So my fiance and I are paying for our own wedding. To save money we have decided not to get dance lessons for our first dance. Just today I found out my future mother in law purchased dance lessons for my fiance and her. Literally the classes start at 4pm tonight. Not only is she getting them a few sessions of dance classes but she has also decided that she does not want the typicall mother-son dance and instead would like to shag to an upbeat song. I feel awkward that she would buy them dance classes knowing we are not getting them for ourselves. I also feel like we have to go buy dance classes for our dance now so we are not shown up by their dance. Is it inappropriate to tell her how uncomfortable this makes me feel? I feel like she should have at least asked us before hand. Also this is not the first time she has does something like this. We had an issue before when we decided to make our own centerpieces and do all the flowers and she wanted to hire a professional florist to do fancy centerpiece for the rehearsal dinner she was throwing. I know she probably does not have bad intentions but I feel like she is constantly trying to show me up. HELP.