a chance to is rude. A status update saying you're at so and son's wedding? Sure. Some selfies of you and your friends? Absolutely. Documenting the actual ceremony and posting pictures of the couple exchanging their vows before they get a chance to? NOPE.

    But I can't stop these things, so I won't try. And even if I could stop guests from doing that, it's overly controlling. It's on me to learn to live with it.
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  • I have fb set up where I accept tags but Im not sure how to request pics of FI's kids not be posted. He doesn't put their photos on because nothing is 100% private.


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  • I am actually looking forward to seeing the pictures and have the WedPics app and a instagram hashtag made. 

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  • I love wedding pics on social media.  When I can't make a wedding (two-weddings-the-same-day, DW out of price range etc) I love checking out the shots; and I know I have friends and family who can't make ours who willbe doing the same.

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  • Lowell14 said:
    I have fb set up where I accept tags but Im not sure how to request pics of FI's kids not be posted. He doesn't put their photos on because nothing is 100% private.
    You could spread that through word of mouth. Additionally, FB has a feature where you can request a photo be removed. If the poster wants to leave the picture up, then they'd have to figure out a way to blur his kids' faces.
  • I enjoyed that people posted pictures.  It's not like I was taking any pictures to look at, so I certainly wanted to see the ones that other people took!
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