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Complaints/UO/II/Flames/Whathaveyou

edited August 2014 in Not Engaged Yet
Starting this today because I actually have two that I think will spark some controversy

UO#1: People being really upset/crying over a celebrity's death. I thought Robin Williams was awesome and have LOVED many movies he's been in. It's very sad that he had such severe emotional pain that he took his own life. My heart goes out to his family and friends. However, I never met him, my life won't be impacted in ANY WAY by his death. I just cannot understand being severely upset about the death of someone I did not know. Also - I'm a very emotional person in general - it's not like my tears are few and far between.

UO#2: The ALS Ice Bucket Challenge. Maybe, maybe if more FB posts explained that if you're nominated you're supposed to do the challenge and still donate $10 or decline the challenge and donate $100, I'd see it more favorably. Most posts about it don't mention donating money at all. Regardless of that though, I still am not a fan. If I were nominated, I'd probably decline but post a link to page explaining more about ALS - so I'd still be raising awareness. I donate to specific causes that I care about, and occasionally donate when friends/family are trying to raise money for a specific cause that they care about. There are sooo many worthy causes out there - I don't need a Facebook trend to force me into donating towards something I personally don't have any interest in.
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  • justbeingme93justbeingme93 member
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    edited August 2014
    UO: Moving In With A BF or FI

    This is one that was brought up in thread last week. I will not be moving in with my BF before we get engaged or married. I do not agree with it. Once again, that is my personal opinion. I don't judge or "condemn" people who do. 

    II: Sending Rent Check 

    I know it has to be done sooner or later, but I always wait until the last possible moment to send put it in the mail. I. Hate. It. Currently...I have the rent check written, and it is sitting on my desk in the envelope with a stamp on it. I just don't want to send it. 

    Complaint: Long Distance Relationship

    My BF leaves for classes next week. I don't know where this summer went, but I don't want to be so far away from him again. We are pros at this long distance gig, but I always hate this part of the year. 

  • edited August 2014
    Confession#1: I think I'm developing a dependency on coffee. I didn't drink it yesterday morning or this morning (until now) and I had pretty bad headaches and I was extremely tired. I feel much better now but I think I need to try to lay off of it gradually.

    Confession#2: H and I have been discussing when we want to start TTC since we have been married and we both know we want to start sometime next year but we go back n forth between whether to start early next year or later. I don't think it will make a difference but he wants to start later in the year for some reason.

    II: I'm pissed that no one from our CrossFit box came to support our championship softball game last night. I understand it was a late game (8:45) but I would have definitely been out there if I wasn't on the team cheering them on. 

    II: When people hint around how they're really feeling. Like they post stupid status' saying things like, "Can't someone just take a hint" or "Wow that was really rude". It's just annoying and if you're going to be pissed about something then just say it to the person.

    UO: All these parents saying that their child's school supply lists are too much and too expensive. I don't think they realize how much teachers spend on their students with their own money. The teachers don't get extra spending money for classroom supplies. 

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  • Work Complaint: I've set up sooo many stupid meetings today and I can't keep them all straight! When did I become everyone's secretary and scheduling assistant?

    NEY Complaint: The WR threads have gotta stop or at least maybe get a little more low key. This is NEY. This is not have 20 posts every week about your flowers, or your linens, or whatever. I know I'm guilty of this too..and I'm not complaining about engagement AWs, wedding AWs, or e-pic AWs, those are different in my mind (pretty much once in a lifetime after all). But the constant what are your flowers? help with favors? stuff is really getting to me. There are other boards on TK that can help you with all of this and I advise using them. I do it all the time and it's fun, I promise. I really don't feel like the constant barrage of WR stuff lately has done any good for the girls on this board who are not engaged and avoiding trying to become BSC.

    ETA: Also excluding "I found my dress AW" because I know we all love some wedding dress porn.
    This. Thank you. I was about to lose my mind.
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  • @southernpeach89

    You are spot on with people complaining about the long lists for back to school shopping. Teachers wouldn't have to make such a detailed list if they didn't have to. Most teachers spend so much personal money on their classroom materials so their students can have the best education possible. 
  • @southernpeach89 - Now I'm remembering how much I used to LOVE school supply shopping. It felt like choosing the right pencil case/notebooks/textbook covers/etc. could make or break my year!
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  • @Hummingbird125 -I was the same way lol! I used to get Lisa Frank everything lol. I was also very particular about making sure I had everything on my list OR ELSE lol.
  • II: I crushed my hand between a gas cylinder and cylinder cage this morning. Why is that making me black out? Broke my arm years back and I was fine, crush one finger and I'm going "can't see world spinny blacking out."
  • II: BF never helps with the dog, especially at night. I know that the dog was MY dream. He wanted a dog too, but I was able to quicken the process by promising that the dog would be MY problem and I would take care of it and train it, etc. However, Marv had diarrhea last night, and I was up every 1-2 hours to let him out. Couldn't BF have gotten up ONCE to let him out for me? I'm so freakin exhausted.

    Complaint: The fact that this isn't a Not Engaged Yet board. This is a community, I get that. But coming in as an actual NEY person and getting my face chewed off for trying to start a conversation related to being NEY doesn't really fit the profile. I'm glad that I'm getting to know you all, but frankly, I'm with @LaPeanut1018 100%. But please don't stop the ring porn.

    II: I can't see the majority of your personal pictures due to the blocks on my system. I could just check again from home, but the work computer is just so much easier!

  • UO: I'm with @Hummingbird125 about celebrity deaths. I think it's very sad and very unfortunate that Robin Williams took his own life, and I'll probably think of that when I watch his movies in the future, but I don't understand how others get so emotional and upset about it.

    II: I was my FI's lawyer to review the paperwork we got NOW. Do it now. I go on vacation next week and want to know if we can buy this house or not. CALL US NOW!

    II: The office receptionist is driving me fucking insane. She keeps getting up and coming to chat with me about absolute nonsense when I'm trying to get my shit done. If I want to take a break or talk about nonsense I come on here. I don't want to listen to her random-ass chatter about only watching the history and Christian tv stations, or how she wants to find a "real manly man" (she's talking about an actual honest to God lumberjack), or recaps of phone conversations. I don't care. Go away.

    Complaint: My keyboard keys are sticking and we STILL have none of that compressed air stuff in the office. I'm getting annoyed.

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  • Confession: I love the wedding related threads. I don't feel like they make me BSC and it would make me sad if the regs who are getting married when to other boards with their questions and AWing. I love them and I want to hear all about anything they want to share. 

    UO: I wasn't a huge fan of Robin Williams. I think it's really sad that he died and it's horrible that he was in a place where he felt it necessary to take his own life but I was never a big fan of his work.


  • @cu97tiger @BriSox81 I guess I feel like the difference is there have been multiple posts lately from multiple people, and I can also call myself out here, on basically the same stuff over and over again. I love sharing my WR stuff, probably too much, and I do it mostly on this board too...but I do try to keep it to within an updates thread because I feel like it's more fair to the other people here. They can scroll past me or not respond without feeling left out of an entire thread. This is my UO for the day apparently. ;)



  • Apparently an UO: I love all of the WR threads. I loved them before I was engaged, while I was planning my wedding, and I still love them now that I'm married. I would be sad if the women who have been here throughout different times in their relationship and life didn't feel comfortable anymore and stopped posting about their weddings. 

    Also apparently an UO: I absolutely loved Robin Williams and I've cried twice since finding out that he died. 

    @EisleyJoGo - I genuinely like a lot of the new posters and I think they add so much to this group and would hate to see them go but if you don't like what this board is about -- especially the fact that we're not anonymous and that we interact offline -- then maybe this isn't the place for you. The majority of the women here started posting on this board when they were NEY. Some of them were BSC and got called out on it. I don't hear any of them complaining. 



  • Swazzle said:
    Apparently an UO: I love all of the WR threads. I loved them before I was engaged, while I was planning my wedding, and I still love them now that I'm married. I would be sad if the women who have been here throughout different times in their relationship and life didn't feel comfortable anymore and stopped posting about their weddings. 

    Also apparently an UO: I absolutely loved Robin Williams and I've cried twice since finding out that he died. 

    @EisleyJoGo - I genuinely like a lot of the new posters and I think they add so much to this group and would hate to see them go but if you don't like what this board is about -- especially the fact that we're not anonymous and that we interact offline -- then maybe this isn't the place for you. The majority of the women here started posting on this board when they were NEY. Some of them were BSC and got called out on it. I don't hear any of them complaining. 

    This thread has "Complaints" in the title. I thought that was what this was for. Just wanted to say my piece like everyone else.

  • @EisleyJoGo - I'm not sure what you're referring to in regards to starting a post about being NEY and getting your face chewed off about it. A lot of us have been called out for being BSC at some point and we've also had plenty of threads where we vent about the frustration of being NEY but if it's in non-BSC way then the women here are always supportive and willing to let you vent or discuss whatever issue you are having.


  • Confession:

    I am so bored today. I wouldn't mind if a crazy slipped onto this board. I need something to gawk at. 
  • @EisleyJoGo, You do realize that if everyone who posted on this board left the moment they got engaged, you'd be asking for advice from a bunch of others who weren't engaged, had no experiences to offer, or had any idea what "the other side" was like, right? 

    Also, if the goal is for people to get to know each other and support one another, how would that work if the board was a revolving door of posters who left the second they got engaged?
  • @bethsmiles - My very first post, not knowing anything about this board, ended with a question asking when y'all thought my BF would propose to me, considering the circumstances. To which everyone responded "NEVER".

    That's not calling me out on my BSC. That's being rude to someone who obviously didn't know what they stumbled into. I get it now. I was just re-iterating that it's not fair to be rude to a newb because the name of this board obviously represents something other than the kind of community this is.

  • UO I love the wedding related posts honestly.

    UO: The ice bucket challenge- not fond of doing things just to "raise awareness" if there is volunteering or donations involved I am all for it.

    Confession- I wanted my dishwasher connected- H get your plumber friend over to the house please

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  • @EisleyJoGo, You do realize that if everyone who posted on this board left the moment they got engaged, you'd be asking for advice from a bunch of others who weren't engaged, had no experiences to offer, or had any idea what "the other side" was like, right? 

    Also, if the goal is for people to get to know each other and support one another, how would that work if the board was a revolving door of posters who left the second they got engaged?
    I LOVE what this is. I'm trying to be a part of this. I'm sorry I said anything, but if I can't let it out in the "confessions" post then when can I? I love you gals. I'm sorry. :(
  • justbeingme93justbeingme93 member
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    edited August 2014
    I really want to chime in on this WR and BSC conversation, but I get scared and back away like...
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  • Swazzle said:
    Apparently an UO: I love all of the WR threads. I loved them before I was engaged, while I was planning my wedding, and I still love them now that I'm married. I would be sad if the women who have been here throughout different times in their relationship and life didn't feel comfortable anymore and stopped posting about their weddings. 

    Also apparently an UO: I absolutely loved Robin Williams and I've cried twice since finding out that he died. 

    @EisleyJoGo - I genuinely like a lot of the new posters and I think they add so much to this group and would hate to see them go but if you don't like what this board is about -- especially the fact that we're not anonymous and that we interact offline -- then maybe this isn't the place for you. The majority of the women here started posting on this board when they were NEY. Some of them were BSC and got called out on it. I don't hear any of them complaining. 

    This thread has "Complaints" in the title. I thought that was what this was for. Just wanted to say my piece like everyone else.

    So does that mean we can't respond to what you've said?

    Honestly, I feel like all you do is complain about this board.



  • Confession 1: I have a HUGE confession that might warrant a new thread... more on that to come.

    Confession 2/UO: I also cried (once) after hearing about Robin Williams. This is the first celebrity that hit me hard. Maybe it was because he was a comedian and was famous for being funny and having a great personality and was actually really hurting so much inside. It was also after seeing the tweet with the Genie saying "You're free" and I'm a Disney freak. I'm not sure but whatever it was it hit me.

    Complaint: Recently I have been annoyed by the WR threads. Don't get me wrong, I love that everyone here that is engaged is sharing these things and I'm happy to be a part of it, but it was overkill at one point. I could also be biased because I was here long ago where we talked about many different things and the majority of us were not engaged so we couldn't talk about that stuff. So I might just be annoyed that the dynamics are changing and not that it is WR stuff. I'm not sure but I know I will be AWing the shit out of things so there's that.. This is like half a complaint. 
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  • Confession:  I have a fuck ton of things to do at work today, and I'm being decidedly unproductive because I'm waiting to hear back from DH about the potential new job.


  • Swazzle said:
    Swazzle said:
    Apparently an UO: I love all of the WR threads. I loved them before I was engaged, while I was planning my wedding, and I still love them now that I'm married. I would be sad if the women who have been here throughout different times in their relationship and life didn't feel comfortable anymore and stopped posting about their weddings. 

    Also apparently an UO: I absolutely loved Robin Williams and I've cried twice since finding out that he died. 

    @EisleyJoGo - I genuinely like a lot of the new posters and I think they add so much to this group and would hate to see them go but if you don't like what this board is about -- especially the fact that we're not anonymous and that we interact offline -- then maybe this isn't the place for you. The majority of the women here started posting on this board when they were NEY. Some of them were BSC and got called out on it. I don't hear any of them complaining. 

    This thread has "Complaints" in the title. I thought that was what this was for. Just wanted to say my piece like everyone else.

    So does that mean we can't respond to what you've said?

    Honestly, I feel like all you do is complain about this board.

    ALL I DO? Really............ Since there was that very first day. And then there is this one thing.

    So yea, that's all I do. Obviously you're paying great attention.

  • @loves2shop4shoes

    I feel the same way. I have so much to finish up at my summer job before I go back to school, but I just don't feel like doing anything today. 
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