So let me start off by saying this is our first marriage. We are 23, both college students, and we have lived together for awhile but a few of those years were at my parents house after he lost his job and I was going to school full time. We have some stuff now, but we live with our best man and maid of honor, so some of our furniture, lights, other home accessories, belong to them. Ours is the brunt of it though but if we registered for newer stuff then we'd give the older stuff to our two roommates when we move out so they aren't left with nothing.
Anyway, my mom wants to have an engagement party soon and she said that we should register before the party because my aunt definitely wants to get me something for it. I just feel kind of uncomfortable being showered with gifts although I know that the whole reason is to help a new couple start their life together. (And I always love picking out and buying things for cousins and friends when they get married.)
Anyway, we were planning on registering at 3 places. Walmart for people who can't really afford a lot, Meijer's (which is a mid-range store in Michigan similar to Walmart but slightly more expensive), and Bed, Bath, and Beyond for people who would like to splurge more.
My question is, how much should we register for? I don't want to go overboard and make people feel like I'm trying to get a lot out of them. We already picked new themes and color schemes for our rooms but for some reason it seems weird for me to register. I know all the rules about not putting on your invitation and spreading the word through word of mouth if people ask, but I don't want people to think my wedding is a money grab. I know a lot of people don't have the cash to spend on a wedding and I just hope that registering won't make them feel obligated to get a gift.
What do you think? One note... I tend to over think things.