How much do you spend on your wedding party?

jbertone8 · August 2014

How much should we spend on gifts for our wedding party members? Also, should it be a formal presentation at the rehearsal dinner to give them to each bridesmaid/groomsman?

wandajune6 · August 2014

I'm not planning a formal presentation. I bought personal gifts and don't feel the need to make a big fuss- they're thank you's, not a public spectacle.

I'm spending about $55/BM for gifts. They also got matching wraps and necklaces, though I don't count them as gifts.

holyguacamole79 · August 2014

jbertone8 said:

How much should we spend on gifts for our wedding party members? Also, should it be a formal presentation at the rehearsal dinner to give them to each bridesmaid/groomsman?

Shop for them as you would for their birthday. Also remember that accessories for the women to wear in the wedding shouldn't be a part of their gift. Regarding when to give them the gifts, I wouldn't make it a "formal" presentation in front of others. I gave my BMs their gifts at the bridal luncheon, and my husband gave his guys their gifts after the RD.

missdelilah · August 2014

I'm making things for my BMs. I suppose they probably won't cost terribly much to make. A have a lot of the stuff on hand, so I guess I'll never know for certain. Still, looking at the pattern I've got, I can see each one taking about a day to put together.

I'll be giving mine privately, but I will ask for photographs with them, but I won't be super offended if they decline. I just like to keep pictures of the things that I've made and who they end up going to. I've got a nice scrapbook of them.

FI is taking care of the GM. I'll be interested to see what he comes up with.

penguin44 · August 2014

I spent about $40-60 on each girl. I spent more on my MOH. I also made them brunch the day before. I gave them the gifts when each girl arrived in town. So no formal presentation.

SmileDamnit · August 2014

So we had only a best man (H's son, 15-years-old) and a maid of honor (my Sis, in her 30s). For DS, we got a new bike and spent about $300. For my Sis, I got a handmaid necklace (she loooooves jewelry), and spent about $250. No formal presentation. Both very personalize and had nothing to do with the wedding (e.g. nothing that was presented & had to be worn/used during the ceremony).

sarahufl · August 2014

I spent about $80-$100 on each of my 3 BMs. I gave them their gifts in my hotel room before we left for the wedding.

There was no grand presentation and I got each of them something very different.

Peaseblossom55 · August 2014

I spent $200 but I only had 4 BM.

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

I'm spending about $50-60 I think, I lost track. I don't normally exchange birthday presents with all of them. I have 5 BMs.

Fran1985 · August 2014

I think its just about what you can afford, it doesn't have to be a certain number. I'm spending about 150 each plus paying for hair and makeup, but I am going to give them their gifts privately the night before the wedding at my hotel room.

Maggie0829 · August 2014

I spent about $125 on each girl but I only had two people in my bridal party. If I had more then I probably would have spent less. As for presenting them their gifts, all I did was wait till after we ate and before dessert was served and I got up and handed each girl their gift, gave them a hug and thanked them for being in the wedding. I certainly did not make a speech or made an announcement that gifts were being given.

wandajune6 · August 2014

I haven't been in a lot of weddings so I apologize if this sounds stupid- how do you give out BP gifts at a RD without it being weird?

At the RD, all of the BP members are bringing their spouses and kids. It feels weird to give my BM a gift without buying gifts for her 4 kids. Or for FI to give gifts to his brothers but not their kids. Or, worse yet, one of FI's brother's wives is a BM, one is not- what about her?

How do you give gifts at an RD without it getting awkward fast?

ashley8918 · August 2014

I spent $40-$60 on each girl, and will spend about $100-ish on my man of honor.

Note: This is not because he is somehow more important, or any of that nonsense. It is simply because I found the girls stuff mostly on great clearance sales, and the thing than I want to get him isn't. They are all pretty high end items (designer clutches, etc), so it's not like his gift is "better" in any way.

(P.S. Macy's has a great sale on Calvin Klein, Michael Kors, Coach, etc. clutches right now, if anyone is in the markt.)

mschristie123 · August 2014

wandajune6 said:

I haven't been in a lot of weddings so I apologize if this sounds stupid- how do you give out BP gifts at a RD without it being weird?

At the RD, all of the BP members are bringing their spouses and kids. It feels weird to give my BM a gift without buying gifts for her 4 kids. Or for FI to give gifts to his brothers but not their kids. Or, worse yet, one of FI's brother's wives is a BM, one is not- what about her?

How do you give gifts at an RD without it getting awkward fast?

I didn't give out the gifts at the RD. I didn't think it would be appropriate given all the other people present. I wanted to pick a more intimate time to give them their gift and I wrote them each a personal note thanking them for being in the wedding. I gave them their gifts when all the BMs were getting ready with me at my parents house before the ceremony. I spent about $50 I want to say. I had 6 BMs.

huskypuppy14 · August 2014

I spent about 100 dollars on each of my bridesmaids (3). My husband spent 50-75 on his groomsman and ushers (6 total).

We gave them out at the rehearsal dinner, and it wasn't awkward. The rehearsal was just for the bridal party, their dates, and our parents (our siblings were all in the bridal party). So everyone but the SO were given a present and/or thank you note. My husband made a little speech thanking me, his parents, and my parents. And then we gave out the presents.

My sister gave out her bridesmaid gifts after her bridal shower when it was just us.

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