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Feeling meh about venues
We found one that we both love, perfect price, beautiful, has everything we need. However, I feel very meh about it. I feel meh about everything involving wedding, and so does FI. I was never that girl dreaming about her wedding. We have both talked about it many times, and we know we want the wedding we planned. However, we are both not super excited about every little detail. I think I'll be more excited when it comes to planning how the ceremony will go and planning out decorations. I was pretty excited to write the guest list out.
I just worry that because I'm not overly excited about it, that it's not the right place. FI is probably not overly excited about it because he is that manly man that just doesn't really care about weddings. We both want this wedding though. I picture myself walking down the isle to him and everything, and that's what he says too. All other types of weddings we could do don't sound as good.
We both have a lot of other things that are much more important and more exciting than weddings though. I hope this is more of a case of we just don't really care about weddings rather than we subconsciously don't like the venue we probably will get.
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Re: Feeling meh about venues
I looked at 2 venues and picked the one I liked the best. In one day.
I tried on 6 dresses and picked the one I liked the best. In one day.
There were no tears. There was no big, emotional moment. I loved my wedding- every element of it and I loved getting married. But planning it was not this giant, emotional thing for me. Don't beat yourself up over it.
I was excited and emotional about my FI (now H). That is what really matters.
I was certainly not "OMG tears I love this venue" It was pretty, it was in our price range and met our needs. I fell in love with it more after our tasting though :-) and I loved how it all looked the day of and don't regret my venue for a minute. I say go for it.
Actually H though I was settling on a venue and didn't think I would be happy with it. So we extended our venue search for another week and considered moving the date with our church, still nothing fit in quite as well, as what was our venue.
I'm not overly excited about my venue either. FI and I are on a budget, knew we didn't want to get married at a banquet hall (which is very popular in my area), couldn't do a backyard wedding because the thought of coordinating all of that was making my anxiety go through the roof. We always talked about a winery wedding but couldn't afford the big names in our area. So we went with this little winery that's a little out of the way but fits our needs. It's pretty and it's nice but it's not this "wow" amazing place. I'm okay with that because I know that we'll have good food, good wine, our guests will be treated well and we're not going to go bankrupt because of it.
Like PPs have said, not everything about wedding planning will make you squee and bring you to tears. I haven't been super pumped up about a lot of the planning, but I did have my moments. We're getting flowers from our favorite florist and I know she's going to make my bouquet look gorgeous. I ordered my hair piece the other day and I think it's going to be my favorite part of my whole look. Our invitations were so pretty. Some things will just make you more excited than others.
Not everybody has the need to cry about all the wedding stuff. We chose our venue based on the fact it was cheap, it was blank slate, and we could do whatever we want. Including outside catering and providing our own liquor. Is it really pretty? No. But that's what décor is for. I stalked all kinds of places online, but I just couldn't meet the minimums for a lot of the nicer places, it was too high. I really wanted an outside reception or a place with a lot of windows. I couldn't find one in my price range so I compromised and found some place that was low enough in price that I could spend extra money decorating it. The only things that made me cry were the proposal and finding my dress.
I'm the fuck out.
When we got engaged, we locked the venue down within a week and a half. We were getting in married in my hometown, DH was living in our home base (Chicago) and I was completing a doctoral internship in LA.Long distance relationship, and even longer distance wedding planning.
My mom went to the venue and face timed me while I was at work. It checked my boxes of being "nice looking" and at a hotel in our area, because I wanted the reception to be convenient for our hard-partying family members and friends. When I came home for Christmas later that month, I saw it in person for the first time. That was it.